Originally Posted by superseasquirt:
“Lovely to hear that your husband is doing well and, as you say, it's heartbreaking to hear about Stephen. I don't know how anyone comes to terms with that.”
It might sound strange, but when he was diagnosed, my view was that the pair of us had a life behind us, which was more than most. I would have held the same view if it had been me who was diagnosed, all I asked for was the strength to handle whatever came. My husband had never had to face his mortality, where I have made a living out of losing my nine lives and then repeating the process. It gives you a different outlook on life.
At the same time as the 2nd operation, my cousin was coming home on his motorbike and owing to a RTA died a mile from his house, leaving a wife and two young children. If you had asked in the March which one would still be alive in three months time, it would have been my cousin? The thought of two young children being left without a parent seemed worse than an adult, whose children are adults and we all had a life time of memories and achievements (sounds callous and not meant to be). Or the thought of having to watch your child go through it all, I assume that would be so much worse. That young lad was such an inspiration and his parents must be so proud of him, which will always be with them.
It took my husband a couple of years to come to terms with everything and cancer or a terminal/chronic illness either makes or breaks a marriage, depending how strong it is to begin with. He suppressed so much they were not expecting him to live long enough to finish the course of radiotherapy (3 times a day over 12 days) and a month later he was back at work part-time, pretending nothing had happened.
It was getting involved with Cancer Research and seeing the positivity of the young children that had come through cancer, that was a major part of his mental recovery, together with the CHART radiotherapy, courtesy of Cancer Research. Sorry, nothing to do with Matt, but he does so much to support the charity and it does make a difference, in so many ways.