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Old 03-01-2017, 16:45
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Old 03-01-2017, 16:48
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Is it really that difficult for people to check their posts for errors before they move on from this topic? Quotes aren't working..
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Old 03-01-2017, 18:14
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Have you considered on-line dating? things like Match make the process of just finding someone to actually go out on a date with so much easier. I much prefer it to hanging round a bar and being chatted up by some beery guy

Also a dining club can make getting to know you much easier and going to a place with a group of people and being able to have a conversation with someone
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Old 03-01-2017, 18:28
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Yeah, I was on Plenty of Fish for about 6 months i got viewed but no one sent me messages. I think would prefer special interest groups now which i am hoping to do more of this year. Last year wasn't a great year for me but 2017 and beyond is going to be the change i need.
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Old 03-01-2017, 18:44
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You said you'll try to lose weight. How overweight are you at the moment? Good luck.
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Old 03-01-2017, 18:50
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Have you considered on-line dating? things like Match make the process of just finding someone to actually go out on a date with so much easier. I much prefer it to hanging round a bar and being chatted up by some beery guy
Yeah, I was on Plenty of Fish for about 6 months i got viewed but no one sent me messages. I think would prefer special interest groups now which i am hoping to do more of this year. Last year wasn't a great year for me but 2017 and beyond is going to be the change i need.
This has been covered so much already, but places like PoF, and other dating apps/sites aren't going to cut it.

Firstly, there are more guys on those sites than women, and (apparently) women are fussier than guys when it comes to matching up; someone posted a report of some sort about it not that long ago (on here). I've used OKcupid, and out of curiosity did a search over Christmas for local women, and local men all between 25 & 35 years of age. There was quite literally nine or ten men to every woman counted.

Back on Sunday, on my phone, I had PoF, OKcupid, Tinder, and Bumble. Yesterday, with the new year in mind, I removed all the apps from my phone, went onto meetup.com, and started up a social group for 20's & 30's in my local area. As of today, there are 21 members attached to the group, seven of which have 'signed on' for a meet next Thursday at a local pub.

I figure if I'm going to meet anyone, it'll be in the real world, where there's more to people than their appearance and what they can type about. I would really urge you to do something similar; not necessarily start up a group of your own, but there must be local groups of similar setting? Have a look (meetup.com); it doesn't cost anything to join or use, there's only a fee if you create a group. You can join and socialise with others free of charge (though some hosts do ask for donations, but they're usually optional).
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Old 03-01-2017, 19:44
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You said you'll try to lose weight. How overweight are you at the moment? Good luck.
I am about 17 Stone now. I would like to get down to 10-11
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Old 03-01-2017, 19:45
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This has been covered so much already, but places like PoF, and other dating apps/sites aren't going to cut it.

Firstly, there are more guys on those sites than women, and (apparently) women are fussier than guys when it comes to matching up; someone posted a report of some sort about it not that long ago (on here). I've used OKcupid, and out of curiosity did a search over Christmas for local women, and local men all between 25 & 35 years of age. There was quite literally nine or ten men to every woman counted.

Back on Sunday, on my phone, I had PoF, OKcupid, Tinder, and Bumble. Yesterday, with the new year in mind, I removed all the apps from my phone, went onto meetup.com, and started up a social group for 20's & 30's in my local area. As of today, there are 21 members attached to the group, seven of which have 'signed on' for a meet next Thursday at a local pub.

I figure if I'm going to meet anyone, it'll be in the real world, where there's more to people than their appearance and what they can type about. I would really urge you to do something similar; not necessarily start up a group of your own, but there must be local groups of similar setting? Have a look (meetup.com); it doesn't cost anything to join or use, there's only a fee if you create a group. You can join and socialise with others free of charge (though some hosts do ask for donations, but they're usually optional).

Actually its quite good you say that because i was looking at Meetup just the other day and it seems really good.
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Old 03-01-2017, 20:24
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That's a really positive attitude Sam.

Being in a relationship IS lovely, but it's not everything. It can also cause terrible pain if you are with the wrong person. So you at doing the right thing, living your life and just seeing what happens.

Be happy and keep us posted. X
its amazing what happens when you least expect it and being with the right person can help you "change your tune."

hopefully it will all work out for the op.
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Old 03-01-2017, 20:25
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Actually its quite good you say that because i was looking at Meetup just the other day and it seems really good.
I am so glad you're still being positive and making plans for the future Sam. I know a couple of people who have used 'Meetup' and they say it is great. Like minded people meeting up and going to places they'd be unlikely to go to alone.

Never give up hope of finding love. It can find you when you least expect it and in the most unlikely of places. Just don't get hooked up on finding 'the one', as the hunt can be exhausting and very depressing. Just live your life and you will find love when the time (and person) is right for you. And when they are, they won't worry if you aren't 'beach body fit'! They will just love you for being you.

Good luck and take care x
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Old 04-01-2017, 17:19
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Back on Sunday, on my phone, I had PoF, OKcupid, Tinder, and Bumble. Yesterday, with the new year in mind, I removed all the apps from my phone, went onto meetup.com, and started up a social group for 20's & 30's in my local area. As of today, there are 21 members attached to the group, seven of which have 'signed on' for a meet next Thursday at a local pub.

