I've posted about this elsewhere but it's still bugging me so hey ho....
Every now and then (always at dusk) the lady next door comes round (usually having a good peer in through the window en route to my door

) to 'check I am OK not having seen me for a couple of days'.
Yesterday she caught me slobbing out unkempt on the sofa - confident no one would be coming round at that time.
It's not that she is a lonely pensioner. She is married with a big family who visit and phone frequently. Plus she is the hub of the village and knows everyone (and their business).
I've had several of these visits now. It's always when I have successfully evaded her late afternoon. Because late afternoon is when she lurks in the garden talking loudly to her dog waiting to catch me or any passer by. It's doubly irritating that at any other time she is 'too busy' to chat. I sometimes wonder if she knows I am dodging her - these visits do feel like 'Ha got ya!'
I realise it is not up there with 'Nightmare Neighbour Next Door' but it's irritating.
Twice now I have answered the door with a curt 'Was asleep' and actually shut the door in her face just as she was embarking on full ramble mode. But the message doesn't get through. My lights were on when she came a knocking at dusk yesterday so no need to call round to check I am alive and kicking I would have thought.
I will either have to talk to her which will no doubt cause upset - no matter how tactfully it is put and even then it might go over her head. Or I might just duck the whole thing by fitting a gate with lock 'for security'. There is a gap in the wall around the patio where there used to be one. Or I might do both
Every now and then (always at dusk) the lady next door comes round (usually having a good peer in through the window en route to my door


) to 'check I am OK not having seen me for a couple of days'. Yesterday she caught me slobbing out unkempt on the sofa - confident no one would be coming round at that time.

It's not that she is a lonely pensioner. She is married with a big family who visit and phone frequently. Plus she is the hub of the village and knows everyone (and their business).
I've had several of these visits now. It's always when I have successfully evaded her late afternoon. Because late afternoon is when she lurks in the garden talking loudly to her dog waiting to catch me or any passer by. It's doubly irritating that at any other time she is 'too busy' to chat. I sometimes wonder if she knows I am dodging her - these visits do feel like 'Ha got ya!'
I realise it is not up there with 'Nightmare Neighbour Next Door' but it's irritating.

Twice now I have answered the door with a curt 'Was asleep' and actually shut the door in her face just as she was embarking on full ramble mode. But the message doesn't get through. My lights were on when she came a knocking at dusk yesterday so no need to call round to check I am alive and kicking I would have thought.
I will either have to talk to her which will no doubt cause upset - no matter how tactfully it is put and even then it might go over her head. Or I might just duck the whole thing by fitting a gate with lock 'for security'. There is a gap in the wall around the patio where there used to be one. Or I might do both



