[quote=SpiritedAway;73866379]No, dear. I ignored your point because it was baseless. You're restating the same things without supplying examples. Fair enough, but that's just your interpretation, not gospel. And blanket statements like, "He has shown self respect" and "He is resilient" certainly aren't convincing enough to sway my mind. Btw, I think I'm sufficiently learned in human nature. But thanks for the lesson anyhow. 
I've given examples of his reactions (like crying to Pauline and stating himself that he can't cope with being isolated [they weren't arguing with him then, they were merely ignoring him]) IMO exceeding how your average well-adjusted person with the human need for acceptance would handle it. The original question posed asked why Christopher is being treated shoddily; my original answer was because he allows it. I arrived to that conclusion based on the behavior and examples I've since detailed. I think Christopher is a genuinely nice guy, but he tries. too. hard. Just like he has been trying for years to get in a relationship. Speaking from personal experience, his attitude is a bit of a turnoff and I can identify with the housemates on those grounds which is why I replied in the first place.
You're right that I made sweeping statements without backing them up so If I may I'll do that now. He's shown he has self respect when he has stood up to Helen after she threw her hissy fit after not getting her invitation to the party and stood his ground. I'm not saying he's always 100% on point with standing up for himself and he should do it more but just because he doesn't yell and scream over people doesn't mean he doesn't have the capacity to. He's shown resilience because he never stops trying to get the most of the experience and takes everything on the chin even when things don't go his way. When Toya nominated him as her power nomination he just got on with it unlike Ash, Winston and Steve who weren't even nominated yet attacked her when things didn't go their way for no good reason. They came across as the mal adjusted and needy ones in that situation.In terms of the conversation with Pauline we're going to have to agree to disagree. IMO no normal human being would be ok with being ignored and targeted by a group of people they know they could potentially be living with for the next couple of months. He's not there to be ignored and left out of everything, he's there to make the most of a once in a lifetime experience and to have a good time! Impossible for an ordinary person to do in that situation when you're dealing with the likes of Helen and Pauline (who were never just going to just ignore him for long.)
I also think you're forgetting the role of Helen and co here too. Like attracts like and nice people are drawn to other nice people. Not saying they have to be his best friend but a decent person would at least recognise that Christopher is a decent person and doesn't deserve to be treated badly. Taking advantage of someone as lovely as he is is way worse and way more off putting than trying to hard with a group of people who don't deserve it IMO.
We might just be very different and never agree on this lol.
I've given examples of his reactions (like crying to Pauline and stating himself that he can't cope with being isolated [they weren't arguing with him then, they were merely ignoring him]) IMO exceeding how your average well-adjusted person with the human need for acceptance would handle it. The original question posed asked why Christopher is being treated shoddily; my original answer was because he allows it. I arrived to that conclusion based on the behavior and examples I've since detailed. I think Christopher is a genuinely nice guy, but he tries. too. hard. Just like he has been trying for years to get in a relationship. Speaking from personal experience, his attitude is a bit of a turnoff and I can identify with the housemates on those grounds which is why I replied in the first place.
You're right that I made sweeping statements without backing them up so If I may I'll do that now. He's shown he has self respect when he has stood up to Helen after she threw her hissy fit after not getting her invitation to the party and stood his ground. I'm not saying he's always 100% on point with standing up for himself and he should do it more but just because he doesn't yell and scream over people doesn't mean he doesn't have the capacity to. He's shown resilience because he never stops trying to get the most of the experience and takes everything on the chin even when things don't go his way. When Toya nominated him as her power nomination he just got on with it unlike Ash, Winston and Steve who weren't even nominated yet attacked her when things didn't go their way for no good reason. They came across as the mal adjusted and needy ones in that situation.In terms of the conversation with Pauline we're going to have to agree to disagree. IMO no normal human being would be ok with being ignored and targeted by a group of people they know they could potentially be living with for the next couple of months. He's not there to be ignored and left out of everything, he's there to make the most of a once in a lifetime experience and to have a good time! Impossible for an ordinary person to do in that situation when you're dealing with the likes of Helen and Pauline (who were never just going to just ignore him for long.)
I also think you're forgetting the role of Helen and co here too. Like attracts like and nice people are drawn to other nice people. Not saying they have to be his best friend but a decent person would at least recognise that Christopher is a decent person and doesn't deserve to be treated badly. Taking advantage of someone as lovely as he is is way worse and way more off putting than trying to hard with a group of people who don't deserve it IMO.
We might just be very different and never agree on this lol.
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