Originally Posted by HonestLee:
“OP I wrote this the other day, maybe some of it addresses where you're coming from..
Theory on Linda
Purely conjecture..
but..
I think for Linda Jim is symbolic of her and her familys tough times and although he has done things personally to her in the past I think it's more what she feels he represents than the actual 'doing' on his part
Ok so what DO WE KNOW about their past?
1. Jim was a mate of Frank Carson and would've been quite present and probably vocal through the shame and probable ostracisation of Lindas Husband due to the much talked about court case and resulting prosecution
2. Jim - pissed up - once jibed The Nolans from the wings of some stage (I take it by '16 year old sister she meant Colleen who around that age joined her Sisters in the group)
Where was Jim when she was 'standing by her man' on what probably felt like a sinking ship?
He was going from strength to strength, Generation Game - Big Break - prime-time weekend tv slots
What were 'The Nolans' going through at this time?
They were a joke in the industry(sorry Nolan fans) but they came in with a Disco anthem just as Disco breathed its last breath under the foot of the harder-edged New Wave, one of The Skids was alleged to have spat on their Dressing Room door at Top Of The Pops (vehemently denied later by band member Richard Jobson) but it was what they represented at 'that time' that was at odds with the cultural shift more than them as individuals - even if rumours are correct that Linda was a bit of a pain in the arse in the trade too
But being essentially just eye-candy bubblegum Pop their time in the sun was brief and their fall from the 'heights of success' would I'm sure have been both painful and humiliating especially with the 'new' baying for 'their brand of entertainments' blood
I think Linda puts it all on Jim
When you feel 'wronged' the thought of anyone who you don't feel deserves their breaks is amplified
Jim by his own admission was a drinker and an arsehole back then, to see him doing so well would've annoyed her I'm sure, especially with his attachment to her hubbys history
Talking of her Hubby.. it's just common sense that Jim would've featured plenty in those late pillow 'pep-up' talks between he and Linda, I'm sure there were a million bonding 'I know you're not a thief's and 'f*** Jim Davidson's between them
Maybe he carried that to the grave and she can't undo it for fear of failing him?
Maybe she knows deep down it's daft but has to keep up it out of loyalty?
Maybe letting it go is too hard for her as to her it might feel like letting go of yet another part of him and the things that 'were' in their world? death is difficult
Jim had a bad rep
SHE had a bad rep too
They should both know better than to operate from rumour so if it's merely the FC dressing room thing + the pissed up jibing + the rep then surely there's room for reconciliation, I'm sure if she'd have taken 1 step to Jim he'd have taken 2 towards her, he's almost made a living out of being judged so I'm sure her digs only dumped her - for him - in a big room with a 'lot' of people and pulled the side of him out that any of us would want to keep locked giving weight to her narrative of him
Just the way she did the whole 'Don't try to be a friend' thing with Jim sounded to me like 'you'll not take the hate away, you'll not take THAT too'
So basically that's my theory, I think she sees him as the embodiment of her darkest times, the fact she didn't feel convicted enough to lay her cards on the table and tell him straight tells me she knows that her gripes of 'him specifically wouldn't carry enough weight to warrant her disdain of him
I wish her well though, she's been through an awful lot and I'm sure Jim would wholeheartedly say the same, we've all done/said something regrettable when p'd up, he's held his hands up and I hope she can too”
Thanks for that. I love the fact that you've taken the time to respond in depth.
As Judge Judy says (


) if it looks like a dog and smells like a dog it's a dog. Perhaps I am looking for something that just isn't there, maybe it is a simple as you say. I can see how it would be that by hanging onto that grudge she is still connecting and staying loyal to her husband.
And yet....
It feels to me like there is something that she isn't saying, and that by NOT saying it she hangs onto a measure of control over Jim. I think Jim has an idea what it is but why would he offer himself up, he has enough critics as it is and after his last year probably wants to let everything lie unless it leaps out and bites him.
By mentioning that she's not going to talk about it she just tries to whip him into submission and get him to explode so that she can say I told you so. She also by doing this gets people to imagine much worse things of Jim. This is the bit that hasn't worked and she could be very disappointed by this.
As you can see from my opening post, I would rather she just spits it out and then at least Jim can deal with any flack or defend himself. But is that what Linda wants? I think not.