Originally Posted by d0lphin:
“Actually I do think it makes a difference it being close to Christmas. I lost my dad just before Christmas when I was a child and there were Christmas cards arriving with his name on them, I'd bought him presents which I didn't know what to do with and he wasn't able to be cremated until the new year.
It is a tragedy for all involved anyway, but it makes it all the more poignant at Christmas and harder for families to cope with - you feel you are under pressure to carry on if there are children in the family as you can't cancel Christmas when there are youngsters involved.”
I agree, Christmas forces you to remember and think about these events more - my Granny had a stroke on xmas eve when I was 13, at 35 I still remember my Mum getting the call from my Granndad, I still remember me, my siblings and cousins, Dad and Uncles having turkey and chips for xmas dinner while my Mum and aunties were at the hospital, I remember the atmosphere of my home as my relatives came to terms on Boxing Day that she'd died at 3am that morning.
Even last xmas my partner's Nana died of cancer in a hospice on Dec 19th, christmas week was consumed by grieving family and a funeral that had to take place on New Years Eve of all days! thankfully me and the boyfriend had a few days away booked in Edinburgh and went up there after the funeral and have the memory of celebratting her memory in style