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Old 12-08-2015, 15:47
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I can't offer much useful advice I'm afraid, especially as there have already been so many helpful suggestions and it sounds like you've got some ideas sorted now. I think at my mum's wake/after-funeral-gathering-thing there were mainly sandwiches and scones, possibly some kind of cake/fruit loaf things (I didn't have any of it - went home and had a very child-like meal of turkey dinosaurs, potato waffles, smiley faces and spaghetti hoops!), but I would definitely agree with the idea of buying the sandwich platters to take some of the load off you.

But really I just wanted to reply to say I'm sorry for your loss. It's a horrible time and there's a lot to think about, so do take care of yourself. x
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Old 12-08-2015, 21:50
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Really sorry for your loss.

When my mum died I did a massive buffet mainly I think to keep myself distracted. Although my family are known for good appetites most of it went to waste as people were to upset to eat. So I'd say keep it simple just a selection of picky pits crisps, nuts , sausage rolls, vol au vents, mini cakes etc.

As for alcohol depends on your family/friends we certainly got through more alcohol than food.

Last wake I went to it was just tea or coffee and I felt that was perfect, I wasn't in the mood for eating and I had a long drive home so no alcohol for me on that occasion.
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Old 14-08-2015, 00:23
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Sandwiches and stuff, sort of finger food.

Most people drink tea or coffee, but a scotch often goes down well.
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Old 14-08-2015, 00:32
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With regard to the wake, I think it is really important. For the nearest and dearest, it's the start of the recovery process, after the very difficult process leading up to the funeral. Remembering the departed by sharing so many memories is really therapeutic. Lots of people put photo boards up now. At a recent funeral for an aunt, there was a loop of about 30 or 40 photos on a computer display board.
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Old 15-08-2015, 12:30
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Remember some people might have travelled some distance and stuff like cut up pork pies will be appreciated.
People seem to get hungry after funerals.
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Old 23-08-2015, 23:51
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Hi everyone.

So, we had the Buddhist funeral 7 days after the death. This is where the monk comes to the family home.

I made 24 cupcakes and a large platter of sandwiches. Tuna mayo, and cheese and pickle. It was busy work coz actually I did this with only 5 hours' notice! So, five hours to go shopping for all the things, make all the things, AND get myself ready. It was hard work but I kind of enjoyed it.

I decided to make the tuna mayo rather than buy ready made stuff. More cost effective and much more delicious. Tinned tuna, mixed with full fat Mayo, spring onions, black pepper, and fresh lime juice. Mum and auntie and a friend provided the rest of the food. I think there was around 25 people.

Then a week after that we had the chapel funeral. Mum decided to do the wake at her house coz she enquired about the local hall and it was very expensive for a run-down shack.

This time, around 50 people. I provided guests with wine from France (my friends were there so I asked them to bring me a few bottles), which apparently was excellent. I don't drink wine so I wouldn't know. My uncle served some whiskey, which was popular.

My mum and auntie made loads of great food. Lots of fried and roasted chicken, two types of rice (we're Sri Lankan, remember), cashew nut curry, cutlets (deep fried minced fish shaped into balls coated in breadcrumbs), some Sri Lankan gravy thing that tastes awesome, beetroot curry.

I made another 24 cupcakes, I'll post a pic a bit later. My dad's favourites!
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Old 24-08-2015, 00:24
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I'm glad it all went well for you.

Strangely, I'm also liking the sound of beetroot curry.
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Old 24-08-2015, 00:26
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It sounds like it all went well as can be. Take care. x
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Old 24-08-2015, 00:40
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Sorry for your loss Vic , take care x
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Old 24-08-2015, 00:42
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I'm glad it all went well for you.

Strangely, I'm also liking the sound of beetroot curry.
Thanks everyone x

And yeah, it sounds so weird doesn't it! But trust me it is soooo delicious. It's one of our traditional dishes.
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Old 24-08-2015, 00:44
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Ok so here are some of the funeral cupcakes:

http://i31.photobucket.com/albums/c3...psfp5xt1d0.jpg
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Old 24-08-2015, 02:25
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Beautiful cupcakes
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