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James Jordan is a very insecure gentleman and that is the motivation for his bullying, obnoxious attitude towards others.
He very much wants to be alpha male as the OP states but alpha males are secure in themselves and do not feel the need to belittle others in order to make themselves feel better. YES! I cannot see a single redeeming feature to this gentleman. He seems to revel in being unkind and manipulative, this is not 'telling it as it is' which to me, is just a flimsy justification for being cruel to others. Quote:
Interesting post, AOTB.
I do think James has 'alpha male syndrome' but that's different to saying that I think he'd actually achieve alpha status in any social group. My understanding of Alpha male is in line with this definition... "a man tending to assume a dominant or domineering role in social or professional situations" And that's James. Whether others would welcome it or not is another matter... I also note that James's position is more easily accepted amongst some of the women than the men. Lauren certainly wasn't fooled by him or accepting him as an Alpha though and made that quite clear when she was able to. For me James behaves more like a thrusting teenager with out of kilter hormones, see his comment last night about Ricci and hoping he pulled some woman and went home to smash the back doors in, how awful. He comes over to me as overly camp and spiteful whilst at the same time trying to appear wordly wise with a judgement and solution for everything. I really don't care who wins, I favour none of them this year, but James has revealed a truly awful character. |
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I should start by clarifying I think the guy is an absolute arse of a man. A nasty, spiteful, deluded, hugely insecure muppet whose fears and insecurities manifest itself in his nasty, trolling arrogant and misplaced ways. .
He has delusions of grandeur when it comes to him and his position on both life and the pecking order and where he fits into it. He tries to project an image of some make believe alpha male when in reality he is about as far from an alpha male as can be. I've never bought what this guy's been selling, and wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him. He is just not a nice person. He is like someone who has a slightly different but similar version of 'small man syndrome', desperately trying to prove something to everyone around him, desperate for their approval of his 'status' and to make people believe he is some kind of dominant strong character but it just seems totally false and totally put on for show. He is in fact the polar opposite of these things. His actions and reactions belie his true cowardly, insecure, desperate for approval and recognition, nature. There have been a number of times when challenged where it's become pretty damn clear James is not just NOT an alpha male but he'd also struggle with being a beta male. The only time he could ever be thought of as a strong alpha type is when he is surrounded by weak sycophants who weirdly might pander to him. If he is amongst weak minded fools or runts of the litter, like Ricci or Lauren or George etc then sure he may be the alpha by default, but in front of any normal blokes or a real alpha type he cowers and runs. It's happened a few times now in there. If he's not talking about knocking out a 70 year old man and then cowering like a coward when the 70 year old man tells him to 'stand up', he's wrongly thinking he has words of 'wisdom' to say, berating Gary yet again, and then again skulking off like the coward he is when Audley tells him how it is. The guy cowers in fear when an actual alpha male even glances at him, let alone picks him up on the bull he comes out with and he runs of with his tail between his legs. I think he has to be one of the most obnoxious, humourless, bitter, twisted HMs I have ever had the misfortune to see on my TV screen. I can hold my hands up and say he's made a decent HM, and I'd totally have kept him in til now, but this isn't a badge of honour, it's purely a comment on what a total arse of a human being and nasty piece of work this guy is. Each to their own of course, but I fail to see how anyone can make excuses for him, or like him, or try to make out he's a decent guy worthy of even the most minuscule bit of admiration. There's far far more but for now I shall leave it there on this guy, and would be interested to hear other people's thoughts on him.
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The thing that really gets me with James is that he knows Gary has a brain injury, as he's admitted. This means that he knows Gary's problems are not just because he's a 70 year old man with hearing difficulties. But he never, ever cuts Gary any slack over making abrupt statements and socially awkward behaviour (classic signs of brain trauma), no matter how trivial they may be. He always has to confront Gary and berate him to his face like he was a toddler or something.
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Maybe some people do. I'm talking for the perspective that no matter whether he's a famous actor or not, he hasn't deserved the treatment he's received. Being different should never be used against you like that. We have plenty of 'isms' that this PC world has given us and yet we have some of the worst behaviour here that isn't even reprimanded and stopped. Respect wise, I think Gary deserves that at the very least just as I would say they all do. Personally I can't respect the likes of Dee and James because they refuse to return it.
It would be difficult to live with any stranger for so long without a break but they all knew this could be the case and I'm sure Ch5 deliberately grouped these people together knowing what could happen. Dismissive and rude isn't something I'd put on Gary's shoulders in a big way. Yes, the occasional blip, which again we can all do and others normally ignore them and just get on with things. But those descriptions, to me, belong solely to Dee and James, for the most part and sadly they haven't finished either. |
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I should start by clarifying I think the guy is an absolute arse of a man. A nasty, spiteful, deluded, hugely insecure muppet whose fears and insecurities manifest itself in his nasty, trolling arrogant and misplaced ways. .