I figure if I'm going to meet anyone, it'll be in the real world, where there's more to people than their appearance and what they can type about. I would really urge you to do something similar; not necessarily start up a group of your own, but there must be local groups of similar setting? Have a look (meetup.com); it doesn't cost anything to join or use, there's only a fee if you create a group. You can join and socialise with others free of charge (though some hosts do ask for donations, but they're usually optional).
Personally I've found Match to be better than most of the others. the only thing I got from OkCupid were a couple of obviously Catfishes and a few young guys looking for a older woman. Never tried Tinder it always seemed to be a younger persons thing
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Old 04-01-2017, 17:53
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Personally I've found Match to be better than most of the others. the only thing I got from OkCupid were a couple of obviously Catfishes and a few young guys looking for a older woman. Never tried Tinder it always seemed to be a younger persons thing
I haven't tried Match myself, though I imagine it quite different for women; not just match, but dating sites in general. OkCupid, I'm not convinced it has, or ever will grow enough. The members (by comparison to PoF) is limited. Tinder generally does seem to be for youngsters, you're right, and most of them aren't looking for long-term partners through it either.
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Personally I've found Match to be better than most of the others. the only thing I got from OkCupid were a couple of obviously Catfishes and a few young guys looking for a older woman. Never tried Tinder it always seemed to be a younger persons thing
I tried eHarmony for a while at about 80% off a few years ago. Like has been said, it's just for the ladies who can take their pick from the hundreds of men who contact them.

I wouldn't pay for online dating again, I was watching their email offers but have recently unsubscribed. POF looked promising but seemed to attract a lot of time wasters, and even they have now made annoying restrictions unless you pay.
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Old Yesterday, 10:29
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I wouldn't bother, mate. You just end up taking them out, buying them drinks, spending money on them, looking after them amongst lechy blokes, and then they'll refuse to see you. Just not worth it.
Perhaps you should change your name to Sadman.

Good advice from launderman, get your driving test done, a nice little Vauxhall. Get some nice gear and go out with your mates, forget women, they will just bleed you dry..
You must be his mate, Sad Wingman.

Find yourself a nice man, most women are nothing but trouble
Most straight guys would prefer the most troublesome woman in the world to George Clooney.
Thank Christ I never had need of online dating, it's not rocket science, get close enough, but don't scare them, stay just outside their comfort zone and say something innocuous that makes them smile.
As soon as they realise that you're no danger, they'll be laughing with you, not at you.
After a while, once you're sure of yourself, suggest meeting for a glass of wine and a chat somewhere, maybe she'll say no, so what, you know what you're doing now, dust yourself off and jump back in, just keep it friendly and make them feel at ease.
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I am about 17 Stone now. I would like to get down to 10-11
Yes, that should definitely help. It will do your confidence good too. 17 stone, even if you're tall, is pretty heavy. Best of luck.
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Old Yesterday, 14:47
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Hi, im 23 years old and nearly 24. I've never had a Girlfriend before or even kissed any girl. It is really getting me down as my Step Bro/Step Sis and Friends have all found people. They have all learnt to drive and i don't seem to find any confidence. I Have autisim and it just seems like no Girl will be ever interested in me. What do i do
Go to the pub, sit/stand at the bar, have a few drinks a couple times a week. A girlfriend will result within a month.
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Well something really good happened today. I had just finished for the day at college and decided to go and get my haircut. A man came and even though i had come in first i let him have his hair cut first, this is because our barbers is quite small so only two people work there at one time.

Anyway this lady who was waiting for her husband said to me that it was so nice to see a young man have some manners, i told her about the course that i was doing and she said i should seize the opportunity that comes to me and she told me about a number of work and voluntary work i could do from Travel & Tourism. I told her i am aiming to get a distinction on my course and she said that she knows i will because i am very enthusiastic and she said make 2017 my year.

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Well something really good happened today. I had just finished for the day at college and decided to go and get my haircut. A man came and even though i had come in first i let him have his hair cut first, this is because our barbers is quite small so only two people work there at one time.

Anyway this lady who was waiting for her husband said to me that it was so nice to see a young man have some manners, i told her about the course that i was doing and she said i should seize the opportunity that comes to me and she told me about a number of work and voluntary work i could do from Travel & Tourism. I told her i am aiming to get a distinction on my course and she said that she knows i will because i am very enthusiastic and she said make 2017 my year.

Live now, make now the most precious time. Now will never come again.

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Live now, make now the most precious time. Now will never come again.

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Old Yesterday, 18:56
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Perhaps you should change your name to Sadman.



You must be his mate, Sad Wingman.



Most straight guys would prefer the most troublesome woman in the world to George Clooney.
Thank Christ I never had need of online dating, it's not rocket science, get close enough, but don't scare them, stay just outside their comfort zone and say something innocuous that makes them smile.
As soon as they realise that you're no danger, they'll be laughing with you, not at you.
After a while, once you're sure of yourself, suggest meeting for a glass of wine and a chat somewhere, maybe she'll say no, so what, you know what you're doing now, dust yourself off and jump back in, just keep it friendly and make them feel at ease.
Nice Top Gun reference but Viper is over on dogs.
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