Originally Posted by Dr K Noisewater:
“Back when Kathy was married to Phil he was a much nicer person and occasionally in the right hence Kathy siding with him over Ian. Now however Phil is nothing but a vile bully who torments a mentally fragile man for nothing but his own amusement. Sharon is an awful friend to Ian for allowing it and not reprimanding Phil. If Kathy were still alive there's no way she would stand for it.”
“Back when Kathy was married to Phil he was a much nicer person and occasionally in the right hence Kathy siding with him over Ian. Now however Phil is nothing but a vile bully who torments a mentally fragile man for nothing but his own amusement. Sharon is an awful friend to Ian for allowing it and not reprimanding Phil. If Kathy were still alive there's no way she would stand for it.”
I disagree he changed when he became an alcoholic that was Phil at his worst and that was while he was married to Kathy. He was even being physically abusive far worse than now. When was the last time Phil assaulted Ian it was a rather long time ago. He does bully him but to suggest he didn't when he was married to Kathy is simply untrue. Hell on the double date long before the marriage he was assaulting him shoving his head down the loo. Phil treated Kathy far worse than he has Sharon. He attacked her, bullied her and cheated on her. So much nicer person before the alcoholism but not while he was married to Kathy.
And Kathy did take Phil's side over Ian who is her son many times.



