Well, I myself, personally, being one of the older generation of women, go for neither that way! Have always hankered after the Richard O'Brien looks, bald and skinny legs, but there is no accounting for taste, thankfully we all like different things?
I despise liars, bullies and people who consider it OK to ruin others, or basically make up stories and gossip to take people down/increase hatred. That is for the whole of society, before somebody takes offence that I am referring to the Special one?
I thought we were judging the CONTEST on dancing ability, and between the two, then Jay has the advantage. No hiding behind dry ice, no stomping, no being given preferential marking, untruthful comments and no requirement for manipulated ovations.
As to family, don't make me laugh! Every burp, f*rt and wimper has been sold, even his brothers death. To actually show, and be paid for, moments when you discover your brother is terminally ill, is not on.
I, IMO, do not consider that cute?
Jay did not request sympathy, nor advertise his family death, nor make any excuses why, just maybe, his mind was elsewhere, in some resuscitation room? He had other things to do rather than worrying about a small trip and being dead behind the eyes?