thank you! I have seen your post too and send my love - hope you are doing ok

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rescue cat problem!

had them 2 weeks - mother NOT settled AT ALL, hissing, growling and generally just not happy - hates daughter going anywhere near her - attacked her on saturday - have spoken to rescue centre and they are happy to have her back as it seems to me (and them) she needs to be in a home where she is the only cat..........

I hate the fact that I am giving up on her and sending her back BUT at the same time I feel that I cant give her what she wants - a home to herself - which isnt going to happen if she stays with me and the daughter.........

I dont like, for want of a better phrase, backing out of an agreement and I agreed to give these 2 cats a loving, caring home and I am not providing that if mother goes back............

huge dilema

I dont know if mother needs more time.............

doesnt matter

decision made

she attacked daughter again last night and this morning so I have made the difficult decision to take her back

the rescue centre agree that I am doing the right thing and she needs to be rehomed in a house where she is the only cat

Aww katt I'm so sorry - I've only just seen your post. We had a bit of a day at House Relly, what with one thing and another.

But I also think you're doing the right thing, and I don't think you should be feeling guilty. The original instructions for the cats were that they shouldn't be separated. I feel some (or all) of the issue lies with that instruction. The two obviously can't be together - they would have settled by now under normal circumstances. My rather bitchy torty accepted a new female and her kittens in a shorter time than you've had your two new ones, and she was established with us.

Please don't feel too badly about this.

thanks - hope all is ok at House Relly!!

Tink went back yesterday and I feel terribly guilty and I actually hate myself for taking her back

I know deep down it was the right thing to do because ultimately she will be much happier in a single cat home but I just feel so sad and terribly guilty that I took her back - she cried all the way there and it broke my heart - again - cats have a habit of doing this to me lately

Yes thanks, katt - things are fine now. The "bit of a day" at ours involved my son's stolen motorbike, the fact that it was found miles away three days later (the day of my post), and a bloody stubborn garage owner refusing to give the bike back without paying an 'accommodation' fee, despite the Police picking up the bill because the officers on the scene didn't give my son a choice between collecting it himself or having it taken to said garage. The bloody man wanted £150 for a few hours' custody of the bike! My part of the "day" involved yelling at said garage owner and crying down the phone at a very lovely Police Inspector who eventually sorted it all out with the bloody man (with a bit of parade-ground yelling involved, I believe).

Anyway, like I said, it's all sorted now - the bike's home and locked in the garage, a little worse for wear but safe, and my son's happier than he was.

But, back on topic (sorry!), you're bound to be feeling like that - your emotions are very VERY bruised at the moment. Losing Olive hit you hard, and it won't take much to push you into tears, I reckon.

Please don't beat yourself up about Tink. I do still honestly believe the Rescue had a big part to play in the fact that she had to go back. She was obviously not suitable to be kept with her daughter. And, as you said, maybe now Tink can find a home more to her liking, so you did her a favour, rather than stringing it all out in the hope she'd settle.

Chin up, katt. Your little one will help you get over things in time. *hugs* x