Originally Posted by Rhumbatugger:
“Good and interesting post Alrightmate.
The problem is that MOST of us feel this dichotomy from either direction - 'I'm nice even though I bloody HATE that barsteward for saying something I don't like, even though he might have a point, I'm not listening' because he's a snob etc.
And - 'we are all the same as people, we are all valuable, but my God the celebration of ignorance, the obsession with looks and her going on about her tits all the time etc. drives me bananas'.
We all want to feel we are nice people and we all judge from our own values.
Andy STRIVES to be egalitarian and non judgemental, and fails. But he does actually try.
I also think he is increasingly aware of the dichotomy and has learned a bit about himself.
But it's sort of insurmountable for most of us. With age you get a bit more tolerant and understanding, perhaps, but it doesn't stop me, for example, despising some of the housemates. And when I try to be more understanding, it comes across as patronising even to me, when I'm just THINKING about it.
It's a state most of us live with.
It comes across as 'narcissistic' perhaps because we ALL want to think that what we think is correct - it's why we think it in the first place.
There are consistent saints and cynics out there as well though, I suppose.
That's different from obsession with physical appearance to an extreme degree.
I find Andy's efforts laudable. I find his irritation, understandable. He's seriously not perfect but he is very interesting, especially for BB.”
Thanks. Yours is a good post, which is probably like a kinder version of my own.
The only difference being is that you appear to believe that Andy is more self-reflective than I do.
Andy also serves a cautionary tale of the hypocrite. He's good to serve as a barometer for our own self-righteousness and whether we are able to question ourselves when we think we're always right.
I think his lowest point was probably just after his fiance entered the house, and just after many people thought he was all right after all he suddenly reverted back to being a complete snob again. That's why I don't think he's really learned anything about himself in terms of looking inwards.
I know that I'm starting to veer towards being harsh about him again so I'll need to add the disclaimer once more that I don't think he's that bad.
You also make a good point that wherever the discussion about Andy is concerned I don't think I ever recall it debasing itself to being about his appearance. Apart from of course the thread about which celebrity Andy looks like. At least it's always about how he acts or his character.
I actually think he's going to win the show. And I'm perfectly content with that.
He's been different enough, non-conformist enough, he's offered thoughts up which are worthy of discussion in their own right, and if he wasn't there even more housemates would appear to be too much of the same thing where they all think, act and speak in the same ways.
The way I'm describing him almost makes me look as though I'm a fan

, but the truth is that I aren't that keen on him as a person most of the time, and may like one or two others a little bit more as people. Not that I'm particularly a fan of any of them. I think those days are probably gone for me.
I do have to concede that when Andy says things which come across as arrogant or conceited about other housemates, I think it would be very difficult for me to not think the same way as he does if I was in there. Maybe the reality is simple, we're not all equal, even if people like Andy probably try to hold onto political beliefs which insist that we are, which contradict his personal feelings, and which occasionally slip out.
Maybe being a snob is something that most of us struggle not to be but at times we just are and can't help it.
I recognise what you're saying about your own tolerance being misconstrued as being patronising. That's definitely happened to me before on more than one occasion. Often it's other people's perception of you which is at fault. And on those occasions I suppose it's okay to call a spade a spade and recognise them for the idiot they're being. Like you say, at least Andy tries, which is more than can be said for most of these housemates who don't even think they have to bother at all.