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Old 07-08-2016, 13:40
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She's just so full on with her opinions!

She literally gets on a rant and doesn't take breath, smothering people in her opinion. She leans forward and cranes her neck almost badgering people until they submit.

I actually laughed out loud watching talking 'with' (at) Boar on the LF. And she's adopted this whole 'I couldn't f***ing believe it' thing of getting at least one swear word in every sentence to fit in. Smoking too.

I do feel a bit sorry for her, the desperation is almost palpable but she's got a weird way of interacting with people. I thought Renee had a good handle on her in their exchange.

At least with Saira she'll listen to other's opinions, she won't take it on board, agree or validate but she'll at least stop talking long enough to hear it.
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Old 07-08-2016, 13:42
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with a barge pole
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Old 07-08-2016, 13:43
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with a barge pole
Beat me to it

Or with an electric cattle prod
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Old 07-08-2016, 13:51
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Hope Bear wins.
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Old 07-08-2016, 13:53
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You two are quite similar I see, I understand why you want him to win.
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Old 07-08-2016, 14:01
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There you go with the insults again. tut tut



You two are quite similar I see, I understand why you want him to win.
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Old 07-08-2016, 14:04
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There you go with the insults again. tut tut
Lol, very similar. Keeps you busy I suppose. Good luck to ya, I say!
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Old 07-08-2016, 14:05
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You should stick to posting about BB, not me personally btw.

Have a read of the rules.

Lol, very similar. Keeps you busy I suppose. Good luck to ya, I say!
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Old 07-08-2016, 14:07
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With kid gloves, I feel sorry for her husband.
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Old 07-08-2016, 14:07
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You should stick to posting about BB, not me personally btw.

Have a read of the rules.
Good luck to ya, I say!
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Old 07-08-2016, 14:08
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Like most very opinionated people, she just needs to have her views questioned in a calm and reasonable manner.

Shout and get annoyed and she'll give the same back, even when she knows that her views are dubious. She's like a little terrier. Speak to her calmly and you'll get the same back.

She is a perfect case study of transactional analysis. She swaps between all four of the adult / child states (in fact she can move between all four in the course of one conversation) and just needs to be brought into the adult.

She's an intelligent woman, and there's nothing wrong with having strong opinions, but her insecurities push her into the wrong reactions.
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Old 07-08-2016, 14:08
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With kid gloves, I feel sorry for her husband.
I said that a while back. Saw a bit of an interview with him, he seemed alright. He's obviously a much more tolerant man than I
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Old 07-08-2016, 14:12
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Like most very opinionated people, she just needs to have her views questioned in a calm and reasonable manner.

Shout and get annoyed and she'll give the same back, even when she knows that her views are dubious. She's like a little terrier. Speak to her calmly and you'll get the same back.

She is a perfect case study of transactional analysis. She swaps between all four of the adult / child states (in fact she can move between all four in the course of one conversation) and just needs to be brought into the adult.

She's an intelligent woman, and there's nothing wrong with having strong opinions, but her insecurities push her into the wrong reactions.
Pretty fair, she's still very reluctant to take any criticism on board and is still trying to find her place in the house. She really wanted to prove her knowledge in the early stages forgetting that others have opinions too. I think Renee was right, you can't force your views on others and make them believe you're right and they're wrong. Life takes a bit more subtlety than that
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Old 07-08-2016, 14:14
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I would just talk to her the way I would anyone else. I don't see her as being particularly difficult to handle, unlike many of the others. I wouldn't necessarily agree with her views, but that's OK. I wouldn't shout and scream, so neither would she. I don't think we would be best pals, I don't think I would confide in her, but I think I could probably tolerate her.
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Old 07-08-2016, 14:17
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I would just talk to her the way I would anyone else. I don't see her as being particularly difficult to handle, unlike many of the others. I wouldn't necessarily agree with her views, but that's OK. I wouldn't shout and scream, so neither would she. I don't think we would be best pals, I don't think I would confide in her, but I think I could probably tolerate her.
I feel like I'd struggle to get a word in, let alone get her to consider my position! I definitely wouldn't confide in her! LOL
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Old 07-08-2016, 14:18
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Pretty fair, she's still very reluctant to take any criticism on board and is still trying to find her place in the house. She really wanted to prove her knowledge in the early stages forgetting that others have opinions too. I think Renee was right, you can't force your views on others and make them believe you're right and they're wrong. Life takes a bit more subtlety than that
Very much agree with what you say.

With regards to finding her place in the house, she is actually most akin to Heavy D in that they are both desperately seeking approval and have a need to belong. She knows that Renee is the alpha female and that she can't challenge her.I feel that this is why she is now trying to align herself with Bear, who is perceived as "top dog" mainly because he's so volatile and scares the pants of all the HMs, whereas in real life she wouldn't have anything do with him, in fact would actively avoid him.
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Old 07-08-2016, 14:21
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I feel like I'd struggle to get a word in, let alone get her to consider my position! I definitely wouldn't confide in her! LOL
Thee best way to talk to someone like that is to speak very quietly. Their response will subconsciously be to lower their voice too and when people have to strain to hear you then they listen more.
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Old 07-08-2016, 14:28
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I like Saira but definitely prudent to wear some protective gloves just up until youd properly tamed her. Once tamed i suspect shed make a devoted and caring friend as witnessed by her gravitating to bear and the strong friendship they are developing after a rocky start..
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Old 07-08-2016, 14:32
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I like Saira but definitely prudent to wear some protective gloves just up until youd properly tamed her. Once tamed i suspect shed make a devoted and caring friend as witnessed by her gravitating to bear and the strong friendship they are developing after a rocky start..
I think you could be right but having exclusive information would be too enticing for her. I'd never feel like I could trust someone like that. I don't think she's forming a strong friendship with Boar, it's an awkward alliance borne out of necessity. They're conversations are quite clunky but they're both working hard to make it happen. They both need allies at this point.
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Old 07-08-2016, 15:07
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Bose Noise Reduction headphones.

I can't stand that intense Head of Year way in which she talks to people.
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Old 07-08-2016, 15:29
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How would i handle Saira?

I'd keep away from her...same with Bear.
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Old 07-08-2016, 16:38
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I'd turn my back and walk away while she was mid flow.
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Old 07-08-2016, 17:56
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I would be fuming on the inside, and avoid her as much as possible. If she still came at me like she has Chloe in that bath scene, I would let her spew herself out, stare blankly, and then when she was fully done ask if it was my turn. Once I had an opening, I'd dead-face, super calmly tell her that I appreciate her opinion, but have a different one, and we will have to agree to disagree. Then I would WALK AWAY from her while she chased after me like a screaming banshee. You can't win with people like that by actually discussing something. They're not open for any opinion but their own. Why waste your breath.
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Old 07-08-2016, 18:20
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I was a bit annoyed that Chloe didn't tell her to get lost whilst she was in the bath, to me Saira just hung over her and wouldn't let up. I would've just politely () told her to leave whilst I was having a relaxing bath time.
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Old 07-08-2016, 18:22
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I would thank her for being a good H/M unlike a handful of the others that contribute nothing to the show.
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