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Old 17-12-2016, 12:33
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When aren't you pissed/tipsy/'merry'/'ished'?
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Old 17-12-2016, 12:41
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just different things

hate my body so much, want to hurt it

can't afford anything this year

family being homophobic

hate sex, don't want anything to do with it
Why do you hate it? What do you like about it?

I can't either, I spent all my pennies on my car last week. Had to cancel everything I had planned for last weekend and this! I hate money struggles and could quite easily just whack pressies for myself on the crefit card but I'd rather be miserable. Have you thought about making stuff?

You can't control your family. I didn't think you were gay but one of the biggest things in life we learn is that not everyone shares our opinion and sometimes people we love have the most ill thought opinions. You have two choices educate them on your opinion and teach them its not acceptable or ignore them and their opinions completely.

Actually third option throw your teddies out the pram and make it clear in a rant their views are outdated. Humilation will shut then up

Sex hmm I think one of the boys or Aaron might be best suited to this one but sex with the wrong person is awful. Sex with the right person or even with someone you have much lust, passion and chenistry with can be great. It is all trial and error and to be hobest you are only young gleeky and sex is not the be all and end all
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Old 17-12-2016, 12:42
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Straight back on it then?

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Old 17-12-2016, 12:50
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Why do you hate it? What do you like about it?

I can't either, I spent all my pennies on my car last week. Had to cancel everything I had planned for last weekend and this! I hate money struggles and could quite easily just whack pressies for myself on the crefit card but I'd rather be miserable. Have you thought about making stuff?

You can't control your family. I didn't think you were gay but one of the biggest things in life we learn is that not everyone shares our opinion and sometimes people we love have the most ill thought opinions. You have two choices educate them on your opinion and teach them its not acceptable or ignore them and their opinions completely.

Actually third option throw your teddies out the pram and make it clear in a rant their views are outdated. Humilation will shut then up

Sex hmm I think one of the boys or Aaron might be best suited to this one but sex with the wrong person is awful. Sex with the right person or even with someone you have much lust, passion and chenistry with can be great. It is all trial and error and to be hobest you are only young gleeky and sex is not the be all and end all

I hate it because it's ugly. My breasts are too small. People online said you're not a woman if your breasts are small. I don't think there's anything I like about it, my boyfriend always says he likes my eyes but there's nothing special about them.

At least a car is a good investment though. The only thing I can do is knit, but that's only good for my female relatives, of which I have only one (mother)

I'm not gay, I'm a straight girl (don't even feel like a girl) but I have gay friends and people I admire are gay, and their comments get right under my skin. I tried yesterday to educate them and for once I managed to say my points without getting upset. Didn't do any good though.

Yeah I haven't been able to catch the boys online to talk about it. Honestly it would take an essay to explain my complex about sex but I've really come to resent it. I was at a party yesterday and my female friends were asking me my opinion about sex and I don't want them to judge me.
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Old 17-12-2016, 13:01
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I hate it because it's ugly. My breasts are too small. People online said you're not a woman if your breasts are small. I don't think there's anything I like about it, my boyfriend always says he likes my eyes but there's nothing special about them.

At least a car is a good investment though. The only thing I can do is knit, but that's only good for my female relatives, of which I have only one (mother)

I'm not gay, I'm a straight girl (don't even feel like a girl) but I have gay friends and people I admire are gay, and their comments get right under my skin. I tried yesterday to educate them and for once I managed to say my points without getting upset. Didn't do any good though.

Yeah I haven't been able to catch the boys online to talk about it. Honestly it would take an essay to explain my complex about sex but I've really come to resent it. I was at a party yesterday and my female friends were asking me my opinion about sex and I don't want them to judge me.
Ok, I never said this but the pound shop and tat is your friend

Thats good, other peoples ill judged and ill thought out opinions shouldnt upset you, you probably wont change their opinions to be honest, I think sonetimes people espcially older generations stick to their thoughts that were very different to what we see now. Even when I was young homophobia was a lot worse than it is now, its a time thing peoples attitudes change and die out but those older generations die and so do their thoughts and younger generations like you will pass on openness and acceptance and eventually there wont be any homophobia or rascism or at least thats how it should work.

Narrow minds always stay narrow and open minds just need encouragement to stay open.

Like I say sex is not the be all but you need to find a way to not build it up into something because it will become an issue in the future. I hate talking about sex, I say I am a prude but I just laugh, joke and make flippant comments. Because of my slightly slaggy past people think I am a nymphomaniac and its all I think about. Its hard to change peoples perceptions

I forgot. Re your body dont read trash online and listen to your fella! Oh and I hate my boobs I want small ones, when I win the lottery I am going to have a breast reduction, first thing I would buy
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Old 17-12-2016, 13:08
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Ok, I never said this but the pound shop and tat is your friend

Thats good, other peoples ill judged and ill thought out opinions shouldnt upset you, you probably wont change their opinions to be honest, I think sonetimes people espcially older generations stick to their thoughts that were very different to what we see now. Even when I was young homophobia was a lot worse than it is now, its a time thing peoples attitudes change and die out but those older generations die and so do their thoughts and younger generations like you will pass on openness and acceptance and eventually there wont be any homophobia or rascism or at least thats how it should work.

