I'm glad they got that challenge wrong because they haven't taken into account if a partner is ill. You get married and vow 'in sickness and in health' so are they saying they would bugger off if their partner couldn't have sex any more? 
Dingo Dollar Challenge
Yep. The question was whether one could have a good marriage without sex. The question wasn't whether it was preferable to have sex. When people lose a wife or husband many of them miss the companionship and friendship far more than they miss the sex. I'm not saying that sex isn't important or anything but it is certainly not the be all and end all it is made out to be by some.
Originally Posted by bbnutnut:
“Yep. The question was whether one could have a good marriage without sex. The question wasn't whether it was preferable to have sex. When people lose a wife or husband many of them miss the companionship and friendship far more than they miss the sex. I'm not saying that sex isn't important or anything but it is certainly not the be all and end all it is made out to be by some.”
“Yep. The question was whether one could have a good marriage without sex. The question wasn't whether it was preferable to have sex. When people lose a wife or husband many of them miss the companionship and friendship far more than they miss the sex. I'm not saying that sex isn't important or anything but it is certainly not the be all and end all it is made out to be by some.”
The likes of Mel in her forties and Edwina in her seventies should know better, at the very least they should be mindful of others and their situations.
Originally Posted by maidinscotland:
“The likes of Mel in her forties and Edwina in her seventies should know better, at the very least they should be mindful of others and their situations.”
“The likes of Mel in her forties and Edwina in her seventies should know better, at the very least they should be mindful of others and their situations.”
She's 68.
My husband and I used to have fantastic holidays abroad and had a very full and active social life, and, a very active sex life. Then I had a stroke when I was 56and my husband was 58, and, my beautiful husband and children nursed me through it and now 4 years on, due to numerous other health complications which followed we have to sleep in separate rooms and have not had sex since.
We had a very healthy sex life before, but, have not had sex since the stroke. My marriage is still full of love and caring. He phones me at least twice a day when he is at work to make sure I'm ok and we end every call with 'I love you'.
I know it has been hard for him, but, when I talk about how our lives have changed, he always tells me how much he loves me and that the sex was just a small part of our marriage, and, that the love and family are what is important.
Sex does seem important until life throws the bigger things your way, and, I think we then have to reevaluate what we have and cherish that instead of the little things.
We had a very healthy sex life before, but, have not had sex since the stroke. My marriage is still full of love and caring. He phones me at least twice a day when he is at work to make sure I'm ok and we end every call with 'I love you'.
I know it has been hard for him, but, when I talk about how our lives have changed, he always tells me how much he loves me and that the sex was just a small part of our marriage, and, that the love and family are what is important.
Sex does seem important until life throws the bigger things your way, and, I think we then have to reevaluate what we have and cherish that instead of the little things.
Originally Posted by riverside 57:
“Well to be fair someone in their 60s is not in their 70s, so just a fact rather than pedantic
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“Well to be fair someone in their 60s is not in their 70s, so just a fact rather than pedantic
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Yeah whatever
Originally Posted by paulinejones:
“My husband and I used to have fantastic holidays abroad and had a very full and active social life, and, a very active sex life. Then I had a stroke when I was 56and my husband was 58, and, my beautiful husband and children nursed me through it and now 4 years on, due to numerous other health complications which followed we have to sleep in separate rooms and have not had sex since.
We had a very healthy sex life before, but, have not had sex since the stroke. My marriage is still full of love and caring. He phones me at least twice a day when he is at work to make sure I'm ok and we end every call with 'I love you'.
I know it has been hard for him, but, when I talk about how our lives have changed, he always tells me how much he loves me and that the sex was just a small part of our marriage, and, that the love and family are what is important.
Sex does seem important until life throws the bigger things your way, and, I think we then have to reevaluate what we have and cherish that instead of the little things.”
“My husband and I used to have fantastic holidays abroad and had a very full and active social life, and, a very active sex life. Then I had a stroke when I was 56and my husband was 58, and, my beautiful husband and children nursed me through it and now 4 years on, due to numerous other health complications which followed we have to sleep in separate rooms and have not had sex since.
We had a very healthy sex life before, but, have not had sex since the stroke. My marriage is still full of love and caring. He phones me at least twice a day when he is at work to make sure I'm ok and we end every call with 'I love you'.
I know it has been hard for him, but, when I talk about how our lives have changed, he always tells me how much he loves me and that the sex was just a small part of our marriage, and, that the love and family are what is important.
Sex does seem important until life throws the bigger things your way, and, I think we then have to reevaluate what we have and cherish that instead of the little things.”
Pauline, your husband sounds lovely! My husband has been ill for the past 3 years and we are no longer physically intimate either (we are both 46). We also still love each other very much and have a happy partnership.
Even now at 40 I would prefer my marriage to be sexless and filled with love than the other way around. Sex is just one of many many aspects of our love. (Been married just over 2 months). Sex is wonderful but she means far more to me
According to Mel sex is all she needs a man for so it'd be 'Here's your hat, what's your hurry' if her hubby couldn't perform.
Originally Posted by paulinejones:
“My husband and I used to have fantastic holidays abroad and had a very full and active social life, and, a very active sex life. Then I had a stroke when I was 56and my husband was 58, and, my beautiful husband and children nursed me through it and now 4 years on, due to numerous other health complications which followed we have to sleep in separate rooms and have not had sex since.
We had a very healthy sex life before, but, have not had sex since the stroke. My marriage is still full of love and caring. He phones me at least twice a day when he is at work to make sure I'm ok and we end every call with 'I love you'.
