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Old 10-02-2016, 13:36
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If you was Ben would you stick with Abi or go for Paul Cocker?

I'd stick with Abi, she seems a good shot at a nice stable family life for him. With Paul he will forever be running, with Abi she genuinely loves him (and would do anything for him), he cares for her.. I think he could also help his dad Phil (maybe) once he's a grandad.

I think Paul is too confused, and will just break Ben's heart one-day. Abi seems like the faithful, loyal type.. until Whitney poisons her !
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Old 10-02-2016, 13:40
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No. He should be true to himself. Living a lie is bot the best way for anyone to live by. He and Abi need to end the relationship before Abi turns control freak and trapping him in a toxic relationship. I'd rathee he not be with Paul. I'd much rather Ben get with Johnny or something but not straight away. Paul needs to leave.
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Old 10-02-2016, 13:43
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If you was Ben would you stick with Abi or go for Paul Cocker?

I'd stick with Abi, she seems a good shot at a nice stable family life for him. With Paul he will forever be running, with Abi she genuinely loves him (and would do anything for him), he cares for her.. I think he could also help his dad Phil (maybe) once he's a grandad.

I think Paul is too confused, and will just break Ben's heart one-day. Abi seems like the faithful, loyal type.. until Whitney poisons her !
But if you were Ben, you would be gay
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Old 10-02-2016, 13:45
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God no. I'm sure that in real life there are couples who both live out their entire lives in denial quite contentedly as long as neither has what the other is up to on the side thrown in their faces but watching this pair go round in circles is dull.
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Old 10-02-2016, 13:51
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If you was Ben would you stick with Abi or go for Paul Cocker?

I'd stick with Abi, she seems a good shot at a nice stable family life for him. With Paul he will forever be running, with Abi she genuinely loves him (and would do anything for him), he cares for her.. I think he could also help his dad Phil (maybe) once he's a grandad.

I think Paul is too confused, and will just break Ben's heart one-day. Abi seems like the faithful, loyal type.. until Whitney poisons her !
Do you actually watch the show? Paul is far from being confused. Ben knows he's gay but doesn't want to be because it confuses his life. Abi and Philth confuse things for him but whether it be Paul or some other lad he is definitely 110% gay, therefore, should not be with Abi.

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Old 10-02-2016, 14:15
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If you was Ben would you stick with Abi or go for Paul Cocker?

I'd stick with Abi, she seems a good shot at a nice stable family life for him. With Paul he will forever be running, with Abi she genuinely loves him (and would do anything for him), he cares for her.. I think he could also help his dad Phil (maybe) once he's a grandad.

I think Paul is too confused, and will just break Ben's heart one-day. Abi seems like the faithful, loyal type.. until Whitney poisons her !

No he should not stick with Abbi, he is gay and pretending he isn't only damages himself.

Ben can meet a nice guy, settle down and have a family, he does not have to pretend to be straight in order to "have a shot at a nice stable family life"

As for Paul you seem to have no idea about his character at all, Paul wants a committed relationship with Ben...

For the record I don't like Paul and wish Ben would finish with both Abbie and Paul and meet a new guy that he actually has chemistry with!
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Old 10-02-2016, 14:20
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If he wants to live a miserable lie of a life, then yeah he should
Hopefully he doesn't
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Old 10-02-2016, 14:23
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No.

He clearly cares a lot for Abi, but as a friend, nothing more. If he sticks with her, he will only come to resent her because he is trying to be something he isn't.

Of course with the baby twist he will be put in a very difficult situation, but ultimately I think he has to be true to himself and as hard as it would be I would like to see Phil accept that - it kind of seemed like he had, before Ben went back into the closet and told his dad it was just a phase.
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Old 10-02-2016, 14:32
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If he wants to live a miserable lie of a life, then yeah he should
Hopefully he doesn't
It's not like his life has been puppies and rainbows , he might see it as stable and better than what he got before .
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Old 10-02-2016, 14:51
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It's not like his life has been puppies and rainbows , he might see it as stable and better than what he got before .
and then in time, he will become miserable and maybe depressed because he is living a lie and repressing his sexuality.
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Old 10-02-2016, 15:11
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No. I would like to see him with Paul.
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Old 10-02-2016, 15:18
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Why would a gay man stay in a relationship with a woman?
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Old 10-02-2016, 15:22
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Why would a gay man stay in a relationship with a woman?
Depends on the situation. Mostly down to fear
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Old 10-02-2016, 15:54
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No because he gay and tbh I don't know who's worse Abi or Paul....he shouldn't stay with either, Abi wrong for obvious reason but Paul is just blah.
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Old 10-02-2016, 16:05
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No, he should be honest that he is bi sexual but appears more drawn to men. The only women he gets involved with end up pregnant, if the latest rumours are true.
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Old 10-02-2016, 16:07
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No, he should be honest that he is bi sexual but appears more drawn to men. The only women he gets involved with end up pregnant, if the latest rumours are true.
He's not bi-sexual he's gay.

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Old 10-02-2016, 16:45
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It is pretty obvious how this is going to play out thanks to latest spoilers and the whole Johnny Carter recasting.

Ben will stick with Abi, Paul gets heartbroken....Enter Johnny (for paul) and to make ben jealous who will then confess everything.
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Old 10-02-2016, 17:30
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No, he should be honest that he is bi sexual but appears more drawn to men. The only women he gets involved with end up pregnant, if the latest rumours are true.
He's not bisexual. His problems wouldn't exist if he was attracted to Abi physically. Being more attracted to one gender, doesn't erase attraction to the other gender. He doesn't like women.
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Old 10-02-2016, 17:43
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He's gay. Abi has complained before about their lack of a sex life. He should be with Paul and accept who he is rather than live a lie.

Is it me or has Abi lost a huge amount of weight? She used to be curvy but now looks tiny. She seemed very different when she came back from holiday.
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Old 10-02-2016, 17:49
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It is pretty obvious how this is going to play out thanks to latest spoilers and the whole Johnny Carter recasting.

Ben will stick with Abi, Paul gets heartbroken....Enter Johnny (for paul) and to make ben jealous who will then confess everything.
I's rathwr Gianluca returned eith Johnny if he doesn't get with Ben. Paul should just leave.
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Old 10-02-2016, 17:50
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He's not bi-sexual he's gay.

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Correct. He's gay at the moment but in a few months time TPTB might decide that he is no longer gay
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Old 10-02-2016, 17:58
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He's gay. Abi has complained before about their lack of a sex life. He should be with Paul and accept who he is rather than live a lie.

Is it me or has Abi lost a huge amount of weight? She used to be curvy but now looks tiny. She seemed very different when she came back from holiday.
I noticed a change in Lorna's weight around last year but the poor girl was a victim of abuse from people on twitter, so she may of felt pressured.
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Old 10-02-2016, 17:59
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Do you actually watch the show? Paul is far from being confused. Ben knows he's gay but doesn't want to be because it confuses his life. Abi and Philth confuse things for him but whether it be Paul or some other lad he is definitely 110% gay, therefore, should not be with Abi.

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I agree, Ben needs to find true love, & imo. that is not with ABi or Paul.

He is gay, so it is not fair on himself or Abi, to stay with her.
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Old 10-02-2016, 18:13
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Denying your sexuality is not a good way to live your life so Ben should definitely finish with Abi.

I quite like Paul but it's a bit early to decide if Ben should be with him or not.
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Old 10-02-2016, 18:15
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I still don't like the way that the writers are turning Paul and Ben into some sort of star-crosssed lovers who can't be together. Zero chemistry. All they ever did was shag and never really had a proper conversation. Romeo and Romeo, they are not.
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