He has delusions of grandeur when it comes to him and his position on both life and the pecking order and where he fits into it. He tries to project an image of some make believe alpha male when in reality he is about as far from an alpha male as can be. I've never bought what this guy's been selling, and wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him. He is just not a nice person. He is like someone who has a slightly different but similar version of 'small man syndrome', desperately trying to prove something to everyone around him, desperate for their approval of his 'status' and to make people believe he is some kind of dominant strong character but it just seems totally false and totally put on for show. He is in fact the polar opposite of these things. His actions and reactions belie his true cowardly, insecure, desperate for approval and recognition, nature. There have been a number of times when challenged where it's become pretty damn clear James is not just NOT an alpha male but he'd also struggle with being a beta male. The only time he could ever be thought of as a strong alpha type is when he is surrounded by weak sycophants who weirdly might pander to him. If he is amongst weak minded fools or runts of the litter, like Ricci or Lauren or George etc then sure he may be the alpha by default, but in front of any normal blokes or a real alpha type he cowers and runs. It's happened a few times now in there. If he's not talking about knocking out a 70 year old man and then cowering like a coward when the 70 year old man tells him to 'stand up', he's wrongly thinking he has words of 'wisdom' to say, berating Gary yet again, and then again skulking off like the coward he is when Audley tells him how it is. The guy cowers in fear when an actual alpha male even glances at him, let alone picks him up on the bull he comes out with and he runs of with his tail between his legs. I think he has to be one of the most obnoxious, humourless, bitter, twisted HMs I have ever had the misfortune to see on my TV screen. I can hold my hands up and say he's made a decent HM, and I'd totally have kept him in til now, but this isn't a badge of honour, it's purely a comment on what a total arse of a human being and nasty piece of work this guy is. Each to their own of course, but I fail to see how anyone can make excuses for him, or like him, or try to make out he's a decent guy worthy of even the most minuscule bit of admiration. There's far far more but for now I shall leave it there on this guy, and would be interested to hear other people's thoughts on him. Thanks for your critique. I've been asking for someone to try and explain James to me since the series started. I've never seen so much hate filled, spite in one person and his Twitter account gives real insight into what he values in life and it's so desperately shallow. He just doesn't seem to understand that he's Mr. Small Potatoes compared to Audley and Gary. |
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They all knew they would be living with strangers but as has been said so many times Gary seems to need care none of them would have thought they would need to tend to a man who is clearly damaged. I blame the producers, and his family really for allowing him to do this show I don't think he should have been put in this position, people seem to be laughing at him not with him most of the time.
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The thing that really gets me with James is that he knows Gary has a brain injury, as he's admitted. This means that he knows Gary's problems are not just because he's a 70 year old man with hearing difficulties. But he never, ever cuts Gary any slack over making abrupt statements and socially awkward behaviour (classic signs of brain trauma), no matter how trivial they may be. He always has to confront Gary and berate him to his face like he was a toddler or something.
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so, let's take Gary out of the equation, what if James behaved exactly the same, spoke the same words in the same manner but to Steve Buscemi , what's your reaction then?
Bring it ON, Channel 5!!
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I don't get the great love for Gary either.
Having met James a handful of times, I can tell you that he's a genuinely lovely guy. Knowing his family, I can say that they are very upset with the response that he has been getting. People seem to be forgetting that he has a family, and that they are on the receiving end of people's opinions (his sister, for example got a particularly horrible message on Twitter, wishing cancer on her brother in the future. Who does that?!). His wife has also been receiving hate on the internet. This doesn't just go for James, but for all people in the public eye: Most of the time, the people posting about them have never met the person/people in question yet spout vile comments left right and centre. I've noticed it in particular on these forums. Just a thought. It is totally self-indulgent to have the 'I can say whatever I please' attitude and of course it would never work if we were all like that. James surrounded himself in the house with people who are not like him - the type of people who tend not to speak their every negative thought and say many nice and complimentary things about him. He clashed with every HM who spoke negatively about him to his face. James knows the score with the media and social networking - people do go way over the top and it is a very sorry state of affairs. But he is exactly the type of character that attracts this and well he knows it. He loves his family fiercely but he chooses to behave the way he does knowing that they may be caught in the firing line. He's not a child, he can behave nicely as you yourself have seen in person, but he wants to have a 'love to hate' persona and will unfortunately have to suck up whatever else goes with that particular territory. |
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WOW--I'd PAY to see that!!
Bring it ON, Channel 5!!
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But how do you KNOW Audley hasn't helped Gary ? he cooks for him at the very least. ?
We see 45 mins a day as so many people rush to say. What's to say he isn't helping him during the rest of the time ? Audley and Gary have a great relationship from where I'm sitting. James blows his own trumpet far to loudly for my liking..
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yes i'd love to see it too but any chance of answering the question?
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Watching this miniature posturing peacock in his dickie squeezer little boys shorts has become too much for me.
