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Old 24-01-2016, 12:34
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I'm curious as to why the house (collectively) and GC in particular, are so offended by the term 'bully' considering all the other hateful things they call each other.
Could she have been bullied herself when younger?
If so, it could have been a traumatic time in her life which she refuses, naively, to believe she's inflicting on others now?
I think it's because of the persecution Jo O'Meara got after doing CBB.
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Old 24-01-2016, 12:36
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[quote=myla5trolo;81230795]I'm curious as to why the house (collectively) and GC in particular, are so offended by the term 'bully' considering all the other hateful things they call each other.

I think they are all quite savvy about their strategies in the House. It probably rings PR alarm bells for them given the outcry against bullies in previous years. It's more to do with damage limitation for their image - if they thought they could continue to get away with it, they would!

Don't approve of Steph at all but can see why she would go along with the new "friendship" keeping her friends close and her enemies closer still. Isn't that the game they are all playing with Gemma?
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Old 24-01-2016, 12:43
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I would pretty much guarantee that someone from outside had a word with Gemma and Dani when they were outside yesterday and told them to change certain behaviours.

Someone obviously has plans for Gemma after this is over and so she can't leave the house with the bully tag. Whoever wants to earn out of her is making sure their investment is protected
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Old 24-01-2016, 12:55
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I had wondered why she hadn't done a weight loss and exercise video like Josie Gibson, Charlotte Crosby etc but then I realised she's too just bloody lazy.
LMAO......the other major pitfall in Gemma doing a weight loss video......NO WEIGHT LOSS!
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Old 24-01-2016, 13:33
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I would pretty much guarantee that someone from outside had a word with Gemma and Dani when they were outside yesterday and told them to change certain behaviours.

Someone obviously has plans for Gemma after this is over and so she can't leave the house with the bully tag. Whoever wants to earn out of her is making sure their investment is protected
I think so too. It wouldnt be the first time a CAN celebrity had been given their own show post CBB. Amy Childs anyone?

CAN are really awful, I find their practices so unethical.
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Old 24-01-2016, 14:03
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She is a classic example of somebody who only has two topics of conversation

1) Talking about themselves (and/or generally making themselves the centre of attention)

2) Bitching to or about other people (because other people only exist as means to their ends)
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Old 24-01-2016, 14:10
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She is a classic example of somebody who only has two topics of conversation

1) Talking about themselves (and/or generally making themselves the centre of attention)

2) Bitching to or about other people (because other people only exist as means to their ends)
Exactly, and the second creates 'Car Crash' entertainment - People confuse this with genuine entertainment and pretend its a positive thing, which it isn't.
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Old 24-01-2016, 14:49
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Her eyes don't appear dead to me.

I see tears about to form, glazed in remorse and sadness.

The young lady will have qualities that could shine, but she needs to revise herself and be true to herself.

I wish her luck.
you must be a really nice person to see those thing's in her .. sadly the tear's are only for herself ... zero empathy for anyone else .. passive aggressive bulling is so hard to detect in a person .it's also the nastiest most destructive cold calculating thing a person can do to another human , always premeditated and deliverer with a smile .. Gemma is masterful at this type of bulling because she has been doing it properly since her school day's .. the vibe some gives off is more powerful than words ...
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Old 24-01-2016, 14:57
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She comes across as a vile fat cow
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Old 24-01-2016, 15:08
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you must be a really nice person to see those thing's in her .. sadly the tear's are only for herself ... zero empathy for anyone else .. passive aggressive bulling is so hard to detect in a person .it's also the nastiest most destructive cold calculating thing a person can do to another human , always premeditated and deliverer with a smile .. Gemma is masterful at this type of bulling because she has been doing it properly since her school day's .. the vibe some gives off is more powerful than words ...
The expression of her eyes which I mention related to personal sadness so I agree. It's her inner pain showing. She has a world of pain to fix inside of herself.

What people don't understand is, that the projection of negativity just keeps the flame of inner sadness burning. Passive aggressive people assume that because they are supposedly covert in their negativity, that they aren't hurting themselves, when infact, the opposite is true.

Those who can see, can spot passive aggression from a mile away.
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Old 24-01-2016, 15:32
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She uses her folds of sagging blubber to intimidate everyone.
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Old 24-01-2016, 15:37
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The expression of her eyes which I mention related to personal sadness so I agree. It's her inner pain showing. She has a world of pain to fix inside of herself.

What people don't understand is, that the projection of negativity just keeps the flame of inner sadness burning. Passive aggressive people assume that because they are supposedly covert in their negativity, that they aren't hurting themselves, when infact, the opposite is true.

Those who can see, can spot passive aggression from a mile away.
yes I totally agree with you .. she takes genuine pleasure from other people's pain .. Hurt people hurt others ..
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Old 24-01-2016, 16:01
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yes I totally agree with you .. she takes genuine pleasure from other people's pain .. Hurt people hurt others ..
Interesting, particularly what coreywebster's post said.
youve heard of the phrase misery loves company? Unhappy people love to spread unhappiness. Happy people do the opposite.
Coreys post gave an interesting insight into what might be driving gemma, or any bully.
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Old 24-01-2016, 16:44
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Interesting, particularly what coreywebster's post said.
youve heard of the phrase misery loves company? Unhappy people love to spread unhappiness. Happy people do the opposite.
Coreys post gave an interesting insight into what might be driving gemma, or any bully.

