Originally Posted by bass55:
“While I think Buster is a bit 'meh' I prefer Shirley with him purely because their relationship doesn't define her, like it did with Phil. Buster's presence merely compliments her life, which is how it should be. Shirley is a 'lone wolf' type character; she doesn't need a man to make her happy.”
I agree with this. Buster is ordinary but Shirley is working well at the moment so there's no need to change it.
However Phil is the love of Shirley's life no question. If he wasn't she wouldn't allow herself to lose so much self respect over him. If Phil gave her even the slightest hint of encouragement she'd ditch Buster in an instant.
I don't think Phil has one love, he's loved different women in different ways. I think Phil sees himself as above Shirley more than anything, she's not attractive enough for him. He thinks as the Big Man of Walford he should have some arm candy, a trophy wife and he doesn't think Shirley fits the bill.
With Sharon/Kathy he sees them as more glam like his Mum and thinks they're the type of women he should be seen with. He has in depth feelings for them too and if there had to be just one woman for him it would probably be Sharon but I think he connects to Shirley a lot better. Sharon's the one he wants but Shirley is his true soulmate. He has love for all three.