Originally Posted by Supersarahp:
“Totally agree - it's emotional abuse.
He knows on a level playing field she would be way out of his league so he feels insecure. So in order to feel more secure he blows hot and cold so that she then becomes unsure of his intentions and feelings towards her and then she gets clingy - which reassures him.
He can't step up and just be an excellent boyfriend
So he has to drag her down. It's lazy and manipulative.
If and when she is a bit older and more mature she will wise up and tell him to take a hike.
If my supposed fiancé was suggesting we have a 2 week break from each other I would be like "what the hell?" And apparently it's a regular occurrence ? She needs to ditch him - that kind of behaviour will damage her self esteem. Not cool.”
“Totally agree - it's emotional abuse.
He knows on a level playing field she would be way out of his league so he feels insecure. So in order to feel more secure he blows hot and cold so that she then becomes unsure of his intentions and feelings towards her and then she gets clingy - which reassures him.
He can't step up and just be an excellent boyfriend
So he has to drag her down. It's lazy and manipulative.
If and when she is a bit older and more mature she will wise up and tell him to take a hike.
If my supposed fiancé was suggesting we have a 2 week break from each other I would be like "what the hell?" And apparently it's a regular occurrence ? She needs to ditch him - that kind of behaviour will damage her self esteem. Not cool.”
spot on.




But I have to say that I was impressed with her standing by her morals to not start an argument or be nasty just to get immunity.
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