Originally Posted by PotNoodleMonkey:
“I think Lewis, Marnie, and Chloe all display the typical narcissistic traits found in reality tv 'stars' who get ahead in the game - self-absorbed, never my fault, lack of self-awareness. The only intelligence narcissists display, imo, is that of manipulation, because they'll navigate life in a way that will always be of benefit to themselves. But, Bear is way out there with these traits by a thousand kilometres and a fully fledged malignant narcissist, imo. He lacks incredible empathy and ADORES being at the centre of all dramas BECAUSE it places him at the centre of it all.
You could see the clear enjoyment he got from hurting Heavy D (who at the time was supposed to be his mate and in his group) and just couldn't help himself by strutting over to his bed and placing his foot on the frame - a typical territorial move that enraged Heavy D, understandably. He enjoyed sticking the knife into Renee's back. Also, he is using Chloe in this emotional chess game to gain higher ground. But, she's to dumb to see. Another thing with these kind of narcissists, they will not think twice in throwing a mate or a family member under the bus as long as they gain the higher ground, i.e. Lewis? He enjoys degrading women or keeping them down a peg or two so he can feel superior - although he clearly shits himself around Renee
One of the driving forces of these kinds of personalities is, other than the need to feel they are way better than EVERYBODY on planet earth, is their emotional reaction to being hurt even when they are usually the one in the wrong. They won't go away and re-evaluate their behavior, talk it through, find a compromise, etc like a well-adjusted adult. Their modus Operandi is revenge and to get that revenge quickly and Bear has shown this throughout. When he hurts people, he gives an insincere apology and basically tells those he's hurt to get over it. But when he gets hurt at the slightest of things - he's plannning his attack from the get-go. He is like the eternal rain cloud of negative doom and pulsates with internal poisons of which he projects it all back out on to other people because he is a deeply inadequate emotional individual. Yeah, I wouldn't trust anyone either if all I saw was my ugly, narcisissistic, conniving self in others, which he's unable to see. He thinks it's their traits and they have to prove him otherwise - but he will manipulate a situation to prove he is right. All the time.
His reaction to being nominated week-in, week-out was of absolute shock and disgust and lacked such severe self-awareness he could neither comprehend where it all came from or get a hold on his emotional melt-down and tried to hide it with a pathetic display of overt masculine strutting and gobbing off, which actually made him look worse. When he said to Frankie for everybody who voted him out that they should just ignore him - I can only hope half the house would keep him at his word. Because I guarantee you, a narcissist like him, that would be the last thing he wants. To be ignored is a fate worse than death - They would just dry up and die. He will go out of his way to cause malignant drama as usual because in his ****ed up emotional world, that keeps him relevant. He cares for nobody's feelings but his own.
And you can NEVER cure a narcisissist. EVER. There is nothing wrong with them. It is all of us who are ****ed in the head and if our feelings get hurt dealing with them? Tough. You don't matter and as long as you understand that and realise you exist for their emotional abuse, life is dandy. Like the saying goes; Neurotics make their own lives a misery. Narcissists just make everybody else miserable. He may be on our screens for a potential 3 more weeks, but I feel very sorry for everybody who will have the deep misfortune of being in his life from here-on-in, because these people get worse as they get older.
One of the worst housemates ever, imo. Just because he acts like an overgrown, spiteful baby having a tantrum and we're talking about it, does not make him entertaining. He is drowning out everybody else's capacity to be shown or heard and we are left to judge their behaviour in reaction to his own.
The boy seriously needs to wean himself off his mother's tit and get himself on solids because when full grown men act like this it really pisses me off to the point of anger. And I hate it that we live in a society that rewards behaviour like this. It really is the dreggs of entertainment, tbh.
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“I think Lewis, Marnie, and Chloe all display the typical narcissistic traits found in reality tv 'stars' who get ahead in the game - self-absorbed, never my fault, lack of self-awareness. The only intelligence narcissists display, imo, is that of manipulation, because they'll navigate life in a way that will always be of benefit to themselves. But, Bear is way out there with these traits by a thousand kilometres and a fully fledged malignant narcissist, imo. He lacks incredible empathy and ADORES being at the centre of all dramas BECAUSE it places him at the centre of it all.
You could see the clear enjoyment he got from hurting Heavy D (who at the time was supposed to be his mate and in his group) and just couldn't help himself by strutting over to his bed and placing his foot on the frame - a typical territorial move that enraged Heavy D, understandably. He enjoyed sticking the knife into Renee's back. Also, he is using Chloe in this emotional chess game to gain higher ground. But, she's to dumb to see. Another thing with these kind of narcissists, they will not think twice in throwing a mate or a family member under the bus as long as they gain the higher ground, i.e. Lewis? He enjoys degrading women or keeping them down a peg or two so he can feel superior - although he clearly shits himself around Renee
One of the driving forces of these kinds of personalities is, other than the need to feel they are way better than EVERYBODY on planet earth, is their emotional reaction to being hurt even when they are usually the one in the wrong. They won't go away and re-evaluate their behavior, talk it through, find a compromise, etc like a well-adjusted adult. Their modus Operandi is revenge and to get that revenge quickly and Bear has shown this throughout. When he hurts people, he gives an insincere apology and basically tells those he's hurt to get over it. But when he gets hurt at the slightest of things - he's plannning his attack from the get-go. He is like the eternal rain cloud of negative doom and pulsates with internal poisons of which he projects it all back out on to other people because he is a deeply inadequate emotional individual. Yeah, I wouldn't trust anyone either if all I saw was my ugly, narcisissistic, conniving self in others, which he's unable to see. He thinks it's their traits and they have to prove him otherwise - but he will manipulate a situation to prove he is right. All the time.
His reaction to being nominated week-in, week-out was of absolute shock and disgust and lacked such severe self-awareness he could neither comprehend where it all came from or get a hold on his emotional melt-down and tried to hide it with a pathetic display of overt masculine strutting and gobbing off, which actually made him look worse. When he said to Frankie for everybody who voted him out that they should just ignore him - I can only hope half the house would keep him at his word. Because I guarantee you, a narcissist like him, that would be the last thing he wants. To be ignored is a fate worse than death - They would just dry up and die. He will go out of his way to cause malignant drama as usual because in his ****ed up emotional world, that keeps him relevant. He cares for nobody's feelings but his own.
And you can NEVER cure a narcisissist. EVER. There is nothing wrong with them. It is all of us who are ****ed in the head and if our feelings get hurt dealing with them? Tough. You don't matter and as long as you understand that and realise you exist for their emotional abuse, life is dandy. Like the saying goes; Neurotics make their own lives a misery. Narcissists just make everybody else miserable. He may be on our screens for a potential 3 more weeks, but I feel very sorry for everybody who will have the deep misfortune of being in his life from here-on-in, because these people get worse as they get older.
One of the worst housemates ever, imo. Just because he acts like an overgrown, spiteful baby having a tantrum and we're talking about it, does not make him entertaining. He is drowning out everybody else's capacity to be shown or heard and we are left to judge their behaviour in reaction to his own.
The boy seriously needs to wean himself off his mother's tit and get himself on solids because when full grown men act like this it really pisses me off to the point of anger. And I hate it that we live in a society that rewards behaviour like this. It really is the dreggs of entertainment, tbh.
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Great post. Covered everything and eloquently put.
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if you read back to what you were referring to , thanks again.
