Originally Posted by cc.cookie:
“You know in e8 while LG is packing and DM comes up and says "Louisa..." she looks up hopefully and says "Yes..." expecting him to say something (don't go etc etc).
But he says "What time does your plane leave."
Then she sighs.
This has happened before in s5 when she came to the door to ask DM to mind JH so she could go to Bert's restaurant. LG still expects something more than DM is prepared or knows how to give. Everyone seems to be on DM's side but I can see how difficult it is for LG and why she wants to leave. She's never going to be able to change him but she just can't live with it.”
the thing that confuses me about whether she was waiting for him to ask her to stay, is that while she does look like she's waiting for something, there is the scene when she is in the taxi and he calls her and tells her not to get on the airplane, and she hangs up on him saying, :"we've been through all that." So it seems like they must have had at least one conversation where he's asked her not to go.
SHE is never going to be able to change HIM, but HE can make some changes in himself, and how he behaves, if he wants to. But, she has to decide what she really needs from him, bottom line, and what she can tolerate,and/or adjust to, and actually spell it out for him, in some direct, logical fashion that he can understand. Because hinting, and subtlety and just hoping that he can somehow figure things out because he loves her enough to read her mind -- not going to happen.
I actually think she was pretty much fine with the way he was, but when he "shut down" and "shut her out" although in obvious distress, that was something she hadn't expected or bargained for. I do think she began to believe that he was unhappy in their marriage and questioned his feelings for her. Also, his inability to confide in her, or share anything about what was going on, must have been pretty disturbing in itself -- as that sad and disappointed comment "but I'm your wife" was meant to show, I think.