Originally Posted by
Debatable:
“I too found the crash funny, especially when Paige jumped out - it just looked hilarious her flying through the air... 
Talking of Paige, so what if she fancied Jack when she first met him and so what if her attraction to him influenced her decision to watch over him... is that a crime? Does it take anything away from the fact she needed a distraction from her grief? Or that she wanted to invest in the person who saved her life? If he had been a fat, balding ugly man and she did the same thing I'm sure there would still be shouts on here about how selfish she is to abandon her family just for a random fat, ugly stranger...
It doesn't matter how it's presented to me - I just don't see anything selfish about wanting to care for, watch over and ultimately help a random stranger who saved your life - the fact that he's a good looking man is neither here nor there and I don't think anyone can judge what they would do in a similar situation... Up to the point she found out he was a priest and still pursued him, she can't be held at fault for spending time with him and wanting to be there for him - heaven forbid she, as a single woman, finds a single man attractive
- So selfish!”
Yes, you're right - if Paige had sat by the bedside of a fat, ugly, old bloke) or woman) I would still feel that she had let he family down at a time they really needed her and she should have put aside what she needed to do to get through for their sakes.
But i would have understood it more and had more sympathy for her avoidance tactics as she is young (22 when it happened) and possibly hasn't had to deal with losing a loved one so didn't know how to cope or who to ask.
I do get that, i really do.
But her prioritizing how she dealt with her feelings over being their for her family was selfish. It just was. I have lost numerous people from when i was 6 years old into young adulthood and even now into middle age and it is not just about you - it is about looking after the other people that have also lost that person. Possibly people who were closer to them, than you were as would have been the case with her father losing his father and son, on the same day. When the grandparents that died in my teenage and young adult years went, my primary concern was for my Mum who was grieving for a parent - i put my grief to one side to support her.
Maybe i'm unusual in feeling like that, but I'm afraid i am going to judge Paige's support (or lack of) for her family in relation to what ui have done and experienced - especially as my brother was pretty crap re supporting our father or me when my Mum died so know how it feels for somebody to close in like that from the other side.
I hurt, i wanted to hide, i wanted to find anything else to do but I didn't because I knew my Dad needed me and practicalities had to be dealt with.
And i do still believe that she would not have been glued to the person that 'saved' her side if she had,'t fancied him.
That does make a huge difference to her motives and morality.