Originally Posted by chuck_wippl:
“I see. Well personally, I don't disregard it, but I also don't see it as an excuse to her awful behaviour.
It's like saying "I'm allowed to be a complete bitch because I'm insecure and damaged, and it's all your fault you're making me act like this because I don't know how to deal with someone being nice to me"
WTF? No sympathy from me. She's just a bad egg. Get rid.”
Why is that the first thing that people jump to? I will never tell anyone to excuse another person's behavior just because they are, in their own right, also a victim. But it is important in life to try to understand other people, and why they do what they do, or why they perceive the world the way that they do. It's like our prison systems, which are punishment based. There is little trying to understand and then trying to rehabilitate, or fix the system/enviroments that inspired the crimes in the first place. It is just about punishment because people are angry and want retribution. Then when these criminals are released into society they are worse off because they were not assisted in any way. They were punished, and then we moan when people re-offend.
Very rarely is it as simple as people just being bad eggs. There is a reason why people are the way they are - a reason why people engage in detrimental and damaging behaviors. But because people are often put off by the outward behavior, people just condemn, and that is where it starts and ends.