Originally Posted by MrsCloumbo:
“OK Your experience should be everybodies should it? And people on here are just plain nasty? And people on here don't and won't understand because they haven't had your experience?
So Many of you on the forum of late, so bloody tired of it.
I wish you well in life, I wish you healed.
Now can we carry on chatting about fictional characters on a soap please.”
Ummm...I never said anything like that. I WAS talking about the fictional characters on a soap. I said
a) None of the characters in Eastenders are THAT promiscuous, numbers-wise. Mainly because for the most part they have to find their partners among a fairly limited pool of cast members.
b) Of the three being discussed, all were young and none had been married or had children, so shouldn't be judged so very harshly for sleeping around or cheating. Lauren slept with a married man but she wasn't the one who was attached and therefore did the cheating, and she was still only a teenager at the time, and a recovering alcoholic with a terrible home life to boot. Whitney did cheat, but although she was engaged to Tyler it was an ill-advised engagement she entered into as a damaged and confused teenager. Lucy got around a bit but I don't remember her ever being in a very serious relationship, so she could sleep with whoever she wanted. None of these scenarios make them morally equivalent to Max, Den or Kat, who betrayed long-term spouses they had been with for many years and with whom they had children who were affected by their infidelities.
And thank you but I have no need to heal. I sleep around because I enjoy doing so when I am single and am not currently at a point in my life where I want to make any commitments. Not everyone who sleeps around is damaged and needs 'healing.' Most just enjoy sex and don't want to be tied down.
I never said everyone should have my experience, or that no one else could understand. I simply said that people were making nasty comments about characters who are more sexually liberated, and when those characters are female the criticisms are often misogynistic. I know we are talking about fictional characters, but if people made racist or homophobic comments about characters, I would assume that those reflected their real-life attitudes, so why should this be any different. I hate seeing women referred to as slags, sluts and whores and in the case of these three characters I don't even understand where it comes from. And yes, I understand that characters such as Max and Jack also get a lot of stick for their promiscuity, but their behaviour is far worse and the language used about them does not tend to be as derogatory or vicious.