I think her attitude towards sex steps on my morals. The having sex with a friends partner in their bed is bad. Imo

I am the OP of this thread, and I'm obviously in the minority with my views. However, I stick by what I said!

I honestly think that if any of you Guys that so vehemently disagree with me found out that your Mum or Sister had been shafted by loads of blokes, then you would definitely be massively embarrassed and ashamed. I simply don't believe you when you say otherwise.

One of the earlier post's said something like 'I don't go with loads of people myself but I don't think it's wrong if others do...blah blah'........well if you can't see anything wrong with it, then why feel the need to say you don't sleep around?

Similarly, you enlightened Guys out there.......I also don't believe you when you hint that you wouldn't care about how many sexual partners your wife may have been with. So you really wouldn't mind if you found out all of a sudden that your Missus had been with 500 blokes before you????? Nah - don't believe it guys, sorry!

Any Clerks fans out there?

"37 Dicks??????"..........I'm with Dante on that one.

Why did you feel the need state that you haven't been with loads of Men if you thinks it's OK?

Because if I was the type, I'd obviously think it was acceptable wouldn't I? Or I wouldn't do it.

I was merely trying to make the point that even though I live my life differently to Laura for example, I don't think it's fair that men and women should be judged differently in this day and age. The man is a stud if he puts it about but a woman is a slut because she does the same? Is it the bleddy '50s?

Because noone needs validation from people on the bloody internet as to what's acceptable or not

Maybe YOUR arrogance is showing in the fact that you think you should be able to tell me what you think is 'deserving' of it's own thread, and where I should post it!

Thou shalt feel judged on the Internet.

Exactly! So why feel the need to mention how many people you have been with? It's irrelevant.

Unless you secretly believe that you will be judged if people think you are 'easy?'

Yes. We've all been transported back to the dark ages.

I would but I would feel the same way if it were a male family member who had slept with a lot of women.

Human nature doesn't change Love, whether you choose to admit it or not.

I defy ANYONE to tell me HONESTLY that they would't care if a Female family member of theirs was having sex with a different bloke every night.

You may not like it, but it's a FACT that it is more acceptable in society for Men to sleep around than it is for Women, and not many blokes would want to Marry a woman who had been with numerous sexual partners.

I feel like the fact that I am a male and you are a Female gives me a small advantage regarding how Men think.

It's short sighted to think that women and men are equal in all things, simple biology affirms that can never be true. Men can't get pregnant, women can, that's the major difference in this argument and that's why the "slut" idea is still with us. You can be as libertarian and ideologistic as you please, but you just aren't being logical if you think the sexes are equal. Honestly it's a deep dicussion and I don't have time to go deeper right now. So yeah, please accept this post in a mature adult way as I may get angry at childish responses. And you wouldn't like me when I'm angry.

Quite correct mate! At last, a bit of honesty!

How refreshing to see such a polite and intelligent response. I agree that a childish response would be entirely inappropriate.

However, aside from the moral issue,I must add that the problem with going with a bird who's been rodgered by all and sundry means there is a fair chance she will have a Clunge like a Pelican's Yawn.

For those of us with (let's say) a more petite Willy, this vastly increases the chance of hearing the dreaded words "Is it in yet?"

So as well as the moral argument, there are real practical implications here!

Maybe you would feel a bit dodgy about it if it was your Dad, but you wouldn't feel ANYWHERE NEAR as badly about it as you would if everyone knew your MUM was getting a portion from every Man and his Dog.

Who mentioned sexual performance? It's extremely unattractve to go out with a woman who has had a lot of sexual partners. It's biologically hardwired into our brains.

If a woman wants to sleep around, good luck to her. There is nothing wrong with that if that's what she wants. But I'm allowed to find that a real turnoff. it is a massive turn off for a lot of men.

A woman can rack up 50 partners in a week if she wants. A man has to put serious work, investment and time into getting 50 partners. This is a fact of human behaviour and is a good example of how different it is for each gender.

Where does this fear of accepting difference come from?

It is just sex, so F'ing what. I would love to shag her, I make no apologies for that.

I bet you wouldn't say that if you found out your Mum had been shagged by half the blokes in your street!

You seem to have a real hang up about this.

It may not be right (for either gender) but what your Mum did is in the past you can't change it.

Agree totally mate! However, I bet you wouldn't like to be sitting next to her as your Bride on the Top Wedding table, with your Best Man joking about the time he double-team'ed her with another one of the lads.

It's a wonder she isn't riddled with sexual diseases. She is a disgusting person.

Agree, but I also think men would get hated for acting in the same way. They'd be called pervy, creepy, they'd get warnings for offensive language etc... and they wouldn't be popular on here either. I mean, Marco is a bit like that and I wouldn't say he was popular on here at all. Actually seen more posts slagging him off than Laura, and he was the one who got the warning from BB.

lol perhaps but really if she is single, and I heard Marco has a fiance, so he should back off. But I think she is pure sex with that voice and just the look of her.

Well, if you are hinting that I would be upset if I found out that my Mum had been with lots of different sexual partners, then YES - I would be VERY VERY upset and embarrassed about it, of course.

Luckily, I haven't heard anything like this, so I'm ok.

Are you telling me that you WOULDN'T be upset if you found something out like this about YOUR Mother?

I'd appreciate an honest response please.

But that is only because of how women are perceived within our society. How many other parts of the world treat women differently than we do here in the western world? Fortunately a few, and as a result of not perceiving women the way that we do, the interactions and response to female sexuality is different.

Not everyone is going to agree with you. Obviously, you are entitled to be as staunch in your view as you want, as that is how you are interacting with the world, and that is 100% fact for you. But not everyone else experiences the world through the filter that you use to perceive it. It is important to remember that.

We live in a misogynistic, patriarchal society that has ridiculous hang-ups regarding sex. Couple sexuality - which in its own right is taboo - with that of femininity, which has all sorts of screwy reasoning attached to it, and you are going to get what we have today. It is ALL about perception.

If I found out a female family member was sleeping with a different man every night, I would not be happy. But NOT because she is a woman and ought to be behaving with more 'class.' Fact of the matter is, women like sex. A LOT! The reason why I would not be happy is because of how the whole thing is set up. As you said yourself, it is largely seen as ok for men to sleep with loads of women and be praised for it. Women doing the same thing is frowned upon. It is largely ok for men to use women sexually, and everyone applauds it. If women do it, they are evil vixens. We, as women always get the raw end of the deal. So for a woman to be engaging in sex with a different man every night, it MIGHT suggest to me that they don't very high self-worth, due to the fact that it is a well known fact that men will often use women for sex and then toss her away after she has become a notch on his bedpost. I would want that female family member to want more for herself. Nobody is happy when they are being used for what is between their legs, and it is more common for women to be pursued PURELY for what is between their legs. Plus, I would be worried about her getting STD's, and if she was being safe. But the actual Sex would not be the issue for me. Her emotional and physical safety would be, and even then I could be wrong and she could be having sex with a different man every night from a place of empowerment. Not everything is black and white.

If it was a male family member, I would be questioning his motive for doing so, because of the ideas about male sexuality that our society perpetuates. But I would be concerned for his emotional and physical health just the same as with the female family member. It is important to remember that we all have, installed within us, societal programming.