Originally Posted by
An Thropologist:
“LOL no I can see trying to keep a balloon in place while swing dancing would be beyond challenging. 
I guess the hold for swing is akin to that of salsa. Its a long time since I learned to salsa and I have never really tried to deconstruct the hold. I do vaguely remember as a beginner being told ye leads to increase/decrease the tension in my arms. It never seemed to be quite right. I don't get told off by the guys for this now so I guess at some point along the way I learned to adjust to each new partner without having to think about it.”
Originally Posted by
fawkes:
“Haha, yes indeed!
I think that's bang on - so much of it is just learning to adjust quickly and "get the feel for it". My teachers are fabulous and even with their explanations there is still a significant element of "go with the flow", which the analytic part of my mind finds a bit frustrating... but that is probably why it is good for me
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Fawkes, I know exactly what you mean! I came to ballroom/ Latin / salsa after doing ballet for years and I still get frustrated when I ask a teacher "How is this done?" and get the response "Well, it doesn't matter too much, however you want, just do what feels right..."


I've barely done any swing dancing but for salsa it's all about getting the right amount of tension in the arms and just figuring out how to adjust depending upon how hard the lead is. Don't be surprised if you end up increasing the tension at the request of one partner, then being told to reduce it again (or discovering you're just not going to end up moving if you don't reduce it) for the next! For salsa it's also keeping your hands at around hip/ waist height and in front of your body when you're dancing in open hold (to make sure that the leader can always get to your hands to go into the next set of steps) and not straightening your arms more than is necessary because the closer you are to your partner, the more time you've got to perform the steps in the right count. I've mostly learnt to follow by trial and error, but I did an exercise once where one partner shut their eyes and the other tried to lead them back/ forward/ right/ left around the room using just the hand connection. We did it both ways (i.e. follower closing their eyes and then the leader doing it) so that you had an idea of what it felt like from each position. That was interesting because it really forced you to pay attention to the hand connection and, because we weren't doing proper steps, you couldn't guess what was coming next or try to work it out by watching.
If it's an option, personally I would recommend trying leading at some point as well (even just something really basic) because it can be easier to feel how the whole dance fits together if you've an idea of their steps and their challenges. I think leading improved my ability to follow because I could
feel what it meant when they talked about anticipating or too much/ too little tension in the arms. When you're following it can be really hard to find the line between following instinctively, anticipating a lead and actually just backleading. It also means that when leaders complain about how
very difficult leading is and how easy it is to follow, you can have the satisfaction of knowing you can do both.


(If you're good at learning steps, you might find that leading isn't that hard for you - it's a lot more logical than following because you just have to know your steps and know where your follower needs to be, which is sort of built into your own steps anyway (or it should be).)