Originally Posted by Grafenwalder:
“I agree, there wasn't. Sticking it in the five minute joke slot at the end was pathetic.
I'm at odds with your views though which seems to want both sides of the fence. Unless the man has a vasectomy which is pretty much 100% 'safe', his only other option is to use a rubber which most men and women will know is less 'safe' or reliable as the female contraceptive pill which is more than 99% 'safe'.
However the key to that is Trust with a capital T and that's where men have been duped or conned. It's more than 'terrible' for a woman to lie about taking the pill. It's nasty evil deceitfulness at the lowest level and remember, before dna came along many men ended up paying out years of child support for a child that wasn't even theirs. To me it's just as evil as a man deceiving his female partner who isn't taking the pill by claiming he's had a vasectomy when he hasn't.
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I completely agree with the bolded and did underplay my feelings about deception regarding contraception, but I think you are coming at this discussion from the perspective of people in a relationship. What about people who aren't really in a relationship?
Lying about being on the pill doesn't only happen in long-term relationships where trust should be expected, but also casual flings, one night stands etc. where trust is anywhere from low-level to non-existent.
This is one of the reasons more time should have been devoted to the subject.
Does the situation change for long-term relationships as opposed to one night stands?
It's just a mess of potential scenarios. Does a blanket approach work where there are variables?
I actually agree with everything you've said, apart from the part about my view wanting both sides of the fence

I don't want to come off as flippant in arguing that men who don't want to be fathers should wear condoms. In a trusting relationship there should be no need for belt and braces to protect against pregnancy. I'm also trying to cover the scenario of those not in a relationship.
Regardless of whether condoms are less "safe" than contraceptive pills, they're a damn sight safer than no pill.
I agree that it's utterly deplorable to trick someone into becoming a parent.
We are on the same page there, despite how my previous comment read.
eta. Just read my previous post and it did sound incredibly flippant, as though women bear no responsibility if men are foolish enough to get caught.
That is not my opinion. Just responding to the discussion on screen. No context in that post at all.