Originally Posted by gingerjack:
“but why passionately kiss in public, really no need imo, so you were so much more in love than other couples , you could not restrain yourselves until you were in private ?
Also you say "very much in live a COUPLE of times"I presume by that the relationship did not last, therefore I rest my case -under lying problemS”
We passionately kissed in public (please do not misunderstand me, we did not overdo things), in private - wherever we could. We could not stop. If you haven't felt that sort of love and desire for another person I understand, we were lucky.
I am forty, I don't believe that it's unusual to have been utterly in love a couple of times by that age. You cannot 'rest your case' (LOL - utterly ridiculous!).
This as as personal as I am willing to get, but it happened to us at an age where we weren't ready for such a commitment or understanding what had happened to us, then major things got in the way (we had planned to move abroad together and she set things up as she needed more advanced planning for visas and a job etc than I did). In the end she had to go as everything wa set with work contracts and whatnot, and I stayed behind (even that was touch and go). Had she not gone (and if I was man enough to tell her I still loved her at our final meeting she wouldn't have) I have little doubt we would have got over our young insecurities and small differences, and be together now - we were/are soulmates.
We still write but, while very affectionate, we both understand we have to keep our distance. She has two small children by a man she married long ago on the rebound from me and I will not rock the boat in any way there. Having said that, if she wrote to me in a years' time and told me they'd divorced and she had left that country for good I would tell her that I was booking the first available flight to see her to ask her to spend the rest of her life with me.
I would not take no for an answer, but then I would not expect to have to. One sight of each other after so long would be enough. We haven't seen each other for fifteen years, but from our short and perfunctory occasional exchanges I know nothing's changed between us.
That enough for you? If not, you can go and suck on some lemons and then go make misinformed (and just wrong, imo) judgmental calls at someone else
See ya and hope you meet someone who makes you literally dance at the joy of life and love soon. You might **** up (like we did )but as far as I'm concerned once you've been there there are no possible regrets, whatever happens - to have felt like that is the happiest memory of my life