Narrow minds always stay narrow and open minds just need encouragement to stay open.

Like I say sex is not the be all but you need to find a way to not build it up into something because it will become an issue in the future. I hate talking about sex, I say I am a prude but I just laugh, joke and make flippant comments. Because of my slightly slaggy past people think I am a nymphomaniac and its all I think about. Its hard to change peoples perceptions

I forgot. Re your body dont read trash online and listen to your fella! Oh and I hate my boobs I want small ones, when I win the lottery I am going to have a breast reduction, first thing I would buy
oh yeah, i didn't think of that

It does give me some reassurance to think that these ideas will eventually die out, and makes sense given my dad is almost sixty, however my brother is only mid-thirties.

Sadly I think I have already built it up into something, as it's making me really upset. I feel like it's acceptable to feel this way when you're younger, for example like Bex in Eastenders, but I'm 19. It's true what you said about changing the way people see you, I dread to know how people see me. The words "sexless freak" come to mind, though I think that's from The Simpsons

It's funny how we always wish our body was like someone else's. I'd love a breast enlargement, or just to cut them off altogether because I have a fear of breast cancer.
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Old 17-12-2016, 13:16
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Straight back on it then?

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On it like a car bonnet! I'll be dead by 2nd January
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Old 17-12-2016, 13:45
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Blood still stains when the sheets are washed

Sex don't sleep when the lights are off

Kids are still depressed when you dress them up

And syrup is still syrup in a sippy cup
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Old 17-12-2016, 18:27
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Sadly I think I have already built it up into something, as it's making me really upset. I feel like it's acceptable to feel this way when you're younger, for example like Bex in Eastenders, but I'm 19. It's true what you said about changing the way people see you, I dread to know how people see me. The words "sexless freak" come to mind, though I think that's from The Simpsons
And although they won't admit, there will still be lots of people in the same position as you.

I went through a similar experience to you, when I was growing up and realised I was gay, I didn't exactly warm to the sexual experience I would have to face. There's a lot of pressure, especially in the gay community, to be seen as very sexually active, and those who aren't feel alienated and lonely. I know I did.

All I would say is only you know when you are ready, and that's fine. Try and ignore other people and what they think, at the end of the day, who cares? It's what works for you. And make sure when it does happen, it is someone you definitely want to do it with. That's very important for your outlook during the rest of your life.

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Old 17-12-2016, 19:41
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And although they won't admit, there will still be lots of people in the same position as you.

I went through a similar experience to you, when I was growing up and realised I was gay, I didn't exactly warm to the sexual experience I would have to face. There's a lot of pressure, especially in the gay community, to be seen as very sexually active, and those who aren't feel alienated and lonely. I know I did.

All I would say is only you know when you are ready, and that's fine. Try and ignore other people and what they think, at the end of the day, who cares? It's what works for you. And make sure when it does happen, it is someone you definitely want to do it with. That's very important for your outlook during the rest of your life.

Hi Ricky It's always good to know that I'm not the only one. I'm so confused right now, I don't really know what I want. It's so hard to ignore other people because I always feel like they are the authority. The media has made it quite clear that my body does not look like how it should do, and I'm not as sexual as I should be. But the problem is I'm too much of a wimp to kill myself, so I'm stuck really.

I don't like to admit this because I really do love him but I'm not sure my current boyfriend is who I want to do it with. I think I've gone far enough with him to know that. I enjoy other things we do, though.
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Old 17-12-2016, 19:42
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And although they won't admit, there will still be lots of people in the same position as you.

I went through a similar experience to you, when I was growing up and realised I was gay, I didn't exactly warm to the sexual experience I would have to face. There's a lot of pressure, especially in the gay community, to be seen as very sexually active, and those who aren't feel alienated and lonely. I know I did.

All I would say is only you know when you are ready, and that's fine. Try and ignore other people and what they think, at the end of the day, who cares? It's what works for you. And make sure when it does happen, it is someone you definitely want to do it with. That's very important for your outlook during the rest of your life.

BIB I agree Rick. The pressures of the gay community to be an utter slapper is outrageous, I felt the same when young. Considering my age I have had very few sexual partners and do not desire to have lots of notches on the bed post, unfortunately some people seem to think that is the point of being gay. And that's from within the community. It's a matter of being confident in your own choices, and confident in your own freedom of thought, however, for most that doesn't come easily and I continue every day trying to master it. Be the shepherd not the sheep.