His awful vicious behaviour towards Gary and then whipping Edele with a towel last night is totally unacceptable.
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A couple of comments (or the jist of them) have stuck in my mind: one was in Ola's letter where she said (wtte) that not everyone gets him and the way he says it as it is. The other was a similar conversation between George (?) and James where George said not everyone appreciates James' honesty and James agreed and said it was a shame. James seems to think that he should be able to go around saying exactly what he wants to people and that they should accept it and still like him. It doesn't work like that.
It is totally self-indulgent to have the 'I can say whatever I please' attitude and of course it would never work if we were all like that. James surrounded himself in the house with people who are not like him - the type of people who tend not to speak their every negative thought and say many nice and complimentary things about him. He clashed with every HM who spoke negatively about him to his face. James knows the score with the media and social networking - people do go way over the top and it is a very sorry state of affairs. But he is exactly the type of character that attracts this and well he knows it. He loves his family fiercely but he chooses to behave the way he does knowing that they may be caught in the firing line. He's not a child, he can behave nicely as you yourself have seen in person, but he wants to have a 'love to hate' persona and will unfortunately have to suck up whatever else goes with that particular territory. BTW others in there do the same Dee and Gary don't sugar coat it either. |
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He's no alpha male anyway. An alpha male wouldn't feel the need to bring men like Audley and Gary down just to make themselves look good in front of others. It's obvious he has a massive inferiority complex coupled with a big ego.
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Sorry this is a bit off the James topic, but whilst I love & admire Audley's beauty & mellow chilled-outness and wouldn't be irked if he Won, the letters-from-home showed Audley's ONLY concerned about his Image to his family and his own self-perception rather than getting stuck in with the whole BB Community challenges. This explains why he's done nothing for Gary throughout, but can lie back and criticise HMs who've actually dealt with the guy daily and sorted out his needs and tried to help him to do well in the House. Am inclined now to see that Audley IS--along with Gary--the biggest player in there. Saddened, but it seems BOTH of them can p*ss off to L.A. with their fat cheques and not care about the GBP being hoodwinked. Whereas James, Dee, Edele, George have to live here afterwards explaining themselves to tabloids, etc.
Double HONK for Gary and Audley.
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Watching this miniature posturing peacock in his dickie squeezer little boys shorts has become too much for me.
His awful vicious behaviour towards Gary and then whipping Edele with a towel last night is totally unacceptable. ![]() Some of the whacks James did get in with that towel were a tad hard. Granted after that Edele did drive some home herself. But initially, James did seem a tad rough.
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James need not have to apologise to anyone after this, he doesn't owe anybody anything whatsoever least of all Gary.
If anything it is Gary who should share his fee to the rest of the HMs but esp to James who has held his hands from day one. I am rooting for James & for my final 2 I want it to be James & Gary. |
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Nahhh. Soz Planets.
![]() ![]() this pretty much explains everything thanks
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most people would be happy if they just didn't talk to him like he was a piece of shit.....
I totally agree with you there. ![]() HONK! |
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James need not have to apologise to anyone after this, he doesn't owe anybody anything whatsoever least of all Gary.
If anything it is Gary who should share his wins, IF he does win, god forbid, to the rest of the HMs but esp to James who has held his hands from day one. I am rooting for James & for my final 2 I want it to be James & Gary. |
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I have tried so hard to see this 'great heart' and 'cheeky sense of humour' that James is supposed to have, in case he may have some redeemable qualities or is playing a game, but to no avail. In fact, I have realised that this is his game; we are supposed to believe that all these bad traits are being whimsically employed in the name of game-playing, with a nod and a wink and we must forgive all his atrocious traits because of this.
I imagine he will come out of this and protest that everything he did and said was assumed under this role of fairly playing the game and then I think who is it that suggested that he really has a good heart or has a great sense of humour - yes, that's right - it's James. |
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Weirdly, I DO agree with most of your argument: Dee and James have the lowest inner self-esteem--in Dee's case understandable, but James has deep-seated Ego issues probably from early childhood--he's VERY like my Mother and she was way worse than him by age 10 it seems!! A shame as both have excellent personal qualities [Dee: real empathy and understanding for others' pain; James: sharp, analytical brain and true bravery] but their Insecurity/Vanity clouds their good parts. Edele seems a 'flitter' with no solid ethos, esp since that Office Task, and I don't recall her loving Audley till these last 10 days nor ever Helping/assisting Gary either.
and What true bravery has James Jordan shown and when ![]() Both genuine questions
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James is the sort of person I would go out of my way to avoid. As far as I've seen he has no redeeming qualities, and rarely has a good word to say to, or about, anyone. He's clearly a very insecure man and attempts to belittle anyone who won't fall into line. He's been desperate to provoke Audley into a physical confrontation and I think will be angered by the fact his insults are like water off a duck's back where Audley is concerned.
Another thing that annoys me is that he spends all day long dishing it out but can't accept any back. |
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