This is hard, i have a 6 year old son turning 7. They understand and are well in tune with their feelings. At first i didnt understand why shabnam seemed so standoffish about finding her daughter especially since what pushed her to abandon her was fear of her families reaction. Now that they know and they want the child it made no sense to me why shabz was being distant about it.
Then it hit me, the guilt of what she did is to much. Just the thought of my son abandoned growing up realising your practically orphaned (no mother or father) is heart breaking.
these are the ages where kids rationalise their personal situation.
if there is going to be any comfort for this child. shabnam needs not delay another day. But act now. 7 years vs 17 years are not the same. even though they lost CRUCIAL years.
The child is fostered not adopted and that is a huge stroke of luck for Shabnam and Dean.
all in all i understand what makes shabnam the way she is. I dont think i could live with myself knowing i have a child out there that i abandoned.
Masood and tamwar also have feelings and its difficult for one to deal with such feelings as well as being there for shabnam,