Originally Posted by Bowdon:
“I'm engaged to an American, so I can say this lol.
There are some American's, particularly in certain industries and areas of America, that are very American-centric.
An offshoot of this is that some of them have massive ego's and will not accept the truth about things. Granted Farrah is an extreme example of this.”
Farrah saying, "I don't remember any of this, so don't blame me!" is completely typical of someone who has a narcissistic personality disorder. By saying this it is a way of deflecting responsibility because in a narcissists mind, they are never wrong.
About anything.
Have had many years experience of this with with my mother. Any time any damaging events have been brought up, it's always met with a bored, "I don't remember any of this, so don't blame me!" Therefore the accusers feelings are invalid and the narcissist keeps the upper ground.
Of the many displays of Farrah's condition the bit that sealed it for me, is they lack empathy. Earlier on when Janice got tearful about the way Jenna and Farrah were treating her, Jenna first said to her (and this is not verbatim), 'What's the matter Janice, you ok?" and Farrah followed, 'Yeah, what's the matter, Janice. Talk to us. What's the matter? Did you lose something?" and also implied in her tone that Janice was being pathetic and probably over something trivial. Jenna quickly looked at Farrah, touched her arm, and said, 'no, don't' as she understood Janice needed some compassion at that time. Most of the time she appears robotic when someone else gets emotional and seems to go through the motions.
I believe she has had a very hard and difficult life to have made her that way. Deep down, she must believe that small, scared, little girl without a voice is the ugliest thing. So, she has invented this persona that she thinks is wonderful. Unfortunately, those who come under her presence, many think it is the ugliest person they have had the misfortune to deal with. And narcissist are that, ugly. The really sad thing about the condition is, it is incurable, because to them, there is nothing wrong with them. If there is a problem, it is everybody else's fault. It's about the only mental health condition, next door to psychopathy, that I have no empathy towards because they hurt everybody around them eventually and have no remorse about any of it because of the lack of empathy within themselves.