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I lost 3 people today (3 deaths)
MissDeeBlue
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So I woke up this morning sun shining beautifully... I thought 'this day is gonna be great':)
then at text came through 6:15 am .. Aunt died. She was my second Mum.. hey, she was ill, not unexpected, a blessed release but, yup it still hits you!
So then at 10am I got another text. Thought it was regarding Aunt funeral-- but no, my best friend had died, in her sleep.
At 4pm my other friend died. Both were sudden deaths, unrelated. This evening I had to ID the bodies of both friends luckily they were at same mortuary Ones eyes were still open, that was tough to look at
Anyway I have been told by friend no2 solicitor Ive been assigned as sole executor, so Im lying here in bed fretting.. havent a clue where to start on this. The person didnt have much and lived in a council flat, so Im wondering if the DSS can fund a part of the funeral. Im a bit worried I have to find £4k from my savings. Maybe I should get some sleep and worry about this tomorrow
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Thanks for reading
then at text came through 6:15 am .. Aunt died. She was my second Mum.. hey, she was ill, not unexpected, a blessed release but, yup it still hits you!
So then at 10am I got another text. Thought it was regarding Aunt funeral-- but no, my best friend had died, in her sleep.
At 4pm my other friend died. Both were sudden deaths, unrelated. This evening I had to ID the bodies of both friends luckily they were at same mortuary Ones eyes were still open, that was tough to look at
Anyway I have been told by friend no2 solicitor Ive been assigned as sole executor, so Im lying here in bed fretting.. havent a clue where to start on this. The person didnt have much and lived in a council flat, so Im wondering if the DSS can fund a part of the funeral. Im a bit worried I have to find £4k from my savings. Maybe I should get some sleep and worry about this tomorrow
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Thanks for reading
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http://www.ageuk.org.uk/Documents/EN-GB/Information-guides/AgeUKIL8_How_to_be_an_executor_inf.pdf?dtrk=true
How to be an executor
you dont know how much that means to me, well you do, because I just typed it LOL meh!
Just reading right now - yes its helping a lot! I didnt even know what a probate was until today
Try not to worry about the money issue. The council will provide a basic funeral & then claim the money back from the estate, if they can. They won't demand that you find the money personally.
Try and get a good nights sleep
Isn't life bizarre sometimes! Look after yourself, what an awful thing to go through
This must all be such a huge shock and really painful for you MissD ((((((Big Hugs))))))
So, so sorry.....my thoughts are with you x
Hate to say this but I agree.
A few years back our family went through a horrendous year. Lost our mum and dad within ten days of each other and I lost my much beloved little dog during that time. We then went on to lose numerous aunts and uncles for the duration of the year. Eleven in all.
Gallows humour - we began making jokes that we were professional funeral planners/attenders. It was all we could do not to snigger at the seemingly never-ending funerals. The truth was we had no time to grieve for our parents in this time.
So I imagine this will take some time for you to properly take in and grieve properly for each of them. My advice is to try your best to go about day to day life and doing all the proper procedure etc. And then later, don't be afraid of seeking out people who have been through similar either strangers or friends. Best to share whatever you feel regardless of how numb or shocked you feel. It's a process that's individual to everyone and also the timescale of grieving is different too.
Just believe that there are many many people who are willing to support you and share in your pain by remembering a lost loved one of their own.
Life can be so very cruel at times.
Why do I get the distinct impression this thread isn't what it seems...
Glad it's not just me, When I've lost family members the last thing on my mind was jumping on here to tell a bunch of Strangers.
Well I would presume that a death of a friend or family member would be made via a call and not a text message
This was sadly my first thought too.