I know it has been hard for him, but, when I talk about how our lives have changed, he always tells me how much he loves me and that the sex was just a small part of our marriage, and, that the love and family are what is important.
Sex does seem important until life throws the bigger things your way, and, I think we then have to reevaluate what we have and cherish that instead of the little things.”
“My husband and I used to have fantastic holidays abroad and had a very full and active social life, and, a very active sex life. Then I had a stroke when I was 56and my husband was 58, and, my beautiful husband and children nursed me through it and now 4 years on, due to numerous other health complications which followed we have to sleep in separate rooms and have not had sex since.
We had a very healthy sex life before, but, have not had sex since the stroke. My marriage is still full of love and caring. He phones me at least twice a day when he is at work to make sure I'm ok and we end every call with 'I love you'.
I know it has been hard for him, but, when I talk about how our lives have changed, he always tells me how much he loves me and that the sex was just a small part of our marriage, and, that the love and family are what is important.
Sex does seem important until life throws the bigger things your way, and, I think we then have to reevaluate what we have and cherish that instead of the little things.”
Thanks for sharing that.
I wish you both every happiness. xx
Originally Posted by maidinscotland:
“How pedantic of you”
“How pedantic of you”
Being a bit touchy aren't you alongside the subsequent "yeah whatever" comment. You said something that was wrong and were corrected on it, nothing pedantic about it.
I got it right without having to even think about it.
I know loads of people who live in sexless marriages but are still very happy within that marriage for a number of other reasons.
I know loads of people who live in sexless marriages but are still very happy within that marriage for a number of other reasons.
I thought it was obviously going to be the higher percentage as the difference between the two was so much larger than it usually is.
Originally Posted by paulinejones:
“My husband and I used to have fantastic holidays abroad and had a very full and active social life, and, a very active sex life. Then I had a stroke when I was 56and my husband was 58, and, my beautiful husband and children nursed me through it and now 4 years on, due to numerous other health complications which followed we have to sleep in separate rooms and have not had sex since.
We had a very healthy sex life before, but, have not had sex since the stroke. My marriage is still full of love and caring. He phones me at least twice a day when he is at work to make sure I'm ok and we end every call with 'I love you'.
I know it has been hard for him, but, when I talk about how our lives have changed, he always tells me how much he loves me and that the sex was just a small part of our marriage, and, that the love and family are what is important.
Sex does seem important until life throws the bigger things your way, and, I think we then have to reevaluate what we have and cherish that instead of the little things.”
“My husband and I used to have fantastic holidays abroad and had a very full and active social life, and, a very active sex life. Then I had a stroke when I was 56and my husband was 58, and, my beautiful husband and children nursed me through it and now 4 years on, due to numerous other health complications which followed we have to sleep in separate rooms and have not had sex since.
We had a very healthy sex life before, but, have not had sex since the stroke. My marriage is still full of love and caring. He phones me at least twice a day when he is at work to make sure I'm ok and we end every call with 'I love you'.
I know it has been hard for him, but, when I talk about how our lives have changed, he always tells me how much he loves me and that the sex was just a small part of our marriage, and, that the love and family are what is important.
Sex does seem important until life throws the bigger things your way, and, I think we then have to reevaluate what we have and cherish that instead of the little things.”
What a positive story to read xxx
My hubby and I sleep in separate rooms due to his disability but our love is just as strong as it ever was
Originally Posted by maidinscotland:
“I'm glad they got that challenge wrong because they haven't taken into account if a partner is ill. You get married and vow 'in sickness and in health' so are they saying they would bugger off if their partner couldn't have sex any more?”
“I'm glad they got that challenge wrong because they haven't taken into account if a partner is ill. You get married and vow 'in sickness and in health' so are they saying they would bugger off if their partner couldn't have sex any more?
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Well said and the answer made my blood boil,
Originally Posted by paulinejones:
“My husband and I used to have fantastic holidays abroad and had a very full and active social life, and, a very active sex life. Then I had a stroke when I was 56and my husband was 58, and, my beautiful husband and children nursed me through it and now 4 years on, due to numerous other health complications which followed we have to sleep in separate rooms and have not had sex since.
We had a very healthy sex life before, but, have not had sex since the stroke. My marriage is still full of love and caring. He phones me at least twice a day when he is at work to make sure I'm ok and we end every call with 'I love you'.
I know it has been hard for him, but, when I talk about how our lives have changed, he always tells me how much he loves me and that the sex was just a small part of our marriage, and, that the love and family are what is important.
Sex does seem important until life throws the bigger things your way, and, I think we then have to reevaluate what we have and cherish that instead of the little things.”
“My husband and I used to have fantastic holidays abroad and had a very full and active social life, and, a very active sex life. Then I had a stroke when I was 56and my husband was 58, and, my beautiful husband and children nursed me through it and now 4 years on, due to numerous other health complications which followed we have to sleep in separate rooms and have not had sex since.
We had a very healthy sex life before, but, have not had sex since the stroke. My marriage is still full of love and caring. He phones me at least twice a day when he is at work to make sure I'm ok and we end every call with 'I love you'.
I know it has been hard for him, but, when I talk about how our lives have changed, he always tells me how much he loves me and that the sex was just a small part of our marriage, and, that the love and family are what is important.
Sex does seem important until life throws the bigger things your way, and, I think we then have to reevaluate what we have and cherish that instead of the little things.”
Very well said and I can personally relate to this in many ways,even when the mind went for my dearest with dementia the love was still there at least from my side,even having lost her a few days ago after a long struggle that love will go on forever in my mind especially the happy memories,nothing ever destroys true love its a forever bond.
