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Well this has certainly cleared something up for me. I've been kind of on the fence with Sarah since the beginning. Couldn't make up my mind if I liked her or not. Her comments to Joel have knocked me off that fence and I hope she goes tonight. I think that was wicked of her. I'm sure Joel already feels bad about Aaron's exit (not that he should be blaming himself) without her making him feel worse!
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doesn't change my mind i agree with sarah
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oh well Sarah can go tonight too after reading that, poor Joel must feel bad enough without miss im so perfect putting her tuppence worth in, i hope shes asked about those comments too, Glad Joel will have a least another week in the house over some of them that seem to think they are in charge, *sarah harriett danny* need to go tonight
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Sarah is 100% correct, glad someone is telling the truth. I thought Joel wanted a bit of Aaron's d until it all kicked off last night.
Talk about being ambiguous with your sexuality, Joel came across to me as being a totally repressed and sexually frustrated gay man. |
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Clear or clearer. It doesn't matter which. The point is Aaron made it clear enough and Sarah has no business implying Joel was encouraging him.
Joel didn't make it clear enough to get Aaron to stop; she thinks she would have. I think Joel made it clear enough so that Aaron should have stopped, but that's a different issue. |
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She didn't say it gave anyone the right. She even said she didn't have a problem with Aaron's removal.
To me that pretty clearly ties it together and she's basically saying that Joel invited the attention by what he wore at times. I don't really see where she has a leg to stand on by separating the two, unless of course she's been upset about the women's clothing thing and I've missed it all. |
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Joel doesn't feel bad about Aaron going, & there was a blink and you miss it smirk from him when he found out.
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Yes, you're right and I think that is because Joel actually likes Aaron as a friend and as a companion.
It is possible that Joel likes Aaron but Aaron did go too far and was rightly ejected and that there is some truth in what Sarah says. It's complex but people just want it to be black and white. However, due to what Joel said in the diary room I think that BB felt like they had no option but to eject him. The words and terminology which Joel was using would mean that BB would leave themselves open to potential legal problems if they didn't eject Aaron. I agree, that it is quite complex. Because for one we don't really know what was going through Aaron and Joel's minds, and there are the complications of other people being party to the events, and nobody including BB intervening sooner to nip things in the bud so that they didn't escalate into a problem. |
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It was a nervous, desperate laugh rather than "I'm enjoying this, I'll play along" laugh. He was caught in situation where he was in a room where barely anyone likes him and enjoyed him being put on the spot by one person he had considered a friend. He could have got aggressive or he could have ran off to teacher but both of those responses would have landed him in hot water, potentially with Big Brother and definitely with other Housemates. He did try to remove himself from the situation by going to the bathroom but the other Housemates just encouraged Aaron further for their own cheap entertainment while he was away; if he'd removed himself for longer it would have got worse.
His age also came into play as well; older people with more experience may have known how to deal with Aaron but he simply didn't. He said as much in the Diary Room when he said something along the lines of 'I didn't know how to stop it'. But just because Aaron made a prat of himself aided and abetted by the rest of the House doesn't mean Joel should change his ways or be blamed at all for what happened. Maybe one of the more mature Housemates or Big Brother should have seen the issue and stepped in early but the former didn't care and the latter probably wanted the viewers a controversial incident would bring in. |
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Sarah is 100% correct, glad someone is telling the truth. I thought Joel wanted a bit of Aaron's d until it all kicked off last night.
Talk about being ambiguous with your sexuality, Joel came across to me as being a totally repressed and sexually frustrated gay man. You sound as confused and deluded as poor old Aaron. He did come over as a bit dim but I thought it was a bit of an act - perhaps it really wasn't after all. |
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It matters if you want to understand what Sarah said.
Joel didn't make it clear enough to get Aaron to stop; she thinks she would have. I think Joel made it clear enough so that Aaron should have stopped, but that's a different issue. |
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He said NO repeatedly. Does no not mean no where you are from?
![]() There was no ambiguity to Joel telling Aaron no no no, go back to your bed and to flat out stop. Joel in fact had told Aaron at every turn to stop with the sex stuff. How many times did he need to tell Aaron no before Aaron got the message then? Cause for me it only needed saying ONCE. Joel has told Aaron that he isn't gay, that he isn't interested in sexual banter or innuendo and had told him that he would NOT kiss him only hours earlier even on a dare. I don't understand what more Joel could do short of punch him and get himself kicked out. They were LOCKED in that room. Interesting that you think Aaron could have also done that to the other TEENAGER in the house. Are teenagers considered fair game now? ![]() no stop right there. i said was aaron wouldnt have been able to do it to any hm because they can all stand up for themselves and if they said No to him the message would be clear to all. people like nick and joel cannot stand up for themselves and wouldnt have been effective in getting their message across. for example no doubt harriet, or any other hm on the end of what aaron was doing would have shouted and got their messsage clear to him it wasnt on what he was doing. at no point did aaron or any of the hms that were laughing think that joel was being serious when he told him to stop. that is a failure on his part in communicating the message. worrying for a wannabe politician joel's message of No to aaron meant little because of the way it was delivered. joel was not assertive and had a smile on his face and encouraged more of aarons behavior by chasing after him and throwing a pillow in a playful sort of way. no other hms if they wanted to get aaron off their back would do that. they would be clear in the message. now you need to explain your accusation in that last line to me. i have addressed it. they are not fair game, stop putting words in my mouth |
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It matters if you want to understand what Sarah said.
