Is Luisa a misandrist?

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Daemon666

12-01-2014

Originally Posted by lombard:
“Interesting that you single out women and not both sexes.

To answer your question, it's acceptable since around the time that people won their civil rights, which allow them to have consensual sex with whomever and however many people they like. If peculiar moral guardians want to call those people names, they're also free to do so, but they can expect to be called names back.”

I referred to women because the phrase was used to describe a woman. For no other reason.

And you didn't answer my question. I didn't ask since when it was acceptable to sleep around. I asked about why it needed a better name than 'sleeping around' if it is so virtuous? My question is about language and the palatability of certain phrases indicating underlying hypocrisy. Not about whether or not we agree that sleeping around is a good thing to do. Personally, I don't think there is an answer to that question. It is a matter of personal opinion.

etamine

12-01-2014

Originally Posted by Sugar Ape:
“But what we know wouldn't support your view. We know that Lusia has sought therapy for sex addiction. A person who is simply doing what makes them happy wouldn't feel the need to seek help.

And I said it "implies", when citing Lusia as an example of a "sexually confident woman" (a number of times I've read that on this forum) that the opposite of someone with Luisa's lifestyle would be on the other end of the spectrum of confidence.

An implication.. and obviously one that is false and I felt needed stating.”

Sex addiction isn't about "oh god I think I'm a bit of a slag and I think people are thinking badly of me" - it's where she requires sex to the point that it's impacting what she wants to do in other areas of her life.

Having sex with multiple partners makes her happy, her doing that isn't a problem. However if she's feeling compelled to do it every night and skipping work and commitments and breaking down meaningful friendships to go have sex instead, that's where the problem is and that's what she's most likely trying to resolve.

Sexual confidence doesn't correlate with kinkiness, some people I know who've done things in bed that are bloody mental are the least sexually confident people I know - because they didn't want to do it, didn't say no to the people they were involved with.

Sugar Ape

12-01-2014

Originally Posted by etamine:
“Sex addiction isn't about "oh god I think I'm a bit of a slag and I think people are thinking badly of me" - it's where she requires sex to the point that it's impacting what she wants to do in other areas of her life.

Having sex with multiple partners makes her happy, her doing that isn't a problem. However if she's feeling compelled to do it every night and skipping work and commitments and breaking down meaningful friendships to go have sex instead, that's where the problem is and that's what she's most likely trying to resolve.

Sexual confidence doesn't correlate with kinkiness, some people I know who've done things in bed that are bloody mental are the least sexually confident people I know - because they didn't want to do it, didn't say no to the people they were involved with.”

I would say that sex addiction (like any addiction) is about having a compulsion that you feel unable to control.

In Luisa's case I'm assuming having multiple partners forms part of that addiction, rather than lots of sex with one partner.

I fail to see how we can then, assuming that is correct, separate the promiscuity from the problem.. thus how can we say that having multiple partners makes her happy.

But as stated, I'm only assuming that, it's entirely possible her sex addiction was manifest within a monogamous relationship.. but I'm guessing it wasn't.

mickmars

12-01-2014

Originally Posted by Sugar Ape:
“I would say that sex addiction (like any addiction) is about having a compulsion that you feel unable to control.

In Luisa's case I'm assuming having multiple partners forms part of that addiction, rather than lots of sex with one partner.

I fail to see how we can then, assuming that is correct, separate the promiscuity from the problem.. thus how can we say that having multiple partners makes her happy.

But as stated, I'm only assuming that, it's entirely possible her sex addiction was manifest within a monogamous relationship.. but I'm guessing it wasn't.”

Sex addiction - haha - another modern made up illness for slags,players and unfaithful partners to avoid any personal responsibility and avoid any consequences of their actions !

Menk

12-01-2014

Luisa has very limited experience of men. To get to her age and never to have encountered this attitude from men(or women)is astonishing, as it is very common.

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