Originally Posted by clippa:
“I wasn't using that as an insult. I genuinely think that this is him, right now, as a person. He is an empty vessel, lost, trying on different wafer-thin persona's in lue of a true personality. That's why I compared him to an immature 13 year old boy.
When I say that everything he does is contrived, I don't mean that he's a Machiavellian genius, I mean that he doesn't seem to have genuine emotions, everything is forced and stilted, he's playing the gangsta, he's playing the "genuine" forelock-tugging council estate everyman, he's playing at being in love.
Again, I'm not calling the bloke out as a fraud because I think this is genuinely who he is, he's emotionally stunted, he has no personality, he is lost inside himself.
It's the narcissism that makes me loathe him, all of the above would be forgiveable, even endearing without that sour flavour permeating the lot of it.
He reminds me of this kid I used to know who hung around at our school, he was 23 or something, used to hang around with this group of 13/14 year olds, I'd see him waiting for his 13 year old girlfriend outside at home time, bragging about how many blues and yellows he'd taken that day, speaking that same faux-gansta gibberish, laughing that same annoying laugh and making sure everyone knew that that wasn't just a rollie he was smoking.”
I honestly don't recognise Jackson in what you say here at all. I understand the type of person you are describing, but it surprises me if this is genuinely all you feel you have seen of him in the house. Clearly though, you are not alone.
Even for the kind of person you are talking about though... emotionally stunted, an empty vessel. You say you don't mean it as an insult but in that case, I am not sure what you do mean. The more you believe the negative things you state, the more insulting it is...
I don't think you can bring narcissism into it. Every single person without exception who is in the house now and who was there from day one of this year's Big Brother is not low on the narcissism scale. And I think there is an argument to say that nobody who has ever put themselves in the situation of entering the Big Brother house is genuinely low in this trait.
seether Thank you for your post. Made me feel a bit better as I wasn't sure I should reply to the topic.
Regarding acceptance, I first of all think housemates should only be judged on who they are inside the house.
To quote this bit from
Venetian:
Quote:
“when he tells us how attractive and successful he is with women and ashamedly talks about his career as a model”
I haven't heard a great deal of Jackson talking about being a model. What I have heard is always about it being something well in the past. In terms of with women, I'd say we've seen him flirty in there, but I would not say he's come across the way he implied in his VT. He hasn't tried anything with any of the other girls in there in a house where such matters were certainly at the fore this series and with Georgina he was like a little slave a lot of the time.
Andy also spoke of acceptance post his lollipop award. Is this more genuine just because we have seen a journey in terms of how Andy has been accepted inside and outside of the house? Do you not think one of the things likely to drive most people to enter the Big Brother house is a need and desire for acceptance? Of those left, Jason clearly needs it. Evelyn mentioned it in her BBBOTS speech before being cut off. Andy and Jackson have spoken of it. Hughie has also spoken of it. The only person who has not... and also the person remaining who I think is likely most secure in who she is is Jayne.
The truth of acceptance as I've experienced it is it is never really so important that other people accept you. Accepting yourself is what makes you grow. As you become more fully and more comfortable with yourself and with know who you are (and perhaps none of us ever fully do) the less other people's opinions of you matter to you. Of course it is also true that most people don't care that much who anyone else is. And so when we talk about hate in this thread and on this forum, we're not really talking
hate, we're just talking how some people are criticised more and can do no right in some people's eyes.
I do understand that once a person annoys you, they annoy you and that is just how it is. But I think it is a shame as I feel like overall, everyone barring Natalie has been on the whole nice this year.
Aaanyway, soon be over, folks!