Joel didn't make it clear enough to get Aaron to stop; she thinks she would have. I think Joel made it clear enough so that Aaron should have stopped, but that's a different issue. I do think she's being unfair on him in this conversation and letting her dislike of him/ like of Aaron get in the way of her objectivity. |
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I see where Sarah's coming from in that Joel didn't set clear boundaries throughout this ordeal but the way she's going about things isn't going to do herself any favors with the viewers as it's not clear enough to where people won't see that as victim blaming or whatever. People generally look for anything to pounce on, stuff like that opens the door for it... she needed to back off a bit and choose her words more carefully.
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The same sort of logic used to blame rape victims for their attackers actions. Disgusting.
But he didn't rape him. |
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I understand what you are saying but delivery is key here, you can give someone in this situation advice on how to handle it better, by saying, for example, how you would handle it and how he could handle something similar in future, whilst stressing it's not their fault and they will learn from it. You shouldn't really imply it's their fault for not being clear enough, especially when they are younger, less experienced and shouldn't be expected to know better.
I do think she's being unfair on him in this conversation and letting her dislike of him/ like of Aaron get in the way of her objectivity.
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I think it's also worth being reminded that Aaron was on her 'team'.
![]() She's stuck up for her friend in a situation where had it been another person, I don't think she would've said what she did. Putting aside Aaron being removed, she's basically telling Joel he should take some blame because of his dressing up, he's encouraged it. Wrong and very silly thing to say. In my opinion anyway. |
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Are you for real?
I know many straight men, at parties, where alcohol is consumed, to think its a laugh to put on an item of their wives clothing and parade about for the amusement of everyone in the room. For a laugh. That does not mean that they want another man gay or straight to touch them, to put their genitals near their face or get in their bed. Doesn't it? I need a new tactic. |
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Did it seem like that to you? Because to me it seemed like he couldn't punch Aaron and not get thrown out so he threw the pillow at him.
Anyway, I was just trying to explain why the HMs in the room may not have realised how uncomfortable Joel was, or became. But I think it was starting to get through to them. |
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Sarah is 100% correct, glad someone is telling the truth. I thought Joel wanted a bit of Aaron's d until it all kicked off last night.
Talk about being ambiguous with your sexuality, Joel came across to me as being a totally repressed and sexually frustrated gay man. But Sarah is implying that simply because of that, he was being encouraging?
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I see where Sarah's coming from in that Joel didn't set clear boundaries throughout this ordeal but the way she's going about things isn't going to do herself any favors with the viewers as it's not clear enough to where people won't see that as victim blaming or whatever.
He has maintained he is not gay, not attracted to Aaron, would not kiss him during the game, asked him to go back to his own bed, to put his clothes back on etc... Is it necessary for him to shout to just say what his boundaries are? P.S. Sarah rather enjoyed Joel's boundaries being crossed, at the time. Where was her moral stance then? |
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Whatever! She's just pressed because her pet gay is gone.
I find it difficult to trust her own motives when it is clear that she had a close-knit group who she always favours, which includes Harriet and Aaron. Straight after the nominations she rushed up to one of her pack, less as a friend and very much in a team-talk mode. |
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He always seemed perfectly clear about his boundaries re: Aaron.
He has maintained he is not gay, not attracted to Aaron, would not kiss him during the game, asked him to go back to his own bed, to put his clothes back on etc... Is it necessary for him to shout to just say what his boundaries are? |
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She's one of these housemates who likes to present the impression that they're even handed and fair, even when they're not.
I find it difficult to trust her own motives when it is clear that she had a close-knit group who she always favours, which includes Harriet and Aaron. Straight after the nominations she rushed up to one of her pack who was nominated, less as a friend and very much in a team-talk mode. |
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I don't agree... i always got the perception it was playful and there wasn't a clear set boundary and i think that's obvious by the way others encouraged it. I agree with Sarah's sentiment on that, i don't agree with her choice of wording though... the prancing around in women's clothes was a very unfortunate choice of words for example.
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