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Old 11-10-2014, 15:39
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Just caught up with Emmerdale and couldn't help but feel a bit bewildered at Nicola's reaction when Jimmy told her he was watching porn. It was if she just brushed it aside and didn't care, even jokey said he wouldn't need it anymore after a rondevu. I thought it would of been a big deal for women. I mean I've been with my girlfriend for 12 months now and she's never caught me watching it, I've had to delete my history too. I feel really guilty because I always thought it was like cheating on her (obviously not as bad). So I'm thinking of confessing to her or would that be a mistake? Need women's opinions on this, would you be upset and betrayed by your Boyfriend?
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Old 11-10-2014, 15:42
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As long as it wasn't too weird, I wouldn't care.

The only time it's a problem is when it's happening all the time or when the boyfriend starts seeing his ideal woman as someone who looks like a porn star and feels let down by his partner.
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Old 11-10-2014, 16:05
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I'd just not say anything unless the subject comes up naturally. Whats the point? Anyway, lots of women watch porn too so maybe shes watching it and not telling you either. Watching porn is not a big thing, most people do it.
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Old 11-10-2014, 16:06
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Not at all, my boyfriend and I are very honest with each other about that sort of thing and shock horror...woman do watch it too. I don't really consider it a big deal tbh, I would probably get more anger if he said he didn't watch it and then I caught him watching something, that would really set alarm bells off in my head as I would be thinking "why did he lie about it?" I think you should try and have a convo with your GF OP.
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Old 11-10-2014, 16:08
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I'd wonder where he had sprung from, adter getting over the shock i'd be asking why he never thought to tell me we were in a relationship

after all that him watching porn would be the last thing on my mind
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Old 11-10-2014, 16:13
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I wouldn't be angry, but I can't deny I'd probably feel a teensy bit disappointed to find out he watched it on his own, as opposed to us both sometimes watching stuff like that together. Not really a biggie though.
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Old 11-10-2014, 16:43
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Most men watch it and most women know most men watch it.

So for that reason I don't think it'd bother me if my man said he was watching it. Unless he was watching it when he should be at work or making the dinner or rolling round bed with me.
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Old 11-10-2014, 16:49
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It would be a bit hypocritical as I watch porn too.
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Old 11-10-2014, 16:57
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A lot of women watch porn too! Its not exclusive.

I sort of felt that it was a throwaway comment from Jimmy though - which is why NIcola paid little attention to it.

And there's nothing wrong with watching porn, so long as it doesn't involve children or animals and violence. Being secretive about it can become a problem though!
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Old 11-10-2014, 17:22
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I loved that scene

As to the question; I'd be annoyed, not going to lie.
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Old 11-10-2014, 18:10
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I don't know about angry but I would probably not want him to be my boyfriend any more.
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Old 11-10-2014, 18:19
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I would not be bothered at all.
When I first met my bloke he watched a lot of porn as he has been sex starved for years, as he was then with me I felt he did not need to anymore so was most offended that he was still watching it.
He had watched it for so long that it was habit more out of need.
In the end he weaned himself off it as he was getting the real stuff.
He watches it sometimes now on odd occasions as he tells me he does.
Now I understand why he views it, it does not bother me at all.
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Old 11-10-2014, 18:48
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I wouldn't care at all. I watch porn, but would never cheat on my partner or anything like that. Really, I don't see the issue.. As long as it isn't replacing your sex life, then I don't see why your gf would be mad
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Old 11-10-2014, 19:27
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No it would not bother me.
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Old 11-10-2014, 19:30
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It makes me cringe. I think it's disgusting and don't see the point in it. I don't want to see other human beings having sex!

I've seen links to porn on my boyfriends phone, but that's probably because we as a couple don't have sex and he's uses it to imagine it's us or something.
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Old 11-10-2014, 19:33
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If my boyfriend told me he watched porn I would be breaking up with him.
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Old 11-10-2014, 23:03
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Most of the comments on here have made me feel at ease so thanks guys. I fought for some reasons porn was just for sad lonely old men so I feel much better
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Old 11-10-2014, 23:18
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I wouldn't bother if my partner watched it...he probably does. I'd be far more worried it he told me he was into camming. Now that's an entirely different story altogether.
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Old 11-10-2014, 23:19
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I've told him he can watch it don't bother me. I watch porn and tell him I'm watching it!
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Old 11-10-2014, 23:39
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There's not really anything wrong with watching porn as long as it's not anything depraved, I'd be more concerned about it having been kept from me than anything.
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Old 12-10-2014, 00:34
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I would say there is nothing wrong with watching porn, most men do and women know that.

What is wrong is that you believed it would hurt her and still continued to do it. That would upset me.

My ex used to go to strip clubs and lie. I didn't care about the strip clubs it was the lying that wound me up. He did it and lied because he thought I would be upset. Used to drive me insane.
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Old 12-10-2014, 00:43
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Can't comment on the boyfriend front as I'm a heterosexual male but if it was my girlfriend watching it I wouldn't mind as I do myself. Providing she's not watching it because she's bored of me I see no harm in it. I'd perhaps even suggest we watch it together and perhaps get a few tips(no pun).
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Old 12-10-2014, 01:49
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Nicola strikes me as a women who watches it often

Plenty of threads about this over in the advice forum.
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Old 12-10-2014, 03:12
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It wouldn't bother me
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Old 12-10-2014, 03:23
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I would cringe at them for life
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