Originally Posted by dialectic:
“Ok.. Spin whatever narrative and fictional dancer stories you want, but You can't dance around the issue that John loaded the gun (loyal old Darren and Scotty T provided the bullets) in that situation to humiliate and shame Stephanie in a public arena.Tiffany twigged it was his doing and confronted him, yet he denied what he did. His manipulations have worked though, didn't they? You are all, gleefully, having a right old bitch about 'dirty' 'skanky' Stephanie.
Well I have nothing more to say and don't want to keep you from the objective of this thread...I'm feeling a bit nauseous in here.”
I'm spinning NOTHING. I'm a bit familiar with that world.
Darren has a wife and daughters, why not have a go at HIM?
John denied deliberately going out to humiliate Steph, and that was actually TRUE.
Tiff saw an opportunity to confront John for air time and also because she thought at the time that Johnny was or MIGHT be, playing some deep GAME, (as she is, I'm not critisizing her here). The knickers were a SIDE issue, that much is obvious.
That conversation failed to go as Tiff wanted because John wasn't PLAYING Tiff's game.
He handled her magnificently, and she handled herself magnificently, they were BOTH sparring and jousting and trying to UNDERSTAND each other and their roles and relationships and their relationship with each other.
And THAT was when I started to respect Tiff, she couldn't FACE Johnny and carry on the game, and he was determined to be real in a way she could understand and take.
I gained huge respect for Tiff as a person by watching that conversation. That's when I realised she didn't buy into her own hype, that she was clever and a player, but a HUMAN being underneath that, who understood how complicated it was here.
John didn't want to hurt Steph, he wasn't thinking, but that wasn't his object.
And it isn't JOHN'S fault over knickergate that Steph is being seen as skanky, I'm afraid.
It's the fact that she STILL hasn't washed herself or her clothes and is in borrowed pyjamas which is her CHOICE.
Don't take that choice away from her. Now that would be patronising. She has to learn to OWN her own choices.