Would YOU care if a couple were touchy feely around you??

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nattoyaki

05-09-2015

Originally Posted by Bowdon:
“Give this guy a gold star! Exactly right.

I have no problem with someone holding hands once or twice a day, or grabbing a kiss and cuddle here and there. But very often these people who are sucking each others faces off, and draping themselves over each other are masking their insecurities.

I had a female relative like that a year ago. Trying to have conversations when she was nearly smothering the guy was very offputting. Anyone would think their love was for real. They got married, and within a couple of weeks broke up!

I think a lot of it is about insecurity and attention.”

You can learn to tell the difference you know! If it was off-putting during conversations with relatives I'd suggest that's at least an obvious element of desperation from one or both parties right there and should have been a warning sign.

ShadowTillNow

05-09-2015

Originally Posted by nattoyaki:
“We passionately kissed in public (please do not misunderstand me, we did not overdo things), in private - wherever we could. We could not stop. If you haven't felt that sort of love and desire for another person I understand, we were lucky.

I am forty, I don't believe that it's unusual to have been utterly in love a couple of times by that age. You cannot 'rest your case' (LOL - utterly ridiculous!).

This as as personal as I am willing to get, but it happened to us at an age where we weren't ready for such a commitment or understanding what had happened to us, then major things got in the way (we had planned to move abroad together and she set things up as she needed more advanced planning for visas and a job etc than I did). In the end she had to go as everything wa set with work contracts and whatnot, and I stayed behind (even that was touch and go). Had she not gone (and if I was man enough to tell her I still loved her at our final meeting she wouldn't have) I have little doubt we would have got over our young insecurities and small differences, and be together now - we were/are soulmates.

We still write but, while very affectionate, we both understand we have to keep our distance. She has two small children by a man she married long ago on the rebound from me and I will not rock the boat in any way there. Having said that, if she wrote to me in a years' time and told me they'd divorced and she had left that country for good I would tell her that I was booking the first available flight to see her to ask her to spend the rest of her life with me.

I would not take no for an answer, but then I would not expect to have to. One sight of each other after so long would be enough. We haven't seen each other for fifteen years, but from our short and perfunctory occasional exchanges I know nothing's changed between us.

That enough for you? If not, you can go and suck on some lemons and then go make misinformed (and just wrong, imo) judgmental calls at someone else

See ya and hope you meet someone who makes you literally dance at the joy of life and love soon. You might **** up (like we did )but as far as I'm concerned once you've been there there are no possible regrets, whatever happens - to have felt like that is the happiest memory of my life ”

You have overshared.

batgirl

05-09-2015

She wants his honesty, he wants to feel her. And I want to know how they manage to deliver their corny lines with straight faces. It's all very funny to watch though.

nattoyaki

05-09-2015

Originally Posted by ShadowTillNow:
“You have overshared.”

Oopsie

Well you didn't have to read it you know, much less quote the whole thing!!!

It was only really for the (imo) nosey and condescending poster who pulled me up on it

ShadowTillNow

05-09-2015

Originally Posted by nattoyaki:
“Oopsie

Well you didn't have to read it you know, much less quote the whole thing!!! It was only really for the (imo) nosey and condescending poster who pulled me up on it ”

The idea is to read what others post. So I did.

gingerjack

05-09-2015

Supposed to be a debating forum ?, apologies if you thought I was being nosy and condescending , that was not my intention , however I do think I accidentally hit a very raw nerve

acid rain

05-09-2015

I don't think I'd care in the slightest.

I think Gail is being over-sensitive about it. I guess a lot of them must be missing their partners.

benbeez1

05-09-2015

it wouldn't bother me , if they did it on top of me then there would be a problem

flower 2

05-09-2015

I would think the same as I think about Chloe and Stevie, that they are out to prove to me rather than themselves that they 'love' each other and that they had nothing more interesting about them to say or do with their time.

In other words 'dull' attention seekers.

Norn2

05-09-2015

i find it gross, like save it for the bedroom. holding hands, hugging, peck on the cheek is fine. but hate those people that makeout in public. have some manners ffs, wait until you get home.

erin_p

05-09-2015

Originally Posted by acid rain:
“I don't think I'd care in the slightest.

I think Gail is being over-sensitive about it. I guess a lot of them must be missing their partners.”

That's why I posted about Gail's sex addiction , it seems to be her problem and not theirs
I don't care if they kiss each other 24/7 that's not my issue, I have an issue with how fake their relationship is.

pie-eyed

05-09-2015

Originally Posted by CITIZENFOUR:
“If they were planning on boning then i'd like to be told first so i could leave the room, but anything other than that is normal and i probably wouldn't even notice really”

I agree. I wouldn't want anyone having sex in a room I was sharing but anything else I wouldn't care. It's not up to Gail or anyone else to tell them to stop.

revolver44

06-09-2015

Originally Posted by batgirl:
“She wants his honesty, he wants to feel her.”

And in all honesty I feel ill whenever they're on my screen

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