He means how many people do have you ever date at once.
Keep up.
The word has two meanings, not including the dried fruit which I assumed was inappropriate in this context. What did the op mean? The question has three interpretations.
(1) How many people have you gone on a date with at the same time? Double date, chaperones.etc
(2) How many people have you had dates with before committing.
I think it's a very frugal way of asking two questions at the same time and using as few words as possible:
1) How many people do you date at the same time (present tense)
2) How many people have you dated at the same time (past tense)
Well done OP – I for one at least applaud you. Far too often posters waffle on and on, preferring the sound of their own voice rather than typing out a concise post like yours.
The word has two meanings, not including the dried fruit which I assumed was inappropriate in this context. What did the op mean? The question has three interpretations.
(1) How many people have you gone on a date with at the same time? Double date, chaperones.etc
(2) How many people have you had dates with before committing.
(3)How much of a two timing cheater are you.
There is dating and being in a relationship surely they're two different things ? Dating people can mean meeting up for the odd meal, drink and obviously it could mean a physical relationship whilst clearly keeping in touch all on a casual basis but that doesn't mean you are in a committed relationship . it is possible for people to be honest and not want a committed relationship ? Doesn't mean they are two timing cheats, love rats or 'sluts' or whatever does it ?
Had to reply to this thread as it's something that bugs me!
I would only date 1 at a time. From my point of view, if you are both 'dating' because you're aim is to be in a relationship, then dating other people is a bit insulting. I wouldn't feel like I was giving that 'relationship' any chance because my attention would be divided around.
I'd also think that if I was happy to be dating several people at the same time, that I couldn't be that keen on any of them or else I'd only be dating the 1 that I had a real spark and chemistry with.
Finally, if that other person didn't know, then it's very unfair on them. They may assume you are only dating each other and could be growing more and more attached to you.
Honesty is the key and if you can't be honest with them, then there's a reason.
There is dating and being in a relationship surely they're two different things ? Dating people can mean meeting up for the odd meal, drink and obviously it could mean a physical relationship whilst clearly keeping in touch all on a casual basis but that doesn't mean you are in a committed relationship . it is possible for people to be honest and not want a committed relationship ? Doesn't mean they are two timing cheats, love rats or 'sluts' or whatever does it ?
That was my point. The op has conflated the different categories of dating. It's OK to date several people at once if nobody is committed and you are just funding out if you let on with someone but cheating with the other kind.
1 . To do otherwise IMO would be dishonest . Had a girl on my Facebook once who put as her status "hmm which guy shall I go on a date with tonight " and she actually named them , silly girl I hope they both read her status and chucked her.
I would only date 1 at a time. From my point of view, if you are both 'dating' because you're aim is to be in a relationship, then dating other people is a bit insulting.
How would you know you suit and want to be in a relationship without going on a few dates? In my view a relationship comes after dating.
What your saying is like saying you would only interview one candidate for a job as to look around would be insulting. The point of doing lots of interviews is to see what kind if candidates are out there and which you think would be best.
Many when I was younger, sometimes 5 or 6 at a time (though I never 'put myself about' sexually). I would always tell them that I was seeing others so there was never any deceit involved. I liked different men for different moods - intellectual ones for educational chats, wild ones for bike rides and camping in the woods, fun ones that provided non stop laughter, deep poetry loving introspective types that would play mind games with me...there was always so many men yet so little time - I wanted to sample them all
1 . To do otherwise IMO would be dishonest . Had a girl on my Facebook once who put as her status "hmm which guy shall I go on a date with tonight " and she actually named them , silly girl I hope they both read her status and chucked her.
How's she being dishonest if she is open enough about her dating to post it on Facebook?. What makes you think she isn't dating people who don't see dating in the same manner as her. After all part of the point of traditional dating is to find out if people are like minded and compatible. How they see dating and relationships is part of that.
How's she being dishonest if she is open enough about her dating to post it on Facebook?. What makes you think she isn't dating people who don't see dating in the same manner as her. After all part of the point of traditional dating is to find out if people are like minded and compatible. How they see dating and relationships is part of that.
Maybe but the way she wrote it was quite show - offy .
How would you know you suit and want to be in a relationship without going on a few dates? In my view a relationship comes after dating.
What your saying is like saying you would only interview one candidate for a job as to look around would be insulting. The point of doing lots of interviews is to see what kind if candidates are out there and which you think would be best.
I didn't mean I'd only go on one date with someone and then decide after 1 night out. I meant that I'd only go on dates with one person at a time. Basically, see where things go with one person rather then confusing matters by dating several people at the same time (that's providing you are fortunate to be in demand as to even have that option!)
Sometimes you know after 1 date if anything is there between you and you can move on. If you have a great date with someone and want to see them again, then I'd much rather be focused on that excitement and person.
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He means how many people do have you ever date at once.
Keep up.
(1) How many people have you gone on a date with at the same time? Double date, chaperones.etc
(2) How many people have you had dates with before committing.
(3)How much of a two timing cheater are you.
1) How many people do you date at the same time (present tense)
2) How many people have you dated at the same time (past tense)
Well done OP – I for one at least applaud you. Far too often posters waffle on and on, preferring the sound of their own voice rather than typing out a concise post like yours.
In response to your question(s) - onenine
Have 2 ongoing at the mo.
I'd always have two or sometimes three girlfriends at once.
I suppose I was afraid of being alone, and afraid of being dumped/rejected. It doesn't hurt when you have another woman anyway.
Thankfully I grew out of it. What a complete bastard I was tbh.
There is dating and being in a relationship surely they're two different things ? Dating people can mean meeting up for the odd meal, drink and obviously it could mean a physical relationship whilst clearly keeping in touch all on a casual basis but that doesn't mean you are in a committed relationship . it is possible for people to be honest and not want a committed relationship ? Doesn't mean they are two timing cheats, love rats or 'sluts' or whatever does it ?
yeah.. "if I'm having relations" it would only ever be 1 but happy to platonic-ally kick about with loads.
I would only date 1 at a time. From my point of view, if you are both 'dating' because you're aim is to be in a relationship, then dating other people is a bit insulting. I wouldn't feel like I was giving that 'relationship' any chance because my attention would be divided around.
I'd also think that if I was happy to be dating several people at the same time, that I couldn't be that keen on any of them or else I'd only be dating the 1 that I had a real spark and chemistry with.
Finally, if that other person didn't know, then it's very unfair on them. They may assume you are only dating each other and could be growing more and more attached to you.
Honesty is the key and if you can't be honest with them, then there's a reason.
What are they asking?
How would you know you suit and want to be in a relationship without going on a few dates? In my view a relationship comes after dating.
What your saying is like saying you would only interview one candidate for a job as to look around would be insulting. The point of doing lots of interviews is to see what kind if candidates are out there and which you think would be best.
How's she being dishonest if she is open enough about her dating to post it on Facebook?. What makes you think she isn't dating people who don't see dating in the same manner as her. After all part of the point of traditional dating is to find out if people are like minded and compatible. How they see dating and relationships is part of that.
I didn't mean I'd only go on one date with someone and then decide after 1 night out. I meant that I'd only go on dates with one person at a time. Basically, see where things go with one person rather then confusing matters by dating several people at the same time (that's providing you are fortunate to be in demand as to even have that option!)
Sometimes you know after 1 date if anything is there between you and you can move on. If you have a great date with someone and want to see them again, then I'd much rather be focused on that excitement and person.