This. Attractiveness should be equal.

If it's ok with Hugh Hefner, then it's ok with me.
I call it the Hefner Rule.

not only attractiveness, but the 'get-up-n-go' difference I implied between a podgy unemployed actor going nowhere except to the sofa to watch Loose Women on TV in his dressing gown (I'm embellishing from imagination now!) and a vibrant, active model!

On my Facebook page, people have been up in arms about chris, yet they adored Paul walker, who dated 16 year olds at 33

oh yes I agree personality is more important in a man than good looks...that and a ginormus willy

This,to me,equals a disparity in attractiveness

He is also quite a talented artist , while you point out the incongruity- then it is only fair to say the congruousness of their friendship is they are both intelligent and enjoy each others company and have supported each other through the bb experience- Ashleigh obviously not shallow enough to be put off by a "podgy" appearance

I'm 18 and wouldn't go out with someone loads older because in my mind they're "proper adults" and I'm not. I know that's factually incorrect and probably sounds silly but hey ho

My boyfriend is 20 which I think is a suitable gap at this age.

Thank you -just clarifying before we get the "looks" snipes

Who da F is bothered of their friendship - go back to post 1 which was about partners and age differences.

My point continues to be that they can be intelligent pals but even if he was 18, they'd be incompatable as a couple - he seems a very laid back (sedentary) man who has trouble getting out of bed in life - she is the opposite

If he is such a talented artist, where has he made efforts to have his works displayed aprt from his bedroom wall - has he been working endlessly to get his biros in even a small gallery to get himself known? Or just have a lie-in and do that manana?

I'm not fussed about age gaps. As you said, if Ashleigh were 30 and Chris were 45, we probably wouldn't bat an eye. But she isn't 30. She is 18, an adult but a *teenage* adult barely out of high school.

I think anyone past university age should have the maturity and sufficient experience to engage in relationships with whomever they wish. But that's not where Ashleigh is mentally now and a man of Chris's age that would even *consider* Ashleigh in any other light than friendship, hypothetical or otherwise, is of questionable character. She is far, far, FAR out of his league anyway and I can only envision that gap widening further as the years progress.

Who was Chris telling,"when I was 24,Ashleigh was the type of girl that I was going out with".
He's clearly lost his memory.

This formula is probably about right, since it contemplates an increasing age gap with increasing age.

Sensibly, a 40yr old would not get on very well with a 20yr old (on average) but the same is probably not the case for a 60yr old and a 40yr old.

"I care for her in a fatherly role"
the day previous: She's sexy (or was it "damn sexy"? I can't remember)

And he admitted to staring at her himself, but claimed it was ok because he cares for her.

Stop kidding yourself.

What rot. I'm way hotter than my husband.

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Not sure he'd be happy for me to post his big ears and bald head all over DS

The rule for what? Half my age plus 7 is 38. Should I be ditching my husband and getting it on with a toyboy or does it mean my husband should be doing the switching? Should I be with a man for whom I'm the 'half plus 7' because I'm not sure there are many men of 110 around for me.

There is no rule other than 'both partners are happy with the age gap, however big or small and in whatever direction'.

Age shouldn't be a factor in relationships, providing that both are consenting adults.

No, it just means that if you did, that would be fine according to the formula

It seems that Ashleigh can only function in a 121 relationship. First she was huddled up with Danielle and they were separate from t he others. Now she seems to spend most of her time with Chris. Maybe it's an age thing wanting this exclusivity. Though I was never a one to one person.

I'm quite hot too but Graham Norton would balance the scales of attractiveness.

In his dreams

BIB - On his website -

http://www.brawlingwithmybiro.co.uk

He takes commissions and would gladly draw you if you can afford it.

Anything that's legal.