I agree, I don't think I've seen anyone saying that Ben isn't equally to blame and, as you say, on the thread about it most people specifically said he was. It pretty much goes without saying. Kristina is the one who is on the show this year so she is the one people are mentioning, but also because it doesn't just relate to Ben - it is the third time she has been involved in this type of situation and that's why people are commenting so much. If it was the first time, as with Pasha, it probably would have died down pretty quickly.

Sorry, but i've been back through several pages worth of threads and in the ones where the matter is mentioned there is the same small handful of posters blaming her/calling her names. The rest are either defending her or saying that both are to blame. Saying that most posters on here are blaming her & calling her names is quite an inflammatory statement, not least because there's quite a lot of us who haven't commented on the matter at all.

I agree that lots of posters say that Ben is equally to blame, but there are far more blaming Kristina alone because he is a married man.

And what if Kristina is not at fault for the three situations you mentioned? After all Vincent has publicly said he led Kristina to believe he was unattached, although IIRC Susan was not his girlfriend when she became pregnant. Vincent and Susan had been involved but were not a couple. And the reason given for Joe leaving his girlfriend was he didn't want to get married and she did. Kristina and Joe were a couple for four years, so that's hardly a fling. Apparently they split up because Kristina wants children and Joe doesn't want any more. Ben and his wife were childhood sweethearts and married young, so maybe meeting Kristina made Ben realise he didn't want to be married to any more.

With Joe and Ben I'm not saying Kristina was not the catalyst for them leaving their partners, but it doesn't mean she was looking for a relationship with either of them at the time the couples split up. I also think that when children are involved, it is far easier for the man to leave than the woman, especially when they have plenty of money. If I was going to criticise Kristina, it would be because with Joe and Ben perhaps their relationships were salvageable and she should have given them space. But none of us know exactly what went on at the time between the people involved, so it's really not for me or anyone else to say what should have happened.

These situations are always very difficult, especially when children are involved and the media is commenting on your every move. I realise some people will never change their opinions of Kristina, but maybe they shouldn't believe everything they read about her.

There are plenty of references to Kristina in the middle of threads which just mention her reputation in passing. It's like it's cool to make a snide remark about her. Others have been far more direct about her even being on the show. On the live show thread someone posted calling her a home wrecker.

As I said, i've seen the many comments on many different threads blaming Kristina etc but that it seems to be mostly the same names making the comments. I'm not trying to claim that there aren't people that do blame her, the issue I took was with it being suggested that most people blame her which doesn't seem to be the case and seems very unfair to the numerous posters that have either a- defended her, b- said that Ben takes most blame, c- said that they're equally to blame, d- pointed out that none of us know whether they even had an affair before the separation in the first place or e- not bothered to comment at all

I do agree many of the negative comments are made by the same posters and that plenty of people haven't bothered to comment at all. At the moment though, as I said there's a lot of snide remarks being made in passing, but some of this will be due to Kristina being paired with Daniel. The fact that she was due a duffer (sorry Daniel and fans) seems to have been ignored.