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Old 17-09-2015, 21:18
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How would you feel about this if you was the daughter's mother in this situation?

Not saying I think there is anything wrong with it, but just putting it out there for debate.
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:19
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What soap is this
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:21
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It's too weird, not as bad as the Ste/Harry thing on Hollyoaks though
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:23
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I was 24 and went out with a 17 year old. Honestly, I never felt comfortable with it at all and it lasted about 2 months after which she cheated on me with a 30 year old : 0
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:24
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I went out with a 32 year old when I was 18. It became very serious but ended badly

However age doesn't matter if you're truly compatible
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:24
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I went out with a 32 year old when I was 18. It became very serious but ended badly

However age doesn't matter if you're truly compatible
Sorcha, you dark horse!
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:25
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Sorcha, you dark horse!
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:26
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I'm 24 and can't imagine dating anyone under 20. Even 20 just seems young.
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:26
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Yesn which soap is this? The only 19 year old girl i can think of that has recently started a relationship is Belle in emmerdale and Kirin is only 18 (less than 18 months older than her) not 23.

As a general question though, i think it depends on the situation - how mature the people involved are. Girls often mature much younger than boys, and it isn't unusual for girls to date boys older than their own age. 17 is over the age of consent, provided they aren't unusually immature or naive i see no issue with it. A 19 year old going out with a 13 year old would of course be very different.
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:27
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Which is soap is this?
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:29
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My first serious boyfriend was 5 years older than me and we were going out when i was 18. He was a friend of my elder brothers so i don't know if that influenced how my parents saw it, they already knew and trusted him. Prior to that, i had another brief relationship with a man in his late twenties, 10 years older than me. There was nothing predatory about it, he treated me very well and we are still friends. I was however, considered very mature as a teenager, both physically and in outlook.

I suspect attitudes have changed and become more conservative in the last 25 years.
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:29
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Is it Emmer?
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:30
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ED guys, sorry

Yesn which soap is this? The only 19 year old girl i can think of that has recently started a relationship is Belle in emmerdale and Kirin is only 18 (less than 18 months older than her) not 23.

As a general question though, i think it depends on the situation - how mature the people involved are. Girls often mature much younger than boys, and it isn't unusual for girls to date boys older than their own age. 17 is over the age of consent, provided they aren't unusually immature or naive i see no issue with it. A 19 year old going out with a 13 year old would of course be very different.

Adam Fielding was born Adam Flanigan in Birmingham, UK on March 19, 1993,

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm4484719/


Eden Taylor-Draper was born on October 27, 1997

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm2064387/
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:30
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Get to know him. Disagreeing with their relationship from the get go - I think we all know how that'd turn out. If he ends up being a little punk bitch then I'll send my goons his way - bang, bang. If he turns out to be a decent bloke then all is well.
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:31
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Their characters are the same age though.
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:44
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ED guys, sorry




Adam Fielding was born Adam Flanigan in Birmingham, UK on March 19, 1993,

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm4484719/


Eden Taylor-Draper was born on October 27, 1997

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm2064387/
That's the actors. The characters are 18 and 16. Kirin took his A levels in June and we saw him turn 18 and take his first legal drink later in the summer - July i think so he was born summer 1997. Belle was born 25th December 1998 - we saw it happen on screen. There is only 18 months between them which is a perfectly reasonable age gap.

ETC Belle's age to 16, not 17, was forgetting she hasn't had her birthday yet this year. The age gap remains 18 months though.
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:44
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ED guys, sorry




Adam Fielding was born Adam Flanigan in Birmingham, UK on March 19, 1993,

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm4484719/


Eden Taylor-Draper was born on October 27, 1997

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm2064387/

That's the actors though, not the characters. Kirin just sat his A-Levels so is probably 18. Belle was born on Christmas 1998 so is 16.
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:49
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ED guys, sorry

Adam Fielding was born Adam Flanigan in Birmingham, UK on March 19, 1993,
http://www.imdb.com/name/nm4484719/

Eden Taylor-Draper was born on October 27, 1997
http://www.imdb.com/name/nm2064387/
Oh gawd, are you one of the many that can't differentiate between actors and characters?
As has been explained above, there is around 18 months age difference between Kirin and Belle. What on earth has the age of the actors got to do with anything?
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:49
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ED guys, sorry




Adam Fielding was born Adam Flanigan in Birmingham, UK on March 19, 1993,

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm4484719/


Eden Taylor-Draper was born on October 27, 1997

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm2064387/
Oh ok, I mean it is weird, they did that on One Life to Live back in the day with Jessica and Christian who were supposed to be teens at the time Erin Torpey (born in 1981) who played Jessica was a teen IRL and David Fuermo (born in 1972) who played Christian was close to 30. I guess they figure its acting so its ok.
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:50
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Get to know him. Disagreeing with their relationship from the get go - I think we all know how that'd turn out. If he ends up being a little punk bitch then I'll send my goons his way - bang, bang. If he turns out to be a decent bloke then all is well.
Exactly.

You could argue that some 'older' men would actually treat a woman/girl with more respect - not be quite so desperate to just get their leg over in the way a teenage boy might be.

It totally depends on the individuals concerned.

This case is interesting because although Kirin is only 18, he is very experienced after having been with a much older woman - and it was strongly indicated that Vanessa wasn't his first dalliance.

Belle, is both very odl for her years given what has happened to her with supporting her mother through the rape, Gemma's death and her mental health issues but also quite vulnerable. Everything that has happened in the past 18 months has meant she has missed our on a lot of the normal rites of passage re growing up most 17 year old girls would have had.

She is basically mature and very intelligent, as is he so i think they are quite well matched.

Or at least they would be if he weren't still in love with Vanessa so it is doomed to failure and heartbreak.
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:54
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It might also be worth noting that Belle's last boyfriend, Sean was also an academic year above her so anything between 1 and 2 years older than her (can't remember when his birthday was, if it was mentioned).

Nobody freaked about them dating, or even sleeping together.
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:56
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Belle and Kirin are similar in age. She looks completely different with her hair and make up done. she's growing up. It wasn't that long ago that Kirin was in school (or posh college) uniform. He's not 23. I think he's 18. There is nothing wrong with them dating. Yes he's more experienced but the age gap is nothing.
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Old 17-09-2015, 21:57
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I think Belle acts her age completely. The whole "Argh I've been asked out on my first date!" and scanning the internet over how to act, what to wear etc.
I think it was pretty obvious from the scene in the pub that Kirin's thoughts were elsewhere.
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Old 17-09-2015, 22:07
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Belle and Kirin are similar in age. She looks completely different with her hair and make up done. she's growing up. It wasn't that long ago that Kirin was in school (or posh college) uniform. He's not 23. I think he's 18. There is nothing wrong with them dating. Yes he's more experienced but the age gap is nothing.
Oh he's that alright, 30 something year old Vanessa knows all about it.
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Old 17-09-2015, 22:08
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Oh he's that alright, 30 something year old Vanessa knows all about it.
Worse - she's 39.
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