Originally Posted by Sarah777:
“Wife storming out after an argument and sleeping in the car???. It does not add up with the above theory.”
Let's say the 'affair' happened. If the dead player found out before (earlier in the day, or days/weeks before) and he was in such a state about it (to the point that he would take his own life) why would he and his wife, in such crisis, agree to go to a party like they did that night? Wouldn't you make an excuse to get out of it? I certainly would.
If the dead player found out that very night (after they had arrived home) would a highly competitive sportsman, meekly throw his hands up in defeat and kill himself there and then(with his sons sleeping above), or would he lash out and get in his car to seek out the scumbag who had slept with his wife? Personally I think it would've been the second.
That night the others at the party and the taxi driver, who took them home, said they seemed fine with each other. The player even ended up fully clothed in a swimming pool.
So it sounds like they had an argument after they got home. What about? Well, I obviously don't know. But couples can have arguments about all kinds of things(not just when one of them has had an affair), especially couples who haven't been getting on for a long time.
My theory is this. The player is said to have had clinical depression. Living with someone with that can be hard enough. Throw long-term sexual frustration in to the mix (and someone who is a closed book) and you've got a time bomb on your hands. This man, despite his public image, may have been a total nightmare to live with. If he was extremely unhappy, then she would have been the one to bare the brunt. Her ending up in the car? Well that could've been a regular occurrence.
So, if he was this desperate and on the edge of tipping over, why did he go to a bloody party? Well, I believe he went because that's what he did. He put on a front (like he'd done for years) and got on with it. And then as soon as he got home, he started to unravel. They argued (probably triggered by him, because by this point, his nerves were shredded) and she stormed off because, quite frankly, she was sick of it.
He probably felt stuck in a loop of misery: he tries his best, he gets frustrated, he takes it out on her, he tries his best again and so on... He can't bring himself to say whats troubling him so it goes on and on. That night he finally accepted that it was never going to end. He lost hope and gave up.
If that 'affair' had happened it would've been a massive scandal. The press would've fought tooth and nail to print it. The dead player's former teammates would've happily fed info to the press just to get back at 'the teammate' that did the dirty on him. And like I said, I do not believe 'the teammate' would be able to carry on in football as if nothing had happened.
I do agree that she was a bit 'vague' that night. But why does that automatically mean that she is protecting herself? I think she's protecting him and their sons.