Good post Rick.

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Old 17-12-2016, 20:15
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BIB I agree Rick. The pressures of the gay community to be an utter slapper is outrageous, I felt the same when young. Considering my age I have had very few sexual partners and do not desire to have lots of notches on the bed post, unfortunately some people seem to think that is the point of being gay. And that's from within the community. It's a matter of being confident in your own choices, and confident in your own freedom of thought, however, for most that doesn't come easily and I continue every day trying to master it. Be the shepherd not the sheep.

Good post Rick.

Thanks
Notches on the bedpost are meaningless mate.

One thousand or none - if anybody gay or straight is lucky to find a truly loving partner (at any age) then that is all that matters.

As for you Gleeky you will eventually find your path - I am sure of it. XXX
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Old 17-12-2016, 20:23
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Notches on the bedpost are meaningless mate.

One thousand or none - if anybody gay or straight is lucky to find a truly loving partner (at any age) then that is all that matters.

As for you Gleeky you will eventually find your path - I am sure of it. XXX
I hope so
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Old 17-12-2016, 21:08
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I'm afraid you won't get a serious comment out of me, I've been too nice today

But don't worry Gleek, I'll marry you!
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Old 17-12-2016, 21:13
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I'm afraid you won't get a serious comment out of me, I've been too nice today

But don't worry Gleek, I'll marry you!
why what you been nice? Is something wrong?

But gleeky wants a nice boy who won't cheat on her with men
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Old 17-12-2016, 21:15
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why what you been nice? Is something wrong?

But gleeky wants a nice boy who won't cheat on her with men
Lol everyone would cheat on me

Luckily I already have a nice Peruvian boy
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Old 17-12-2016, 21:16
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I'm afraid you won't get a serious comment out of me, I've been too nice today

But don't worry Gleek, I'll marry you!
Thanks but you're not American
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Old 17-12-2016, 21:37
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No hangover today though #LikeABoss
Peasant.

why what you been nice? Is something wrong?

But gleeky wants a nice boy who won't cheat on her with men
Got to be nice, it's Christmas ennit.

Well it's a good thing I offered and not one of the other two Musketeers aka Grad or Atti.

Lol everyone would cheat on me

Luckily I already have a nice Peruvian boy
Don't put yourself down

Peruvian to match your Latvian <3 (I'M SORRY OKAY)

Thanks but you're not American
Neither is Bill.
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Old 17-12-2016, 21:42
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Well it's a good thing I offered and not one of the other two Musketeers aka Grad or Atti.



Don't put yourself down

Peruvian to match your Latvian <3 (I'M SORRY OKAY)



Neither is Bill.
It's okay

Well technically he is, as he's South American

Somehow I don't think Grad or Atti would marry me, but they are my brothers
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Old 17-12-2016, 21:49
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Somehow I don't think Grad or Atti would marry me, but they are my brothers
But so am I...
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Old 17-12-2016, 22:07
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Lol everyone would cheat on me

Luckily I already have a nice Peruvian boy
Iv been cheated on, the first, it was long distance and she was a work colleague, she made it obvious when I met her , the second was married and not single!, the third just thought he was single cos he forgot to dump me how he is still alive I have no idea

I have never cheated on a fella, however I did sleep with a few friends of my ex including his best friend repeatedly . I have knowingly had affairs/flings/ONS's with married and attached men oops
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Old 17-12-2016, 22:08
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Just cos it's christmas you don't have to be nice Danny.

I put up some of my christmas decorations today. i had bought a pack of ten batteries and they are all gone 😲 Its like blackpool flaming illuminations 😂😂
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Old 17-12-2016, 22:11
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oh yeah but at least you are straight so it makes a bit more sense, if not much
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Old 17-12-2016, 22:12
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Iv been cheated on, the first, it was long distance and she was a work colleague, she made it obvious when I met her , the second was married and not single!, the third just thought he was single cos he forgot to dump me how he is still alive I have no idea

I have never cheated on a fella, however I did sleep with a few friends of my ex including his best friend repeatedly . I have knowingly had affairs/flings/ONS's with married and attached men oops
I'm sorry they did that to you

We all have a past I suppose!
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Old 17-12-2016, 22:18
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I'm sorry they did that to you

We all have a past I suppose!
That we do! Its funny how the second two who cheated, the married one and my last fella both I met on the internet! I have had other internet dates in between them but
I find that you don't really know who you are meeting. All my other encounters have been men I know, know of or are friends of friends. Apart from some of the ONS's they were just attractive men I pulled in various clubs here and abroad

We do all have a past and we all think similar things some of what you said earlier I know I think it at times and so do friends. Comparing yourself to others is not good

I might have been sorry they did it at the time but its all part of learning and getting life experience. I can sniff out married men so easily now
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