Originally Posted by hisdogspot:
“... and saying that before she came into the house her life was "perfect"”
Exactly.
That's why the suggestion that she has gone in as it is a 'safe' environment where she can have distance and never have to see him again on leaving doesn't make sense.
If she was thinking escape plans through to that extent, was that calculated, she wouldn't be going on about how much she loves him and how perfect her life is.
I'm not saying she'd have got straight in there and told everybody he is a monster who she is desperate to escape, but she wouldn't be bigging him and their relationship up either.
I think she'd probably just try to avoid talking about him at all and play the seriousness of the relationship down.
I think she is just deeply insecure (despite having a very high opinion of her talents) and needy in terms of wanting a boyfriend and fairytale marriage and kids ending. She can't bear to be alone, even for the brief period of BB and then the cabin pressure environment makes the connection to Jeremy even stronger and she is confused.
She is also very volatile and quite sulky. We've seen it, also that she seems to find it hard to take responsibility for her own actions, always blaming other people. If Sam is even close to the same, it is possible that they argue, perhaps in quite horrible ways and if she has related it to friends, they might read that as 'abusive'. Ewually, if Sam has said "i don't want you talking to men because you get drunk and flirty and tactile and they might think you're coming on to them", her friends might also see that as 'controlling'.
Which of course it is in a way, asking (telling) your Partner not to do something or talk to somebody is exerting some level of control but the motivation for it can also be understandable. For example if your partner drinks so much that they aren't safe when out re falling over, going off with strangers, you might tell them not to dirnk as much or at all. Which is trying to control them but done for the best of reasons - to keep them safe.
Really there are so many different possibilities as to what the truth of this situation is and only Sam and Steph can know for sure. Not any of us.