to me mostly it is starting to come across that gary is fine one to one, and mainly its the hand, and the shush.. put aside odd behaviour, and other annoying things, peeing on the toilet seat - not helping in chores etc,
I actually felt so sad when Audley was telling him about the habit of putting his hand up, and he was saying he couldn't hear, - the first time I have hears him speak like that, not so much raising his voice in anger at Audley, but the frustration in his voice - that he CANT hear when everyone is talking
- it must be hard in all honesty, they are all chopsing, over talking, interrupting, speaking fast. I know my OH gets so grumpy due to not having good hearing,he couldn't get used to aids he got from hospital, he found it more annoying to listen with them in as they disorted the sound to him and amplified sounds that interfered with what he was trying to listen to. it is quite amazing how grumpy someone can get if they are trying hard ot hear something - ask my kids, they were snapped at as 4 of them all over talking and laughing etc drives him mad when he is trying to listen, or join in
lauren came out saying James was the one who annoyed her most..she said she didn't like the way grown men spoke to "elderly men" ..Gary IOW.. and how he twisted things and blew things out fo proportion.
Ricci said he and gary were fine now, and he is great one to one - just not in a group
Edele said Gary was an easy target, and it was down to stress and offloading
lets recall Sam - who said he was quiet and didnt join in the chat as he couldn't hear with all the people talking- he backed out,to handle it, Someone like Gary, older and with more ego, self importance and confidence - goes the other way- he wants to listen and speak.