Yes! ^ This!

Then that must describe pretty much all the other pros, since none of them feel it necessary to cling onto their allotted celebs and treat them as aliona does jay .

Sadly. People who can only relate to people who act like them and spend time looking for reasons to criticise people who act differently are missing out on a lot.

BIB I totally agree. Matt was so good....and a better dancer than Harry; any other year he would have won but not against Kartem.

I want to say he wuzrobbed but then again I also wanted Kartem to win.

It is the same few people on rinse and repeat mode. I guess if you can't criticise Jays dancing then you have to scrape the barrel

Spurred on after watching this, I dug up this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=492yxuUgek0


The contrast with Jay is striking.....

Really. In what way

Well as Craig said it was filth and he loved it. Shows what a great actress Aliona is whoever she partners

She is uber professional with Matt and Harry. Friendly and lovely but there is no sense of real intimacy.

When they stand together or sit together, the body language is warm but not overly tactile.

With Jay it is as if they have a gravitational pull to one another. Before tonight they would stroke each other, he buried his head in her neck. All very intimate gestures.

I like them both enormously and I want him to win.

Feel free to disagree. I am just very interested in how they are together. I think they really like each other and am interested in how body language shows / leaks this.

Last week we saw him bury his head in Helen's neck and Carol's I think it was .. when they showed some backstage footage. I think it is just his way .. he's very affectionate. That's prob why he said tonight that he'd miss Ainsley's hugs.

Wish I could get me a Jay hug

Yes it was with Carol and Helen. He's just a lovely affectionate young man.

It takes two needs to have Pamela on the Friday's panel ( like they invited in the past to talk about the " psychology/chemistry behind the couples ) this week so she can give us her verdict on this pair ...maybe we'll finally get to the bottom of things






Lol I actually cracked myself up writing that

This.

(And thank you. My thoughts exactly.)

This evening I held 2 people's hands, I closed another's eyes for the last time, I stroked another's hair and sat in silence whilst someone gathered their tears together so they could go and cuddle someone that meant the world to them as they got up they put their head right into my neck to gather their strength to do that important thing.
Actually whilst with them I looked right at them, listened intently and made them feel they had been listened to and they were the most important person in that room.

Do you think someone ought to tell my husband ?

You know that sort of chemistry with another is worthy of comment and speculation. There is after all no smoke without fire.

The fact is that there is sexual chemistry there . Nobody is saying they are actually doing anything about it , but it's there and obvious to many of us . Simple as that .

Can you blame them? There's so much speculation over their 'relationship'... I feel really sorry for them. To me, Aliona just seems very supportive of her younger, very nervous partner.

I'm sick and tired of people reading more into relationships and saying they must be a couple, or there's definitely something going on between them...

Natalie was very touchy-feely towards Ainsley, I didn't see one post about their 'relationship'.

Given that Aliona is recently married I don't think it ok to say it.

Also Aliona is not British comes from a country where it is much more common to be more physical towards people and was the same with Matt, who was happily married I think it is a shame that people feel the need to say it.

Finally they are dancing. They are in physical close proximity to one another and the dances require them to look as if there is some sort of attraction between them I would say they doing a damn good job acting.

One could argue that the tedium evidenced between Brendan and Kirsty may be more worrying, is this just bad acting or are they hiding how they really feel, or do they really not like one another that much?

i was surprised to find you appear to work in some sort of hospital / hospice setting with the seriously and terminally ill.

but thank you for bringing those very special moments here to illustrate your point about jay. is he poorly do we know?

I don't know whether you were intending to be sarcastic here, but this comes across as truly offensive and belittling.

I probably shouldn't, but ...

Oh come on, people! This is a light-hearted forum dedicated to a dance show. How appropriate is it to post a description of a truly harrowing event and then compare it directly with the behaviour of two young people on a light entertainment programme? (Clue - not appropriate at all).

Someone was quite subtly pointing this out, that's all.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reductio_ad_absurdum

Horrible response.

I think the example coppertop gave illustrated the point very well. In times of great emotional intensity individuals can behave in ways that demonstrate real intimacy between them, that is not sexual.

As an aside the intimacy coppertop describes does not only occur in a hopital or hospice setting. Within the last month we had the privilege of a macmillan nurse in our home as we lost a loved one to cancer. She was nursed at home. There was a lot of intimate body language of the type coppertop describes. Also between my mother and my uncle sharing their grief over losing someone they both loved dearly. But that doesnt make it sexual. The point of the post as i understood it was not to make light of a terrible situation but to illustrate that nonsexual emotional and physical intimacy is displayed in people's everyday lives at time of emotion intensity and it is a mistake to automatically equate that with sexual intimacy. Thank you for the powerful post Coppertop.

Well said. Totally agree.

This response is offensive, but there is a valid point in there, in that it is entirely inappropriate (and probably intentionally misleading) to compare a bereavement situation with the behaviour of 2 people in a reality show.

Disagree. Just because one is 'light entertainment' does not mean it is no an emotionally intense experience for the participants. Especially subjectively, depending on their individual emotional levels and sensitivity. The poin is not being made that the experiences are the same. Clearly one is tragic and one is a stressful occupation for a participant. The key issue is the elvel of emotional intensity that an individual experiences, the intimate behaviour they display as a result of being in that situation, and that intimate behaviour foes not automatically equal sexual behaviour.