Thousands of books have been written on this subject .. anyone can change but first they need to have integrity ... Money, fame , beauty , are just illusions and do not bring real happiness or respect ... if a person can't be honest with themselves then there whole life is a lie .. all human's make mistake's the quicker we learn to accept this and own it. the happier we become ...
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Old 24-01-2016, 16:58
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Isn't her clothes line also reliant to some extent on her size. Admittedly she doesn't need to be large to sell clothes to the larger lady but she certainly uses it to promote it.
I think a lot of 'larger ladies' would now see any significant weight loss as a 'betrayal' and might boycott her and her clothing range as a result. Especially if there was anything that could be perceived as 'cheating' and not accessible to the average woman such as a Gastric band paid for privately.

To answer the OP, it is everything previously stated. Her body language (including how she uses her size to loom and block), her repeating over statements over other people when they try to talk, her stirring, dripping poison into peoplek4 ears to turn them against individuals, her actively encouraging 'gang' mentality, her using 'telling it like it is' as an excuse to attack and belittle others but objecting to anybody saying anything to her, her judging what is acceptable, like it being okay for her to wake people up as she'd decided they "got back to sleep easily" but kicking off when somebody does it to her, her deciding who 'deserves' to be in the House or who is entertaining, her working on a 'quid pro quo' basis, expecting people to back her up whether she is right or wrong because she has done something nice for them so they know 'owe' her, picking on the most vulnerable, perceived by other people in the House and the Crowds reaction at evictions - note how Tiffany was fair game straight after 'Davidgate', then John after he nominated Darren, now Steph.

I could go on but will leave it there for now.
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Old 24-01-2016, 18:59
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When the negativity reaches a peak, the projection grows in potency and begins to manifest to the bearer.

Whether seen in a literal person (a camera man) or hallucination, those 'ghosts' of the house are actually allegorical, inner demons of themselves being brought into awareness.


http://bigbrother.channel5.com/gemma...aucepan-day-20
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Old 24-01-2016, 19:04
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What Makes Gemma A Bully

She's not! but nasty Steph is trying her utmost to convince the viewer that Gemma's a bully. She knows if you tell a lie long enough people believe it.
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Old 24-01-2016, 19:08
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Steph doesn't have to convince the viewer - we are seeing it very clearly played out before us!
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Old 24-01-2016, 19:11
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Gemma is very controlling much like John but with slightly different mannerisms thats all.

Controlling but a bully? Maybe.
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Old 24-01-2016, 19:16
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Gemma is very controlling much like John but with slightly different mannerisms thats all.

Controlling but a bully? Maybe.
I think they're both controlling and both want to be the alpha but he's more intelligent than she is so comes across as bossy rather than spiteful whereas she's got all the subtlety of a sledgehammer
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Old 24-01-2016, 19:20
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I think they're both controlling and both want to be the alpha but he's more intelligent than she is so comes across as bossy rather than spiteful whereas she's got all the subtlety of a sledgehammer
Yes. Definitely. However, with John I get an edge of nastiness that I don't get with Gemma. Had Gemma showed less ego then I think she could have done herself a lot of favours re: public.

Edit - just to add, I find that bizarre about John because he was very likeable at the start. But well - that may be part of a 'controlling' person's agenda (intentional or not) to win you round then twist things a little...
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Old 24-01-2016, 19:45
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She did lose 3 stone once and went down to a size 14 (more like 18) but said she didn't feel right being 'thin'

The thing is, her career is based on her size to a certain extent so if she loses weight, she loses part of her fanbase who love her as big Gemma



I know that she obviously does have a fanbase, but it's really hard to imagine the type of person who could hold her in high esteem.
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Old 24-01-2016, 19:47
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I'm sure it's already been said but I think it'd be far quicker and easier to list what makes her not a bully.
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Old 24-01-2016, 20:04
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What Makes Gemma A Bully

She's not! but nasty Steph is trying her utmost to convince the viewer that Gemma's a bully. She knows if you tell a lie long enough people believe it.
your post id so funny.

The viewers have their own thoughts on it.

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Old 24-01-2016, 20:06
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Gemma is very controlling much like John but with slightly different mannerisms thats all.

Controlling but a bully? Maybe.
I'm missing John's 'bullying'
when has he bullied ?
His overreaction to knickergate was childish , but i didn't see it as bullying

Gemma is a bully i agree as well, she disguises that by using her line " telling it how it is", she has no sensitivity to anything or anyone and no control switch, but she can't take it back, & she makes a massive scene of anything when someone doesn't agree with her

BB giving her what she wants is pandering to her diva demands, making her feel like she has more right to be in the house and say and do what she likes.is blatant
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