Originally Posted by SAFC_Derry:
“Glad you cleared some of it up by saying you don't believe she would do it as any sensible person would already know. So your point is that YOU would never act like that yet you question her friendship based on what? How you would act or how you THINK she would act! If you read my post I also mentioned how some young people interact not just their sense of humour but you can pick what bits you want if that floats your boat! Their interaction can involve both irritation and humour and although it may seem quite irrational to an adult it is usually all forgotten very quickly often after a bout of stubbornness which seems to the case.”
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“Maybe it's just that you don't get the Irish sense of humour or how they (certain sections of the youth) interact with friends? It can come across as quite aggressive even threatening at times but I can assure you it is mostly banter as you will hear it quite a bit and it is tongue in cheek.”
Humour, aggressive, threatening, banter, tongue in cheek. These are the ways you describe the interactions of some Irish people. I question her friendship based on that I don't think what she said was said in humour, as banter, or tongue-in-cheek at all. She was sneering and quite bitter with it. There was certainly aggression and an element of threat there (though, as we've both agreed, not genuine). So what am I missing? I still don't think that's an acceptable way to talk to a good friend. You can form your opinions of HMs relationships based on your experiences, and I can base my opinions of HMs relationships on mine.
I'm not solely basing my opinions on how I would act. I'm also basing my opinion that she's not really bothered about Christopher on her previous interactions with other people. She was never like this with Danielle, despite being irritated with her at a number of points (discussion about Danielle wanting to leave, being an example), so I don't think that the way she treated Christopher is just symptomatic of how she is with good friends. She called Christopher a prick. Did she call her friend's names? She's certainly called Helen names, though, who at the time was her enemy.
Interestingly, since Danielle left, she's been laughing along with Helen and crew about her being miserable and a grandma, so I don't see a great deal of loyalty in Ashleigh towards those she gets close to in the house. I've no problem with this, incidentally - why should she have? It's a game.
It seems that you're coming from the angle of "She obviously wasn't being nasty about what she said as why would she screw up a nice friendship with Christopher?" whereas I'm coming from the angle of "She doesn't really care all that much about Christopher in the first place, so treats him like she does the people she doesn't really like".
Who's right? Who knows, but they're differing and valid opinions.