Originally Posted by Aimee:
“Nope, he was joking.
Seriously, it was a joke.
Please understand this.”
“Nope, he was joking.
Seriously, it was a joke.
Please understand this.”
There is a time and a place for "jokes" of that nature. Aiming such jokes towards victims of continuous sexual harassment is not appropriate in any way.
As I said, he COULD have aimed the joke at the perpetrator i.e. Heavy D. It would have been far more satirical AND a direct dig at Heavy if he said "Heavy D, would you like to wipe my bum?" as that would have made it a "taste of your own medicine" type of joke.
Instead he continued to make the women the subject of demeaning behaviour by aiming his request at them. If he wanted to "lighten the mood" he should have completely left them out of it.
That is what makes the "joke" more than just a joke and a tacit form of bullying.
The only way you can seriously tackle bullying is to make EVERYBODY involved accountable, not just the ring leaders.
Sometimes the outsiders who tacitly join in the main bully don't even realise what they're doing is harmful. That doesn't mean they should just get away with it. They need to know why their behaviour is wrong.




oh dear.