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The difference between a romance and a showmance...
...is being demonstrated by Steven and Christopher.
Showmancing is all about 'me'. It thrives on drama and power struggle. Romancing is about caring how the other feels. It thrives on sensitivity and appreciation. In a showmance, the other person is an object, a trophy. In a romance, the other person is an 'other' with feelings. In a showmance, one person is only interested in asking questions of the other when the outcome affects THEM. In a romance, one person asks another questions because they are genuinely interested in the other person. Showmancing rushes in. Romancing takes it slow. I am glad that this difference is being so clearly demonstrated. Gives me hope! |
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Absolutely OP. Mark and Christopher are natural. They actually look like thy enjoy each other's company. They flirt. They SMILE.
Contrast that with the bullsh*t that Steven and Kimberly have half-baked up. Jeez, there's no comparison. I believe that Steven wants Kimberly as a trophy. And Kimberly USED to want Steven as a meal ticket, but now he's revealing himself to be such a nauseating, petulant, self pitying baby that she is starting to think he isn't even worth it. |
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A showmance is a romance that is on a TV show.
That's all. |
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Absolutely OP. Mark and Christopher are natural. They actually look like thy enjoy each other's company. They flirt. They SMILE.
Contrast that with the bullsh*t that Steven and Kimberly have half-baked up. Jeez, there's no comparison. I believe that Steven wants Kimberly as a trophy. And Kimberly USED to want Steven as a meal ticket, but now he's revealing himself to be such a nauseating, petulant, self pitying baby that she is starting to think he isn't even worth it. |
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Great post OP.
I think you've got it in a nutshell. Most of the couplings on BB which have stood the test of time appear to have been slow burners, and also very awkward and clumsy. Just like real life.
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A showmance is a romance that is on a TV show.
That's all. |
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Absolutely OP. Mark and Christopher are natural. They actually look like thy enjoy each other's company. They flirt. They SMILE.
Contrast that with the bullsh*t that Steven and Kimberly have half-baked up. Jeez, there's no comparison. I believe that Steven wants Kimberly as a trophy. And Kimberly USED to want Steven as a meal ticket, but now he's revealing himself to be such a nauseating, petulant, self pitying baby that she is starting to think he isn't even worth it. nothing genuine there. And Steve and Kim are not 'in love' there isn't even a friendship...false false false ...imo
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Great post OP.
I think you've got it in a nutshell. Most of the couplings on BB which have stood the test of time appear to have been slow burners, and also very awkward and clumsy. Just like real life. ![]() |
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...is being demonstrated by Steven and Christopher.
Showmancing is all about 'me'. It thrives on drama and power struggle. Romancing is about caring how the other feels. It thrives on sensitivity and appreciation. In a showmance, the other person is an object, a trophy. In a romance, the other person is an 'other' with feelings. In a showmance, one person is only interested in asking questions of the other when the outcome affects THEM. In a romance, one person asks another questions because they are genuinely interested in the other person. Showmancing rushes in. Romancing takes it slow. I am glad that this difference is being so clearly demonstrated. Gives me hope! |
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Mark and Christopher as an example
nothing genuine there. And Steve and Kim are not 'in love' there isn't even a friendship...false false false ...imo
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You could still see the show-mance as a real relationship that's dysfunctional. Especially if that viewer doesn't understand the concept of "the game"
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Showmancing is all about 'me'. It thrives on drama and power struggle. I agree a show-mance does that, but so does a genuine relationship which is dysfunctional, for example - Stee could be genuinely trying to control Kim because that is his nature as a person (scary bf). On the other hand he could just be "playing a game" (acting to create drama for our entertainment) perhaps the scaryness is the residual effect of trying to act a certain way.Romancing is about caring how the other feels. It thrives on sensitivity and appreciation. How does one tell the difference? I know it's possible because you have imo correctly identified it as a show-mance as opposed to anything scarily real but the option is their to see it either way. |
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Sometimes it is hard to tell. Like I thought for sure Aaron was using Faye for a showmance and yet they dated/moved in together (i don't know if they are still together) when they came out.
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What i don't understand is when you go on Big Brother and you like someone why does it have to be for mag deals etc people IMO can fall in love on reality TV but get so much abuse i don't understand.
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Sometimes it is hard to tell. Like I thought for sure Aaron was using Faye for a showmance and yet they dated/moved in together (i don't know if they are still together) when they came out.
I did underestimate his true feelings for Faye though. |
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Good opening post. Despite what Luke said tonight on BBBOTS, and I take his point about Mark being desperate for fame, I do think that the relationship between Mark and Christopher seems genuine. They seem like an old married couple and there does seem to be real affection. I also see chemistry between Helen and Ash. But the thing with Kim and Steven has zero chemistry, it is cold and creepy.
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I agree a show-mance does that, but so does a genuine relationship which is dysfunctional, for example - Stee could be genuinely trying to control Kim because that is his nature as a person (scary bf). On the other hand he could just be "playing a game" (acting to create drama for our entertainment) perhaps the scaryness is the residual effect of trying to act a certain way.
How does one tell the difference? I know it's possible because you have imo correctly identified it as a show-mance as opposed to anything scarily real but the option is their to see it either way. |
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Good opening post. Despite what Luke said tonight on BBBOTS, and I take his point about Mark being desperate for fame, I do think that the relationship between Mark and Christopher seems genuine. They seem like an old married couple and there does seem to be real affection. I also see chemistry between Helen and Ash. But the thing with Kim and Steven has zero chemistry, it is cold and creepy.
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A romance to me, was Paul and Helen.......you could see they were attracted to each other.......it slowly built up and you could see how much they wanted to be with each other.........so much so that it lasted for a good time after they left.........not done just for the camera and mag deals and stories.......
I keep changing my mind on the Steven/Kim thing......think he does care about her, but sure it is not reciprocated....... |
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Trouble is viewers generally don't have a very good record in telling the difference. They're far too influenced by whether or not they like the protagonists.
My default position is to give the benefit of the doubt. |
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A romance is two people genuinely falling for each other - example is Helen and Paul
A showmance is people who may be attracted to each other but rush into things for screen time A fauxmance is two people who wouldn't touch each other with a bargepole off camera but get together just to get camera time and lie back and think of the magazine deals |
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A romance is two people genuinely falling for each other - example is Helen and Paul
A showmance is people who may be attracted to each other but rush into things for screen time A fauxmance is two people who wouldn't touch each other with a bargepole off camera but get together just to get camera time and lie back and think of the magazine deals
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A romance is two people genuinely falling for each other - example is Helen and Paul
A showmance is people who may be attracted to each other but rush into things for screen time A fauxmance is two people who wouldn't touch each other with a bargepole off camera but get together just to get camera time and lie back and think of the magazine deals
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Wow alot of experts on here lmao.
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Showmance - Pretend relationship just for show
Fauxmance - Pretend relationship for other reasons - perhaps getting a passport? Blowmance - Sex acts based relationship Woemance - A sad relationship where nother ever seems to go well Homance - Returning to the same prostitute regularly Nomance - Not currently in a relationship Slowmance - A relationship that builds slowly over time, often starting out as a friendship Flowmance - A very natural relationship that comes almost without noticing Growmance - A love the gets deeper all the time |
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nothing genuine there. And Steve and Kim are not 'in love' there isn't even a friendship...false false false ...imo
