Well I would be upset and angry if someone refused to be in the same room as a group who are toasting a dead brother with alcohol. But then she is able to be around alcohol the rest of the time. I also find her parallel to manic depression offensive as I was 8 when my bipolar triggered and it is a disease. Alcoholism may be considered a disease however it starts with a choice I was never given and it's a bit more than good and bad days.