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Fancy An 18 Year Old!
Master Ozzy
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I'm 29 (and gay) and will be 30 in December. The other night I was out with a friend and we were having a few drinks in a bar and this guy and a girl came and sat on the seats near us in the bar. Eventually the guy went to the toilet and while he was gone the girl started chatting to us. Turned out the guy she was with was her brother. Anyway, eventually he came back from the toilet and she introduced him to me and my friend. The four of us were chatting for ages and they were both really, really nice. It was obvious that they were both younger than us. The girl was in her early twenties and it turned out that the guy had only turned 18 the day before! Anyway, they were both really nice and we ended up staying out with them the whole night and showing them around London and didn't get home until 7am. Now, I never ever go for young guys...they've never been my type. However, this guy was very good looking, but it was his personality I was more drawn to. For such a young age he was very mature. We exchanged numbers at the end of the night, but more as in a friend way...even though I could tell that he fancied me. I didn't bother messaging him or anything, however I've just been on Tinder which I go on once in a blue bloody moon and he ended up popping up. We ended up matching. I'm not sure what to do though...he's a really, really nice guy I do fancy him, but I've never dated someone so young. I'm a nightmare and so fussy and find it hard to find someone I connect with. I'm not really sure whether to pursue this or not and see what happens. Has anyone been in a similar position and has any advice?
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You're both of age, so there's nothing wrong with a fling. However, nothing serious is likely to come of it, and I think you know that or your wouldn't be asking for advice.
I don't think 18 and 29 (11 years difference) as an age gap is a bad thing or particularly abnormal.
It sounds like it would be based on solid foundations (ie. good personality match rather than just looks) so if you're both happy, go for it!
Same with 23 year old Sandy, who's recently gone on maternity leave, I think she's wonderful, funny, gorgeous, bossy, she's like a bossy little sister to me really, but even I knew her under better circumstances I'd still be 16 years and 4 and half months her senior, too big a gap IMHO.
I live in London and he lives about 30 minutes outside. He had been to London loads before, but had only ever done tourist stuff.
Big gap (close to above) between my sister and her longterm boyfriend who she's been with for 30 years but never married strangely.
I know a few more between 10-20 years too. So really does depend on the individual.
Sometimes it's a fling, sometimes you end up friends, sometimes ...
Can I ask, are your carers for Aspergers?
I didn't know you needed them for that.
That and other things too personal to divulge on the Internet.
The 18 year old you could be quite different from the 18 year old guy in question. The OP says he came across as mature for his age.
I would say make contact and see what happens. Maybe he's not attracted to other 18 year olds,
If anything he might like an older man, you never know.
My partner is 11 years older than myself. We have been together almost 21 years and are getting married in June.
Go for it I say!
Good luck.
Just remember the unwritten rule: half your age plus seven years is considered socially acceptable by many. Not that it matters either way, go for it and good luck!
Rupert Murdoch is well inside that 85 versus 59
Aw good luck! Hope it goes well